So, I know this dude who I somewhat like and uh tonight I was talking to him and he said I was special and a really nice girl. Then he said he really really didnt want me thinking that he was just saying that to get in my pants... What do you peoplez think?
2007-09-09 17:34:17 · 58 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WHAT IF... I know he wants to. Buuuut, I dont know... He's waited a year so far... That change anything?! lol
2007-09-09 17:48:29 · update #1
You can never be sure. Just take your time, follow your instinct and the signs, and just don't rush things.
2007-09-09 17:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by Lilaki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I think that maybe he believes that but males are genetically predisposed to carry on the human race is such a way that it is basically something they think about doing about 5 minutes or so, so take it for what you. I am sure that he thinks that you are special and that you are a really nice girl, he may also be thinking other things too, so I guess the answer is that no i don't think that he is just saying it to get in your pants but it might be one of the reasons.............. good luck....S
addendum: after reading what everyone has said, I am wondering what is wrong with a guy being attracted enough to want to get into a girls pants as it were............if you don't mind me asking, how old are you anyway.......that could be the deciding factor in how any of us should feel about your situation (and is he cute?)
2007-09-09 17:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by scsspace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm, well, it was nice of him to let it out in the open. However, if you didn't even bring up the subject, then there is something in the back of his mind that may have to have you question his motives. Try to tell him something like "Good, I'm really glad you said that because I promised myself that i would take that step until marriage (or a really long time)" or what ever you think sounds appropriate. Then wait for his reaction. If he tries to subdue a wince of disappointment or keep on with the subject, he is thinking that he may be able to change your mind. But if the guy drops it and goes onto something different, ( like "how was your day" or "what's your fav. flick", etc.) then you can probably rest easy.
2007-09-09 17:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by fobabe032 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to say. He might just be having trouble talking to girls. First thing I ever said to the woman who has now been my wife for 20 yrs? Hey didn't I see you in the restaurant last night? I recognize your skunk stripe.... (her hair had been bleached redder by a lot of time in the sun and was darker red near the roots) OMG... I could not believe I said something so stupid. So this guy could be a sleaze and just isn't very smooth about it... or he could really like you and we guys tend to say very very dumb things when we are trying to be sincere. Watch his behaviour and how he treats you from here on out and that will tell you.
2007-09-09 17:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by CB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a guy says this to you then you need to really be on the alert for it. He is only trying to convince you he isn't trying to do that but what it really says about him is that he is thinking just the opposite of it, and entertaining thoughts of sex with you. Don't believe it and don't fall for it. Be on alert and watch his actions, speech, etc. You will be able to tell just exactly what his objective is if you are alert enough, and then act accordingly. Good luck to you! Be careful!
Read "allthatsolid" comments! What a jerk! He is the kind you need to watch out for. GREAT EXAMPLE for you!
2007-09-09 17:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Rhinestone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful. Definately don't get physical with him soon. He may be genuine or the getting into your pants thing may be exactly what he wants to do. If you go out with him just pay attention for physical advances right away and that will tell you if he's being genuine or just wants some.
2007-09-09 17:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Steph, I would say that 9-10 times, it's just to get in ur pants...or top. I would trust him, but keep ur guard up. Trust him 'til he gives u a reason not to. Be careful, use your brain. I'm guessing ur young, he won't be the last one to come along. If he's a jerk, you'll meet somebody that WILL respect you!
2007-09-09 17:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by indyfaninark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning what he told you, then you should already know the answer. No nice guy would ever say that line. Let him go, because later you would be hurt. Sounds like a player. Dont be played. You know crap when you smell it. right?
2007-09-09 17:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what I think. I can't be trusted either. Whatever you already feel is eventually going to be the deciding factor in what you do. According to my crystal ball and the statistics, he's got you in the palm of his hand. It won't hurt to try if you really like him though. He can't make you do anything you don't already want to do or have done like letting someone get in your pants.
2007-09-09 17:40:22 · answer #9 · answered by allthatsolid 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No matter what he says, he wants in your pants. It may not be tonight, but he does. He's trying to get you to let you guard down so he'll have a better chance.
2007-09-09 17:39:53 · answer #10 · answered by back from the dead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably true, but misleading. I mean he does want to get down your pants, and he did say that to get down your pants, but that isn't the only reason he said that. He wants more from you than what's down your pants so he didn't say that JUST to get down your pants. Know what I mean?
2007-09-09 17:39:05 · answer #11 · answered by Jonathan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋