I've been seeing this guy for a lil over 2mths. We hit it off well, have lots in common and all. Seem to have a connection unlike anything I've ever felt before. We both have expressed to each other that we like each other a lot. We don't get to see each other because of his job (close to 80 hrs a week as a intern). We communicate a lot through txt but I haven't heard from him in about a week and a half...last time we were together I had cooked him dinner and he spent most of the night considering he has to get up at 4am for work. We have had sex twice. We talked about us having sex so soon (1 mth in) and he responded w/ "the average couple has sex after 2.5 dates" I told him I've always had sex in a relationship and not just dating. I got a msg the next day saying he really enjoyed him self & the food was was AWESOME!
I'm left confused. I wonder did I scare him? Did he lose interest? Should I write him and ask him what's up? I'd really like to know either way
2007-09-09 16:17:59 · 19 answers · asked by Sweet Honey 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I say write an email because he gets home so late and all. If I write and express my feelings the ball is in his court. If he doesn't respond to that I can cut my losses.
2007-09-09 16:23:20 · update #1
Don't assume something is wrong. Call him up and tell him you'd like to see him again, be direct. Chances are he's been busy. When you have him face to face, ask him if he's at the same place your are and is into you -- he'll either say yes or no, and then you'll know.
Also -- it's my experience men never really want to know about your past sexual history, details -- nada. Only to know that you're disease free and that you're not a first timer or whatever. Don't go on and on about the sex you've had in the past.
Just my two cents.
2007-09-09 16:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by Elizabeth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were texting a lot before, not hearing from him for a week and a half is not good. It's possible that he's just been really busy, but realistically it doesn't take that long to send a text, he could have sent one while in the bathroom if he had to. You have to find out what the deal is. Send him a message trying to get him to explain his lack of messages. If you don't get a response in a day send another. If two days after that you still haven't gotten any kind of response, it's time to stop in at his home or work and find out what's going on. If she gets mad at you for showing up, just say you haven't heard anything from him in two weeks and wanted to make sure he was still alive. Then take it from there.
Good luck.
2007-09-09 17:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an intern so he may not have the time to write or text right now. You could send him an email just saying "Hi" and that you hope all is OK. Tell him you hope you can get together soon, but don't ask him what's up. It could cause more of a problem. Just wait and see what is his reply to you email. If you ask him directly what's up it could scare him away. And if he does not answer with in a week assume it is over.
2007-09-09 16:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by Aliz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call him because he is an intern, he is very busy, he might not have an opportunity to write or read his email, then you be sitting waiting for a reply maybe? You say that you really like him, personally I hate email and TM ( even though I do it ALL the time) when you call someone it is more personable, they can hear your tone in your voice ( the sincerity) etc. Sometimes people may perceive things differently than what you meant through email or TM.
2007-09-10 06:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by *sexy mocha* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have scared him, he might be pulling away. But yes you should drop a casual email saying "been thinking about ya, hope all is well, email or call if you need/feel like talking" I acualy had exactly this same experience last week and emailed with that exact phrase and we've now been talking all weekend, take the risk, otherwise you'll never know.
2007-09-09 16:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by angie t 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would try to write him or call him to find out what is going on and to see if he was still interested. I know things like this hurts from experience. I hope all things go well for you and you get who you are looking for.
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2016-11-14 20:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you deserve to know whats going on i hate to say it but if you guys were not actually in a relationship it sounds like you may have been used but don't think that because i said it. he may just be very busy with his job but i would call. if you don't get an answer text him. no response then just forget about him.
2007-09-09 16:26:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As it is said, if you want to know something then ask. just that simple. Ask him and if you get an answer wel and good and if you do not then make plans to change your life some.
They come they go and there are plenty out there.
2007-09-09 16:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not safe it jus email n talk to a guy at mid nite. be careful. u can email to him but not meet out.
2007-09-09 16:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by share 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋