me and my bf live in different states..i love him and he loves me very much.. and so there's another guy who loves me very very much.. he looks great and cares me more.. we start hanging out 3 times a week but wit my frens too..he will hold my hand and makes me feel like i'm his gf.. i didnt let go my hand but let him do wat he wants..am i wrong to my bf??wat should i do??i'm scare both of them hurt..i think i like him too(for sure i love my bf more)..help..
2007-09-09 16:32:21 · 19 answers · asked by MicHeLLe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
majority of your problem is obviously your fault. It means, you are wrong... You know you have a boyfriend, and yet you let others pretend that you are their girlfriend... Does that guy knows that you have a boyfriend?? If yes, refrain doing you're pretentions and tell him what you really feel. If he does not know that you have a boyfriend, tell him immediatelt and don't turn back against the reality.. 'Coz you are not only cheating non your BF, at the same time, you are cheating yourself...
Thank you... hope I've helped a bit...
2007-09-09 16:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by ten9teen2ksix 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if you heard that your out-of-state boyfriend had a close female friend who live near him and was in the exact position you just described? Would you be hurt? Would you be jealous or insecure? Chances are that you would not be happy.
If you have a committed relationship with your out-of-state boyfriend, there is no room for your local friend unless you feel that he is the better option for you. If that is the case, you need to end it with your out-of-state boyfriend.
One other thing to consider is your age. If you are younger than 16, you really should not be in an exclusive relationship anyway. You should be dating a few different people so that you can learn about them and see what qualities you like in a person and what qualities you do not like in a guy. Once you learn this, you will be better prepared for a long-term relationship.
If you are between 17 - 21, you are in a better position for a long-term relationship but, again, chances are against you as far as finding the right guy in that age range unless you both have open, honest communication with each other, you are willing to talk things out instead of arguing and you both are committed to making each other very happy. A strong relationship is a two-way street. Both parties must work hard to make it work.
Relationships are very easy to maintain when things are going well. It is how you deal with them in the hard times that determine if they will work or not.
Always be loyal to your partner, always be completely open and honest with your partner and always strive to make your partner happy. Don't settle for less from your partner either.
Good luck and all the best to you!
2007-09-09 23:49:08 · answer #2 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets call your bf in different state as "A" and the guy who you've been hanging out with as "Z". If you have to have a bf to be close by you. Meaning: to comfort you, to hold your hands, etc then you should go with "Z". "A" is in another state, so, he can't be right next to you physically. You need to decide as soon as possible. The longer you wait the worst it will get. You are scare of them getting hurt? You are already hurting them without them knowing it. Do you want "A" to do the same to you? Do you want "A" to be seeing another girl on the side just because he can't make up his mind? I don't think you want that. It is not fair for "A" and for "Z". If I were you I'd let both of them go. The relationship is already tainted with lies and deceptions.
2007-09-09 23:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by Caitlyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't bad for being attracted to more than one person. But you do need to make a decision. You will love many people before you settle on 'the one' but you should treat them all fairly. If your bf is in another state.. unless you see yourself marrying him one day, I would let him go. And do it nicely and not with the drama so it won't hurt so bad. The way to do it is let the 'blame' be on you.
2007-09-09 23:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by CB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your bf then you wouldn't be here asking what your asking. Yes, you are wrong. You are telling this guy in another state that your basically all his meanwhile you really aren't giving him your all... your letting some other guy do what he wants. Lust and Love are two different things... seems like your more in lust than in love. The best thing you can do is be honest with yourself and with both of these guys....
2007-09-09 23:38:27 · answer #5 · answered by Siempre07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong, if you need to ask then you know you are wrong, so why ask?
You don't have the emotional commitment to be true to your boyfriend. Do not argue Its not an opinion its fact If you are not able to commit then don't. There is nothing wrong with being single and having friends (with benefits) be true to yourself.
This may sound horrible but why not be single and happy, who says you need to commit to the one you love right now, if your open to options then be open to options. Just stop hurting others by not being true.
How would you feel if your bf did the say?
2007-09-09 23:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by Rick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never like out of state relationships, it dont work for me. Hey if you like this guy you seeing him on a regular basis, have fun. Hes in another state, at least he plan on comming to move in your state to be with you thats different, other than that move on... I want let thing get to heated up with the outer state guy either. Take Care
2007-09-09 23:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by caramel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Torn between two lovers and you're feeling like a fool.
Well talk to your LD guy and ask him if he's serious enough to arrange to see you much more frequently.
If not, maybe you should let the LD guy go and focus on your local guy.
Its not fair to have to choose but some guys demand exclusivity.
2007-09-09 23:36:21 · answer #8 · answered by krollohare2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Choose! Its not fair the the out of state bf.
2007-09-09 23:38:17 · answer #9 · answered by Frankie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love your boyfriend you should not fool around with this new guy. its wrong to decieve your boyfriend even if he is in another state. the only thing that would make it okay is if your boyfriend says he doesnt care then feel free. but if you want to presue this new guy break it off with your boyfriend because finding out he is being cheated on is more heartbreaking than being dumped trust me.
2007-09-09 23:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by AshleyNick H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋