Long Distance Relationships?!?!?!?!?

Question

What do you guys think about em? Do you think they work out or fail? And if you think they work, any suggestions on how to keep one going or some things the couple can do together when they can only see each other about once a year? If you think they fail, what can go wrong that screws things up?

No mean answers where you call me names or anything please, i just want some other opinions on long distance relationships.

And NO stupid answers like sex or anything, we aren't old enough for that...
Thanks in advance!

Wow thanks guys! i'm not gonna pick a best answer cuz all of em are good! I'll have to try a few of those ideas too :)

Answer 1

i was not looking for a long distance relationship but i am in one now ---- and i was in one in my teens for about 7 years ---- we saw each other when we went on holidays ---- we wrote when not together and went out when we were --- we were faithful and trusted each other --- its the same now the only difference is the distance is a lot more and very soon one of us will move closer to the other and just see how well the relationship moves ---- best wishes

Answer 2

I was in a long distance relationship for about a year. It was definitely hard because I hardly saw him since he was in the navy & was stationed on the other side of the world. We tried our hardest to keep the relationship going by emailing each other at least 3 times a day--it helped a lot, it made him feel closer to me than he really was & he would call me whenever he could. We also write letters & sent postcards to each other when he was out at sea. Basically, we did whatever we could to stay in close contact with each other.

Although we're no longer together, I learned that trust is a HUGE factor in the relationship along with having a lot amount of patience. It's hard being in a long distance relationship & both people have to put in the effort if they want to make the relationship work. Best wishes to you both!

Answer 3

I think they can work it just depends on the people if like your both gonna be committed in them. I've been in one for 3 yrs on and off and now i'm dating him again and it's been 4month almost 5 on the 20th. He's such a great friend. And we are serious now. I think you just have to be serious and know it's diff. cause your not always seeing them you only really have the communication. Sex doesn't matter unless you really need it. They can fail if one is unfaithful or one wants more of the intimacy. I think it just depends on the people and how you both feel about them. Don't let people tell you they all fail because that's not true.

Answer 4

I dont think of everybody needs to have a protracted distance courting. life happens and gets interior the way, you in simple terms ought to paintings around it. If somebody ought to be with their long distance BF or GF adequate/or they love them adequate, they're going to pass to the place the different individual is and end the long distance element. those people who've relationships over the internet or out of state "in simple terms because of the fact" are probable dropping their time. long distance relationships wont final if there isnt dedication.

Answer 5

Long distance relationships can work out - I know plenty of couples who started that way (including my fiance and I - Germany/NY)- but they are difficult and only worth it if you are truly in love and completely trust each other. Otherwise, you're just setting yourself up for needless suffering.

If you can honestly say this person is the only one for you, and you would rather be alone than with anyone else, go for it.

Get Skype if you don't have it, to talk for free - don't play games and always be completely open and honest with one another.

Answer 6

When my spouse (then fiance) had to live and work in Paris, France for about 3 months, we talked to each other on the phone every single day and sometimes more than that and one time I visited him and lived at his small apartment for a month. We also instant messaged and email, wrote snail mail letters to each other, postcards, etc. every day. We were both faithful to each other and never thought about dating and seeing other people and we both made it work because we loved each other. There were ups and downs like any relationship but we overcame that with plenty of communication.
I did not meet him in Europe, he lived in Dallas, Texas where we met.
Now we are married for almost 5 years and been together for 10 years.
My spouse hugs and kisses me even in public places and tells me he loves me every single day and he makes me feel good about myself. Not to mention he works hard and is a family man. He is not physically attractive though (looks aren't everything) but it doesn't matter because his personality is what makes him attractive.
There are plenty of good looking guys out there but their negative personality can be detrimental to their looks and that's not the kind of guys I wouldn't recommend being with.

Answer 7

I think the relationship will work if you want it to work...honestly, there are holidays to see eachother and if u make an effort to see eachother once in a while and you trust 'em with all your heart he's / her's aren't cheatin' on you...but if you two realli want it.. and then go for it.. it doesn't hurt to tryy...

Answer 8

My friend tried to have a long distance relationship with the guy I like. me and my friend nolie told her to break up with him because maybe she saw another guy that she liked and she couldn't go out with him because she was having another relationship at the time. so I wouldn't be so hyped up about it. the only way it would work out is if it was true love. but other than that DON'T go for it

Answer 9

No they don't. I'm a marine. That means I ship out allot. People get lonely and meet other people. Don't bother and save yourself some hurt.

Answer 10

I don't believe in hem because ...
1) U may not like him when u meet him
2) He may be lying abut things about HIM
3) He may choose you because you sound cute!