My bf and i split months ago and i am not yet fully over him. Recently i've been seeing this guy but he sometimes seems into me then others he seems really half-assed and it gets on my nerves and i find myself wondering what he wants from me, as a result it puts me off, as lately i feel nothing but disappointment from guys, i feel like if i don't date anyone anytime soon i'll never get over my ex, and then i am happy to be single too, if you've ever been in my situation before what happened? Should i bother fighting for a relo that is so new already?
2007-09-09 20:48:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you were in my situation what would you do? I really need advice, thank you.
2007-09-09 20:54:01 · update #1
I WAS in your situation. Experience says the best thing you can possibly do for yourself is take some time off from dating. Be by yourself, discover who YOU are, and learn to appreciate your life and yourself without a man. When you are more than content being single, then you are ready for a relationship.
2007-09-09 21:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by missmuffin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I broke up with my ex 2 years ago in July 05, I was so depressed and just like you I felt the only way to get over him was to see someone else. Well...obviously it never ends up like that and seeing one guy turned into seeing a whole bunch of guys and still not being happy with myself. I would go to nightclubs and give myself away for kisses and numbers but it amounted to nothing but more and more unhappiness.
The rejection actually feels worse than the sadness of not being with your ex.
I stopped doing that and my way of getting over him was to find something you want, a goal, and work towards doing it. It can be anything, from learning to draw, to losing weight or like I did, I planned a massive trip overseas. The fact that I went overseas for 8 months really helped in getting over him cause I couldn't see him and never spoke to him, and also the planning for the goal and doing it also really helps to take your mind of him. I really recommend taking up something like drawing or painting. Its so therapeutic and it helps feel at ease with yourself.
I really recommend going to an art shop and jut buying a learning to draw book, a scrapbook, some nice pencils and even one of those little figurine dudes.
When I came back from overseas I was a completely different person and straight away I met someone and we have been together for just under a year. It shows that time really heals the process and you really need to just let time show itself. In the meantime like I said, do something to make that time seem better. Reach for a goal. If all else fails you will have pretty pictures on your walls :)
2007-09-10 04:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by kateawoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my BF split up 5 month ago, we'd been together for 2 year.
I know what you mean about feeling disappointment from guys, you meet someone and you think 'yeah Im finally moving on' but they just turn out to be D*ckheads.
I dont think I want a full on relationship with someone, but I do miss the company of a BF.
I think it will get easier with time or after you've maybe dated a few guys, but dont give up on men, but dont go out looking for a replacement BF cos it doesnt always work like that.
x
2007-09-10 03:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me over a year to start dating again. There is no rush. When you are ready, you will know. If he is not treating you like you want to be treated, just tell him that you think that it is best that you not see each other again. You are probably just pushing yourself too soon. It is easier to date again after you have felt closure on you previous relationship. That often takes time.
2007-09-10 03:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you r not over ur bf yet you are seeing this new guy, it could be he is a rebound.
take some time off being single and get to know yourself before getting into a new r'ship. what may happen is when yu really know urself, only then you will be able to find a propoer guy to be with.
you need not get into r'ships to get over ur guy. you could maybe pick up a new hobby or hang out more with you friends and family.
=)
2007-09-10 03:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by thiraonthenet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont force yourself onto someone just b\c you want to get over your ex.
If you want to get over your ex you have to face it, take the time to heal and let time do its thing b\c believe me forcing yourself b\c thats what your doing is not gonna help you get over your ex b\c then your gonna start comparing him if not already to your ex and then your gonna get pissed off at guys like you are already and that'll explain why you think every other guy is a disappointment trust me I went thru I did everything that your doing now and it doesnt work believe me it took me 4 yrs to get over some jerk who played me for a fool and I tried to hide it by dating other guys but believe me it haunts you later on but now that Ive gave myself time thats 4yrs I finally met someone who changed my view on men and I think now that not all men are like the so called jerk I thought was amazing. There are genuine men out there.And he makes me happy and I couldnt be happier.I'll love him always.
You will get over your ex all in good time for the time being just enjoy being single hang out with friends take up new hobbies and let love find you.
Good luck!
2007-09-10 03:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by InfirithielTyler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth is.. and u might not be able to handle the truth.. but your a girl with a (you know what) there are way way way way more fish in the sea.. that would die to be with you.. and thats the truth.. nice guys too
2007-09-10 03:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by mac meeeezzzzzzz f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋