If your ex-g/f of 10 years played with your heart for a third time and because you truly loved her and you took her back AND then it ended and she went back three weeks later to the person she cheated you with, what would you do?
She cheated on me and got pregnant. I forgave her. She got an abortion. I forgave her again. We made love many times. I took great care of her for those three weeks, again, and was the perfect friend.
She owes me $1500 bucks. I am the ONLY one who knows about the abortion. If others knew no one would want anything to do with her again. If she doesn't pay should I tell everyone about the abortion? I am not angry that she left, I guess that was a blessing. What I am now angry about is something she did, which would take too much space to write.
So, what would you do? Just let it go? I guess I am stupid BUT put yourself in my shoes for a few seconds please. Thanks.
2007-09-09 14:46:44 · 8 answers · asked by cappatown23 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
PEOPLE CAN ONLY TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU ALLOW THEM TO. Move on, and I mean REALLY move on. Cut ties with her, no need for revenge because it seems to me like YOU have some work to do on yourself, nevermind her! What's done is done, why torture yourself? Figure out how you allowed this to happen to you and don't let it happen again. Learn from your mistakes. To set out to get revenge will just prolong the hurt and keep you involved with her that much longer.
2007-09-09 14:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remember the old saying that lending money is the quickest way to get rid of someone?
Apparently you didn't get the message the first time out and needed to shell out $1500 to get rid of her this time.
You have wasted 10 years on her and she is still trash.
Don't let her back into your life again.
Telling anyone about the abortion will not do anything... the ones that listen to you will simply say that it confirms what they always thought of her... and it only makes you look like a chump.
Move on. Get out there and meet some people.
2007-09-09 22:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally understandable that you want to tell about the abortion. That would not solve anything. It sounds like you should let the money go and just stay away from her. She is clearly having issues. This is destructive for you and those around you. Just keep clear of her. It may be hard, but it has to be done. Good Luck!! Also, Rule of thumb, NEVER lend money you can't afford to lose.
2007-09-09 22:00:02 · answer #3 · answered by debepta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed that she's not returning my money. However, if you can live ok without that money, I'd just get out of her life and leave her alone. She sounds a real loser. If you DO want that money and she won't/can't give you anything, you can take her to court (which would obviously make her abortion public). Who cares what people think about her. She obviously doesn't give a hoot about you. However, I doubt you signed anything with her that said she'd pay you back, so it would be your word against hers. She could just say that you agreed to pay for it yourself with no reimbursement expected. If I were you, I'd deal with the loss and get on with your life.
2007-09-09 21:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by Cochy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only be treated the way you allow people to treat you. Step back and look at this situation and then you decide what you really need to do,
2007-09-09 22:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... haha i know how tempting it sounds to tell everyone her secret...buuuuuuut it would make you look a little immature and such, and if you have to take her to court it'd look bad on you when she says you started telling everyone and was causing them to disown her and give her "mental anguish" or some bs...but i'd just take her to court...get your mulah and stop all communication with that *****.. good luck :)
2007-09-09 22:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by peacexlovexrocknroll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't give money away. I'll tell her pay me back or I sue her. And I would too if she didn't pay me back.
2007-09-09 22:27:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her to small clamis court and get you money back then run like heck.
2007-09-09 21:54:16 · answer #8 · answered by charlotte t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋