me and my bf had been going out for a year and all of a sudden a couple of days ago he said that he didn't like me anymore. he acted like he didn't care about my feelings or anything. could this happen over night or does he still have a little bit of feelings left?
btw, i'm not asking this becuase i want 2 get back 2gether.
2007-09-09 18:42:25 · 22 answers · asked by ♥nikki♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
O.K. Nikki, did anything serious happen to bring this on i.e. a fight? If not learn from this jerk. He played you girl, maybe he needs to be single to have a shot at someone else? The point is, someone who is supposed to care for you just doesn't treat you like garbage. My advice? Hasta
Lavista, Baby! Good Luck!!!!!
2007-09-09 18:49:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he stopped liking u for a while ago, u just didn't notice it. maybe u did smth. so after u did smth he started watching u closely, finding more and more negative about u. and a ffew days ago he decided that there is nothing he likes in u left. he doesn't have any feelings, men usually are reluctantg to part with a woman they had or a while, unless everything is completely over. women can sometimes act on an impulse or being histaerical. men usually don't do that. first they think then they talk
2007-09-09 18:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
him being a guy and doesn't know how to communicate well socially make this sudden breakup his way of dealing with the breaking up process. he doesn't know how you would react and he's scared to deal with the aftermath, so just like some/many inexperienced guys, he just runs away from it.
my bet is that he's probably been thinking of breaking up for some time now but didn't show it or tell you, till now. what makes him to decide to break up now than any time before is probably just him working up the courage to do so. understandably, the whole breaking up process and rejections are very gloomy and unpleasant, so he doesn't want to deal with that, no one would. But his approach maybe lacked tact and maturity in handling the situation, or showing you any courtesy.
or if the one year relationship was somewhat or arguably non-serious, then he's only being a sexually active promiscuous male mate. in that case, it would explain his lack of emotions or reactions to your reaction to the breakup.
another reason why he might have picked now than any time before is that there could be a new potential gf who's pressuring him to break it off with you asap. or he's pressuring himself to break it off with you asap because of a new potential gf he wants to be with.
reading this, you would be very upset. and you're entitled to be upset. but what can you do to fix it? can't really force someone to like you or love you. so just learn from this experience for future's sake and know what caused the breakup. and i don't mean couple days ago, i mean the things in the relationship between you two overtime that have made him think about breaking up all this time.
as for the feelings, yea he probably does still have feelings for you. we're all human. we're all emotional. just some show it while others hide it or channel it in other ways.
2007-09-09 19:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows better, probably He has reasons, what did He say? Did anything happen recently? Sometimes people have a fight inside, they aren't sure about their feelings and suddenly they realize and decide, but still it can be just a temporary decision and may change.
Anyways, if you care about him, you can talk to him and try to solve the problems, if he doesn't wanna answer, that's fine, let him go, there are lots of guys out there,
If you don't care about him, good luck.
2007-09-09 18:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by albandazole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he acting completly diffrent towards you? If thats the cause then yes it can happen over night, but only case he may have lost intrest in you or he might have sparked some other feeling with someother girl, or he could have actually just lost intrest, the best thing you can do i to ask him what he thinks about it.
2007-09-09 18:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. RiGhT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His hostility toward you is his guilt for cheating. It did not happen overnight he is not a man he has to project his anger on you because he is unable to tell you the truth. That he has another. You are seeking answers because it does not make sense and because I am sure you have been true and your heart hurts. However, everything happens for a reason. Move on because he was not the right one and he showed you that so go find him now. Good luck.
2007-09-09 18:51:15 · answer #6 · answered by Darkchild 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not overnight, but you might want to evaluate what you've done throughout the relationship. Were you too possessive? Did you have high expectations?
I realize that girls tend to compare their boyfriends when they get together with other girls and this can increase their expectations on what their boyfriends should do. It puts pressures on the guys, so they might not be able to take it and decide to end the relationship.
2007-09-09 18:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by Steven Prasetya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 04:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by newcomer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's attempting to break the relationship off as cleanly as possible because he still has feelings for you. If he doesn't cut you off 100% he's afraid he might get mixed up in confusing emotions.
The logic here is that he has to hit you hard and fast so hopefully you won't feel any feelings for him and in turn act upon those feelins....which would make it even more difficult for him.
Am I making sense?
Reread it again, I think you'll find my answer helpful.
Best wishes
2007-09-09 18:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by vthokie4ever 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's no way he could have made up his mind so quickly, unless he's been seeing someone already and she gave him the command to break up with you or she'd take off.
If he's acting like he doesn't care and whatnot, he HAS to have something to be taking his mind off of you, so it may be another girl.
Most probably is.
Sorry hun.
2007-09-09 18:49:00 · answer #10 · answered by w.oofie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋