My neice and nephew were in an unhealthy environment - everyone on husband's side knew but noone did anything, everyone just accepted it and tried to help. The oldest is now 3, and nothing has changed, no matter how much help has been given.
I finally called. It seemed the right thing to do for the kids. Should I tell my husband or not? How would you feel if you were him, and if you were me?
2007-09-09 14:56:32 · 11 answers · asked by Magaroni 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think I would tell him, but you did the right thing and sometimes that is the best thing, she may need some kind of depression counceling or something like that that CPS can help with, and sometimes all the help in the world from families doesnt do any good because they start depending on that instead of themselves, I'm sure it wasn't and easy thing for you to do. I'm going through the same thing with my SIL
2007-09-09 15:13:53 · answer #1 · answered by Kim E 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Noooooo! NEVER tell. If he has been helping, he is still in denial. NEVER tell.
Good for you for doing the right thing that no one else would do. If anything were to ever happen to me, and for some reason my son were not being taken care of, I would hope someone like you would be close by.
Now, will you call them on my SIL. jk
Good luck and best wishes.
2007-09-09 15:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it important that you tell your spouse or that you did the right thing for the kids? You did the right thing and it's not important that your spouse knows. It could cause a terrible rift in the marriage and family. Big blow-up. Think of what you did as an anonymous good deed.
2007-09-09 15:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by gma 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for calling! But do NOT tell your hubby. It will cause lots of drama and conflict with no good reason. The kids are getting help from CPS, that is the important thing.
2007-09-10 03:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by undone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think if you told your hubby it would be like a stab in the back. it will get back to your in laws, trust me on that one. I think you should take this one to the grave. why would yo ueven care to tell your hubby, think about it, what kind of person is he for not wanting to do anything baout his nephews and nieces? he is going ot defend his sis. so just keep your mouth shut on this one and keep calling until they do something about this situation, but dont let up that it is you that called. keep talking to her and the other family memebers. I think it is better unknown who calls anyway. good luckand keep an eye out ofr those kids. if the family wont then yo uahve to.
2007-09-09 15:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by Christina 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should never hide things from your spouse. He may be upset that you didn't consult him. Make sure he understands that you realize you should have talked with him first, but you feared for the children. If you hide things from your spouse it can cause problems. Also, if a trial comes up, you will be called to testify. If you wait until that happens it will be worse for your marriage. Talk to him and hopefully he understands your concerns. Good Luck.
2007-09-09 15:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by debepta 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You did the right thing. I applaud you someone had to speak for those poor children. Now forget about it and move on with your life b/c it will definitely bring you pain.
2007-09-09 15:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tough Call! You may want to question whether or not you should be with your husband if he didn't want to call them himself- they are after all his blood line.....That being said, you did call them so I'd ride it out and not say anything. By the way thanks for looking out for those kids!
2007-09-09 15:12:27 · answer #8 · answered by josie1126 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DON'T SAY A WORD!!!
For all the SIL knows, it was the neighbors finking her out.
Let her think that.
If she is all that dysfunctional, she could come after you... you know... like slashed tires and all that.
2007-09-09 15:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
girl you did the right thing, my dad was an abusive man and they saved my ***. but there is no relationship without trust. those kids will be thankful to have an aunt like you.
2007-09-09 15:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋