I have a new girl friend. She devorced not long ago
We came to like each other, already had sexual realationship. Recently we decided to live together .
Accidentally I found her ex husband photo on her bag,She is still keeping it. sometimes somebody called her mobile she didint want to talk beside me.I became jealous.
Last night we had an arguement, cuz it happened again .She told me it was nobody.But I couldnt believe her.I was pretty uncomfortable.
But now I think
anyway we are not married even if she meets somebody else why do I have to care ?Our sex is still great I can sleep feeling her warm body,Isnt it enough for me?
But I cant stant it if she cheats on me. Agony remains in my heart.
I dont believe her words maybe she told the truth.
I cant say I love her but so involved emotionally and physically.I feel an agony
2007-09-09 18:10:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In order to trust someone, u need to trust yourself.. Deep, down if u feel that she's cheating emotionally, then trust yourself. U guys, do leave with each other and everything is 50/50 finacally, emotionally, and physically. Right? Let it play for a couple of months and u will see. Meanwhile, try to trust her, treat her good, and don't ask, just watch....let me, know how it turn out...good luck..
2007-09-11 11:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by camille 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said she's a "New Girlfriend".
Well, you are right.
She is so new that you didn't leave a chance to get to know the real her. We all put up fronts and facades in hopes they will purchase a good, but not entirely truthful first impression.
But not all is lost--now you DO know more.
You now know...
she's likes having sex with people she doesn't know very well
she's keeping hopes of a husband in her future (the ex, not U)
she has a private life that doen't include you (phone calls)
she's truthful only when it serves her and is convienent (phone call was "nobody")
She "fits" you into her life only as you are useful to her (won't talk beside you)
But then, on the other hand, what incentives are there to put into a relationship where the other says, "why do I have to care? Our sex is still great I can sleep feeling her warm body,Isnt it enough for me?"
Maybe she is smarter than first appears.
2007-09-10 01:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is something you really want, otherwise agony would not be an issue here.
Newly divorced, And moving in with someone? Honey that ain't good.
Trust you'r instincts!
The sex would be better without the agony, She's moving too fast for a newly divorced gal and you feel this.
Sex and trust go hand in hand, nomatter how hard the media such as trash movies etc would like you to think. This arangement is not fitting for you nomatter how good the sex is at the current moment, Lack of trust will tear this up eventually.
2007-09-10 01:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking it DOES matter. Otherwise, there's agony, like you are feeling. Not being able to trust the one you're with is awful. I don't know the nature of your relationship, but if you're living together and having sex, it must be kind of like bf/gf? I don't know you, but i know i am not content with just having them by my side at night and having great sex. I need trust, respect and love.
Analize what you feel and what you want. Do you want an exclusive relationship with her? Are you going to allow her being with others, or still caring too much about her ex? If you want a deeper relationship you should talk to her.
If you want to keep it 'free' then just let everything you mentioned here slide off of you. But it seems like you DO care more than just 'great sex'.
2007-09-10 01:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST ALL TRUST IS IMPORTANT.2-SHE STLL HAVE THING IN HER MIND THAT SHE ISNT FINISH IN THE PAST REALSHIP,DID SHE GIVE TIME TO HEAL PAST REALSHIPWITH EX-HUSBAND TAKE TIME SOME TIME YRS,SHE FIRST NEED FIND HER SELF BEFORE GO DEEP ITO REALSHIP WITH YOU,I KNOW FEEL FOR HER SHE LIKE NOT HEAL YET,STEP BACK LITTLE ASK DO NEED TIME HEAL FROM EX-HUSAND,KNOW COULD BE REBOUND REALSHIPSOME POEE CANT BE LONE.
2007-09-10 01:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by DREAMER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont trust her, because she is keeping things from you. Is that only obvious to ME. she cannot be trusted, move on or suffer on. she wont change. she has no respect for you. she thinks you are stupid, desperate and needy. Be a man, and leave, find an honest partner.
2007-09-10 01:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by mikebloke3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry if you dont want any other lady then just trust her --- yes she may have feelings for her ex -- i know i do --- im not about to go chasing after her again nor is she going to chase after me its over --- your lady is with you NOT with anyone else --- so trust her and stop feeling jealous (easier said than done i suspect) because if you dont trust her sooner or later she will cheat
2007-09-10 01:20:49 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant trust some one u only knew for a while
2007-09-10 01:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by Papi Chulo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this relation ship is not longer
2007-09-10 01:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋