Thinking of suicide. Please refer to the other question I posted.?

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Please refer to the other question I posted. Although I know I should start dating again, I find it extremely hard to do so. During the day with my friends and family I have fun and laugh and smile, but when Im alone all I can do is just think about the past. I dont think that a therapist can help me, and Im afraid to tell my friends or family for fear of the thought of them rejecting me too. Is this normal? Lately I have been thinking of suicide and it is becoming a more viable option everyday. The only thing that stops me is the fact that I am a christian, although this excuse is getting weaker by the day. What should I do, get a therapist or tell my friends or......what? I cant seem to think clearly anymore.

Answer 1

Get a therapist. I dont think you should necessarily tell your friends, just get them to help you. Just say you have been feeling depressed lately or something. Suicide doesn't help anything AT ALL. It adds more trouble for your friends and family. You dont want to put that kind of grief on your loved ones. How would you feel if one of your loved ones just committed suicide out of nowhere for reasons that you think are not that bad. Running away from your troubles is not going to help anything. It will make YOU go away, the problems are still going to be there...floating around. Just seek a therapists' help and im sure she'll/he'll be able to help you more than anyone here.. The past is the past, theres NOTHING you can do to change it. Just keep moving on. Never look back. Its not that hard you just gotta put your heart in it. Stay ahead of your shadow. Suicide is like quitting. Its for the weak. be strong and you will conquer it. You might not think a therapist can help you but they can. Not just by telling you what to do, but helping you think about it. I doubt anyone on Yahoo! Answers can help you more than a therapist that you tell everything and she/he can interact with you.

Answer 2

I knew someone who felt this way for a long time, years & years, off and on.

Although they said they had no immenient problems or physical health issues - they just really felt more like I did not want to be here anymore.
I have felt this way myself at times.

This person started taking an anti-depressant and the suicidal thoughts went away and they did feel better overall.

Don't let a chemical imbalance "tell you" to hurt yourself. Go talk to a doctor even a family doctor can prescribe an anti-depressant for you. Many people use them.

People care about you.
When you think of hurting yourself TRY to counter it with a thought of how you could help someone else. I know it is hard because your depression is trying to control you, don't let it.

Answer 3

I think what happened with your girlfriend was a huge blow, and it is not helping that you are avoiding dating again. I think it could help you to find a cancer survivor support group. Or, you could do some of those walks to support the american cancer society things, you will probably meet a lot of people with similar experiences. Anyone who has had a serious illness or is experiencing chronic illness could probably relate to you. I have really bad bipolar disorder, and I did find a man who looked around that, and he knows I could suicide at some point. So I think it is not impossible to find someone who is not going to abandon you like your former gf did.

A therapist may help you, you don't know unless you go see one. And you may have to try a couple of them to get one who fits. It is common for people who are hit with a major life event like yours to go on and develop major depression. It may SEEM like you are chronically sad/upset due to what you went thru, but really it goes on and on because you can't recover from the blow due to depression. In that case (and I really think this is the case for you) medication for depression may be appropriate. Also, if you are taking meds for the cancer (I don't know much about it, but I thot for some cancers, there are ongoing meds) then maybe they can cause depression. Or any other meds you may be taking, many cause depression.

You can talk to friends and family about how sad you feel. They may not take it seriously. However, there may be a person or two who has gone thru depression before, and they may be a goldmine of information and support.

Good luck to you!

Answer 4

Firmly resolve now to stop thinking about the past, and use the negative thought reprogramming technique, on page 2. Make yourself exercise, and go out, even if you don't enjoy it, at first: it will provide one way of stopping you from thinking about your present life situation. Also see teens, on page 13, and understand that memories fade, with the passing of time, and ask yourself where you will be in 5 years time, and 10. Most teenagers go through similar things, and it's common for many relationships to begin, and end, especially when younger. It's a good idea to only emotionally invest in a relationship, according to its length of time, and the degree of commitment from BOTH of the people involved. See anxiety treatments, at http://www.ezy-build.net. (.net.nz/~shaneris) on page 6. Set yourself a fixed limit for worrying about any particular subject, (say; 15 minutes) after which, resolve firmly to refuse to even consider that subject again on that day: realise and accept that to do otherwise would be counterproductive to your mental health, and enjoyment of life. Use the technique for reprogramming negative thoughts, on page 2, to help you in this, and consider carrying a wide rubber band in your pocket, as a means of reinforcing it. See suicidal thoughts, on page 5, and dating, and teens, on page 13. At least try Cognitive Therapy, before dismissing it: see page 1, for locators, and the 1-800- therapist website.

Answer 5

Please speak to your family dr. or oncologist. Maybe you should ask about an anti depressant. Suicide is not the answer. I read your other question, your ex-girlfriend must not have been mature or strong enough to handle your cancer even possibly in love enough. It takes a strong willed person to weather the good and bad in a relationship. Can you check to see if your local hospital, mental health facility or health dept. or even your dr. can tell you where to find a cancer survivor group support? You maybe surprised that there will be others who have had their bf/gf, husband or wife had left them during their fight with cancer. You may find someone that you can bond with. Please get help, just know that there is someone out there that cares about you even if you don't know that person. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 6

You're a cancer survivor and you should be proud of that. Put the past behind you and live every day like it was your last. Start dating and getting on with your life.

There's a great book out called "Real Magic" by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer. He teaches you how to achieve happiness, health, success and prosperity in daily life through positive thinking and action. This book made a big impact on my life in overcoming schizophrenia, major depression and anxiety disorder. Today with the help of books like this one and my medication, I live a happy, normal life and plan on returning to work real soon.

You're a good candidate for some type of counseling. Stand up for yourself and drag yourself out of your rut.

Choose life. Be a help to someone in need. Jesus was rejected and died a horrible death so that we can live on forever with him in heaven. Surely you don't want to miss out on that. Best of luck to you.



Go for counseling

Answer 7

Are you getting out among people, and relating with them?

Are you going to church, drawing strength from the most powerful tool in your toolbox--your Bible?

comon and help us here? we will all be lessened if we loose you bro. You have something to contribute to the lives of others every day. Let is be something good, not a terrible loss that they cannot get over.

Answer 8

wow, are you critical good i reccomend you to head see a theropist to support you with this issues motive what you're bringing up is rather BIG and NOT average in any respect! your younger and also you must be joyful and feature a well existence so all i will be able to say is get support it's going to support you out plenty and would even difference your existence :]

Answer 9

Thinking about suicide or committing suicide is not what God wants. I think that if you are a Christian you should go to God in prayer for help.You matter to much to God to kill yourself. In the Bible it says that if you take your own life that you wont go to heaven only hell and I know you don't want to burn in hell for eternity.

Answer 10

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