I have a daughter that's 4yrs old and I'm changing careers at the moment. We want to get married in a church but we don't have the money to have a reception and such fine things..we would love to buy a house instead of using it for one day..what should we do??? any advice??
2007-09-09 17:31:17 · 20 answers · asked by ♥CUTIE♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, I think it would be foolish of you to have a grand reception and blow all of your money. You do need a home and purchasing a home is more important than a 5 hour party for a bunch of 20 year olds, ok. Your best course of action is to have a small, simple ceremony. Have your reception at a restaurant. The important thing here, is for you to get married and use your money for more important things. You can always have a lavish anniversary party or renewal of vows in the future.
2007-09-10 05:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear you and totally understand where you are coming from.
We are also planning our wedding. When you have kids, and other priorities it is hard to justify spending money on one day. But we all want that special day dont we?
We bought our house last year and have been saving up our money for a wedding. Set a date into the future, about a year away, time will go by quickly enough. Every week put away a set amount of money, whatever you can afford. Put the money aside before you pay the bills or spend any of it. And dont touch that money, it is your wedding day cash.
Then plan out what you can afford. If you buy the house first, you can have a backyard wedding. It can still be lovely.
We are having a celebrant come to our home to marry us in our yard. Then afterwards we will celebrate with family and friends. I am making finger food and pasta and cake. I am buying a bottle of wine a week......my fiance is taking care of the beer.....we will make up a big non alcoholic punch. I have done the maths, it is affordable and should be lovely. I cant wait.
Good luck. You can do it, just budget, budget, budget. And make and do what you can yourself. Anythign to do with weddings is extra expensive, mention wedding and the price goes up. But there are alternatives. Good luck! And dont stress, make it a fun challenge, getting your dream wedding on a shoe string budget.
2007-09-09 18:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now. I would wait. (I know, probably not what you want to hear) I would just hold off until the career change is over, and i've been able to save up some money. If you want to get married in a church, find one you enjoy and start going to services. It will be so much more special on your big day if the church plays a part in your life. If you already go to the church you want to get married in, talk to your pastor for advice.
2007-09-09 17:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by maryfromwalnutcreek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
decide what's most important to both of you. Do you have to get married right now? Maybe after you buy your house you could plan a backyard wedding or reception. The priest can come there. Or just have the reception there. Just depends on what is most impotant - being in a church? You can still have a nice reception on a budget.
2007-09-09 17:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by Kmmv 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi Brandy,
Well, if you and your boyfriend are memebers of a church you could proably get married there for free. and then you could have a nice reception on your church grounds and they wont charge. You could ask friends and family for help do a pot luck sort of thing make your own invitations. Walmart 17.00 (in hawaii) for 40 invitations and it comes with reply cards so on the reply card you could just have them check entree, dessert, salad or what ever else you want them to bring. Your bridesmaid and groomsmen can help with decorating so you don't need a cordinator and you can get really cheap stuff from your local party store alot of items you can rent or your church might already have. If you guys don't belong to a church pick one and start going and then in a couple of months ask the rev., father, pastor, or priest that you would like to be married there and they wont charge. THe best man takes care of the tip for the pastor so you don't have to worry about that. I hope my info. helped if you need some more help you can email me at crisyroach@yahoo.com take care and good luck.
2007-09-09 19:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by confusedinhawaii 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Slow down and plan. Get married by a JOP for right now. When you get on your feet, then start thinking about a house. Dont jump into an ocean without a rope. At this point, you need to sit down and plan the next few years. Things might not go according to plan and you will have to make changes. Get on your feet and then you can walk up the aisle. Good Luck
2007-09-09 17:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by Bill P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about waiting to get married. It seems to me that you are at a critical stage in your life if you are changing careers. Getting married is a big life-changing decison and seeing as you have a 4 year old to take care of as well, it might just be too much. Seeing as you cannot afford a wedding right now anyway.
But if you really want to get married, can't you hire a minister or something to perform the ceremony at home? Or you could go to a civil court and have a justice of peace marry you. me and my husband got married in Vegas and it cost us $250, which is pretty cheap, considering.
2007-09-09 17:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by Riya Layne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many ministers and priests will do small, private ceremonies much the same way Justices of the Peace can do. Talk to your clergyperson and see what can be arranged.
Then you can have a quiet dinner or champagne toast with your witnesses and send out announcements of the happy news to all your friends and families.
But if you want a larger, fancier wedding, I'm afraid you'll have to find a way to save up for it.
See how much you can come up with now. There are ways of throwing a wedding that don't have to cost tens of thousands of dollars. Keep the guest list small; explore DIY options for decorations, invitations, and catering; shop smart for supplies and dresses. You may be surprised at what you can afford.
Best of luck and all joy to you and your intended.
2007-09-09 19:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by gileswench 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl. You do well by thinking about buying a house instead of blowing up a whole bunch of money in one day on people who may or may not be there for you when you find yourself in financial trouble. Do get married but do it on a small budget with your closest friends and family. The ones who matter to you and the ones who will applaud your decision to use your money wisely. Remember: It's not about the wedding, it's about your future together. Best of luck to you both.
2007-09-09 18:03:06 · answer #9 · answered by Osbelia A 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My step-daughter got married in July. They got married at the courthouse and then we had close family and friends to our home for a nice dinner. They got a large cake from Costco (They are only about $15 and you can have your names put on it) You can always save money (Put all your change in a bank) and have a nice reception next Summer.
2007-09-09 18:16:15 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋