My future husband is in the Air Force, how do I cope with the time he's gone?

Question

If he gets the job he wants, he could be gone up to a year... Not to mention right now he leaves for a month for training. What can make it easier for me to deal with it? Maybe certain activities, or just a mind set.

Answer 1

Think about how many people are safe because of your honey. Yes it sucks that he will be away from you but he is protecting his family and country. Might as well make the best of it. Bake him some cookies, write him a sexy letter , send him a pair of your panties in the mail- he'll never forget that. His bunk mates won't let him. Make a video dairy each day and send it to him at the end of the week. Just think of little ways to let him know that you appreciate his service to his country and understand that he wants to be with you but needs to be there. Develop some hobbies - music, quilting, dancing etc. Take some classes. As someone married for over 10 years, I can tell you that you need to be able to be okay on your own. By that I mean have your own friends and activities that don't necessarily include him. It is healthy to have your own interests. Good luck!

Answer 2

ahhhh, if only there was a manual to prepare us for this type of thing. My husband has been in the army for 6 years, (we have also been married for 6 years) It seems like he is gone all the time, training, deployments, ect. I went into the marriage knowing he was going into the military, and that it was going to be tough. There is always someone you can talk to, i.e, the FRG (family readiness group), or chaplans to help you cope. Its not easy, but if you truly want to be together you can make it work. I had so many people tell me that I didn't know what I was getting into marrying a man who was in a combat job, who was going to be gone all the time, and the best advice if anyone tells you anything like that is DON'T LISTEN TO THEM! It may be hard at times, and you don't always have to be tough; just know that you will be together again. I hope this helps!! Good luck sweetie!!

Answer 3

It is both. Join a club that interest you. Take a course at the local community college. Take on some household projects that you don't have the opportunity to deal with when he is at home. Be sure to take plenty of pictures and email him often. Keep in mind that he is the man you love, and think about the great homecoming when he returns. It will be tough to keep that fire burning, but if you both use your imagination, it can be done.

Answer 4

An ivy is a symbol of something. Look it up. I forgot. Buy one and let the length symbolize your waiting for him. Work on yourself and practice making some stuff that will knock his socks off when he comes home. Meatloaf, lasagna, breads and pies take practice. Knit or do some craft that is easy and takes your mind off stuff. Read and walk. Talk to friends. Fix up your place. There is so much to do, read, learn and create. Write letters to him and send him packages that you have created with care and love. Make this a time of preparation and stay away from other men. Win over temptation. Be strong and pray, dear.

Answer 5

I have a cousin who's husband was in Iraq for 6 months. She had a difficult time with it also. But what helped her the most was spending time with family. You will miss him no matter what but family can help you deal with him being gone. I pray for our Troops to do what they are suppose to do and make it back safe. Be proud, I am.

Answer 6

Keep yourself busy. But don't throw your time away on trivial things, find something you really believe in, something you can really get into. Don't let him know that you are doing it just because he is gone. Let him know he will be missed, but also let him know you will cope just fine. Talk about your interest you have found. Really throw yourself into it while he is gone. You will become a more rounded and more interesting you. You will feel more important because you are doing domething important. You will also become more interesting and valuable to him. You can never go wrong if you go after something you believe in!

Answer 7

I WILL DO MY BEST ON HELPING YOU OUT, GET A NOTE BOOK AND MAKE IT A BOOK FULL OF LETTERS TO HIM. WRITE A LETTER IN THIS BOOK EVERYDAY, AND TELL HIM TO DO THE SAME THING. ON THINGS YOU WANT TO SAY AND THINGS THAT HAPPEN. ALSO PUT PICTURES OF YOU TWO IN YOUR ROOM, KEEP YOURSELF VERY BUSY. SEE IF THERE IS A WAY THAT YOU CAN SET TIMES TO BE ABLE TO TALK TO HIM. TO HEAR HIS VOICE WILL HELP WITH SOME OF THE PAIN. TRY SPEND MORE TIME WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS TO HELP THE TIME GO QUICKER. I HAD TO DEAL WITH BEING AWAY FROM MY FIANCE FOR A YEAR TOO. THIS STUFF HELPED ME OUT. I HOPE IT HELPS YOU. GOOD LUCK AND PRAY FOR HIM EVERY DAY.

Answer 8

i find being around family and friends as much as possible helps, doing things that you enjoy. i usualy find a good book to read while mine is gone, i started crocheting a blanket for our bed, you may want to think about getting a pet, i find having my dog with me at night its comforting, dont go out drinking because if your sad about him being gone its just gonna get worse. when you guys get married try and make some friends with other wives, its good to have someone else whos husband is gone at the same time for support and it gives you time to bond with someone while he is away. if u need someone to talk to u can email me

Answer 9

do this .... just imagine he is at home with you but he is on vacation and you should feel better like he is ok trust me i have issues on on worrying and stuff like that so just picture happy thoughts im sure this will work well ... anyways prayers to your gentle husband of yours and all the wuv ... sorry lol LUV
-dickens aka - real name lena

Answer 10

I had a gf, then I joined the Army. She was cheating on me in 3 weeks. I dont care what happens to me anymore, she did that. dont be like her.