I have been taking my birthcontrol everyday never missing a dose and now im pregnant my boyfriend comes from a strict jewish family, they are great awesome people and they love me but i dont know how everyone will react about me being pregnant, how do i tell my boyfriend?
2007-09-09 16:39:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
it would be nice if i got a good answer and not some smart A** remark you A**
2007-09-09 16:46:23 · update #1
I am not Jewish, nor do i go to church, i am 24 years old i have met his family and they are happy that he found the one, and i talk consantly with his family i have stayed with the family alone, its just the whole not being married thing.
2007-09-09 16:51:56 · update #2
it doesn't really matter how they will react... They can throw hissy-fits all day long, but sooner or later, they'll calm down and come to the realization... They will come to accept the miracle growing inside you... =D Just tell your boyfriend.. He'll be a man about it... or at least he'd better. It's his responsibilty too...
2007-09-09 16:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
It is not as much as informing your boyfriend, as it will be what he DOES with what he knows, after you tell him. Birth Control pills are no guarantee that you can remain 100%impregnable. Remember; getting married because you are pregnant is NOT the solution either, (why make 2 mistakes ?) !!! You have made a mistake and I hope, that you have enough education behind, if you have to go it alone, should your boyfriend run out on you !!! Here's where the "rubber meets the road", in your life. My heart goes out to you and the baby ... and I hope and pray, that all, pans out well for you !!!
2007-09-09 16:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how would you tell your boyfriend if he wasn't from a "strict Jewish family"? Sit him down and tell him, and then he will have to decide how to tell his family.
You don't say how old you are, if you are in high school, you should talk to your counselor. Or try Planned Parenthood to ask for advice and support.
2007-09-09 16:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by Kathy P-W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends. If he is Orthodox Jewish, the child will not be considered Jewish since you are not a Jewish mother.
Reform and Reconstructionist Jews do allow for children of non-Jewish women to be considered Jewish.
You have much praying and thinking to do as to how the child will be raised religiously, Is your boyfriend observant or not?
Whatever you do, tell him soon.
2007-09-09 16:44:54 · answer #4 · answered by The Carmelite 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
humm this is a tough one. befor you tell him decide if you want a child. then tell him what you want to do and discuss it with him. its really hard to deal with this situation because no matter what is said someone is going to dislike it. on one hand I want to say, if you decide not to have the baby dont tell him cause its not his call, and it might conceavably hurt him, the other side of me says do tell him cause he has a right to know ( even though ligaly he doesnt) and its his child and his input should be concidered. also if you decide to have the child how much of a part of the childs life is he going to be? is he the kind of boy who whimps out on his responcabilities or will he step up and be a man and a father, even so you have decide if he is the man you want for life, or just a weekend dad.
2007-09-09 16:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by slo18 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Their family may be a little upset because if the woman is not Jewish, then the offspring are not considered Jewish, and they, as any other race or culture, are very defensive of their specific development; but, of course, you should tell him, and don't listen to Christians! Are you, or were you raised Christian? It would be funny if your kid became Moslem!
2007-09-09 16:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That must be scary.
The first question is what do *you* want to do now that you're pregnant? Do you want it? Do you want to put it up for adoption? Do you want him to raise it? Do you want to raise it together? Do you want to marry him? What religion do you want to raise it?
Sorry to ask so many questions, but what you do next really depends a lot upon what you need. Once you decide, you really should speak to him first. "Something unexpected happened..."
His family may well be upset since this will be proof positive to them that you've been having pre-marital sex with their baby boy, but they aren't your first priority right now.
2007-09-09 16:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by Lillian 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You tell him promptly and privately.
Don't forget that he's just as responsible as you are.
And don't forget that the life inside you is a real person ... a son or a daughter ... YOUR son or daughter.
2007-09-09 17:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from my daughter dating a jewish boy when she thought she was pregant the whole nicely thing left,,lol...
2007-09-09 16:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by I give you the Glory Father ! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't listen to Joshie!!!! Tell him the truth. It will be better on everyone. Lies will only cause problems. ps. Stop taking the birth contol ASAP!
2007-09-09 16:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by blue chaos soɐɥɔ ǝnlq 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋