My friend tries to cook. She is sweet. But, she has no cooking skills. We've hinted at trying to tell her but she doesn't get the hint AT ALL. So today for lunch she had some of us over and I'm serious we were literally gagging down the food. None of us finished our food and we all just kind of snuck it into the trash. How do we deal with this?
2007-09-09 13:58:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If she should invite everyone over again, suggest that each person bring a dish (this is commonly called 'pot-luck) so that she doesn't have to do all of the cooking.
Or suggest politely that rather than her do all the cooking everyone go out for pizza, so you can all relax and enjoy each others company.
You could also buy her an inexpensive 'basic' cook book. Pick yourself up one at the same time and when you give it to her say something like "I bought one for me and thought you might enjoy it, too!" Later you can give yours to the next really bad cook you encounter.
Hope this helps.
2007-09-09 14:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by Belize Missionary 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think the way you dealed with it is exactly the way to deal with it. I mean if the food is so foul you're actually gagging...well...if you're gagging, your gagging. Just don't accept invitations to eat at her place anymore. Gosh, she must be a dimwit if she doesn't notice people gagging when they eat her food. Maybe she should stay away from the stove so that she won't accidentally set herself on fire.
2007-09-09 16:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably be honest about it cause chances are she is going to find out sooner or later. So you should tell her that
a)because youre a real friend that youre being honest
b)that you mean no offense
c)that you appreciate her efforts
d)and that you think its best to tell her now instead of later
e)and that you are willing to help her with the cooking
dont be surprised if she feels bad about it. however if she treats you and your friends badly cause of the truth then its her problem. she is probably gonna feel bad anyway cause you cant keep this up forever so if she cant handle the truth then, too bad. you dont need to hurt your appetite cause you dont wanna hurt her feelings.
2007-09-09 16:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nice of your friend to invite people over. When you accept the invitation it is polite to be nice about the food. I like the suggestion of offering to help her prepare the food. Other than that, just thank her for her generosity and catch some other dinner later.
2007-09-10 13:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a rare occurance that she has everyone over for a meal, be polite.
Maybe tell her you've been thinking about taking a short cooking class but don't want to go alone.
2007-09-09 14:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by paperpenandtea 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Stop hinting and just tell her. Honesty is the best policy. I dont know why people think they have to lie. She is your friend so if you tell her maybe you are saving her from future embarassment. What if she cooks for her work or something and it hurts her more? Just be honest or give her a recipe book and tell her it is because she cooks all the time.
2007-09-09 14:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by Matt L 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I am glad you love your friend!
next time she has you for dinner
ask her if you can bring your specialty
like an artichoke or something else you know
is easy to make but not everyone makes it.
then you can be in the kitchen where you might be useful and playful and still teach her something.
( like ,this is how my mom taught me)
other wise you guys are doing what you can do lol
and you are a wonderful friend!
2007-09-09 14:12:20 · answer #7 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Um, you can accually be a friend and tell her that her cooking blows. Then, you could tell her to watch Rachael Ray show everyday. And just cook with her to help her, it will be fun.
Have fun daddy
2007-09-09 15:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever considered offering to help her prepare the food when she invites you? That way you can sneak in some helpful hints and suggestions.
2007-09-09 14:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by LaMariposa 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
God, you women are so different from men. We would have puked right in front of one of our friends if he cooked nasty food for us and then ranked on him for days afterward. Are you SURE she isn't playing some mind game with all of you? Surely she eats this slop also -- does she have some sort of taste bud deformity? I think a little research is in order.....
2007-09-09 15:38:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋