almost 20 yrs old...and help after family meals also...
2007-09-09 13:57:28 · 11 answers · asked by goodcarol2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Her dad. She is too old for you to "parent" and she will resent you for it.
2007-09-09 14:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have been a part of this family? Grow the hell up! Communicate, communicate, COMMUNICATE. She is a grown adult and I imagine so are you now act like it and tell her woman to woman how you prefer the "family" kitchen to look after the feast has settled in. If she doesn't get it draw a picture. How can you love the man who is her father by blood and not have an inch of decency to talk to her like she is human. Granted this child did not come from you but to get respect you have to give it and its obvious you are not the mothering type to any child.
2007-09-09 21:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am a stepmother am i am only 25 the little girl is only 5.....but i have a step dad my whole life so hear is my answer....yes you should be able to tell her whatever it is you are a Step Mother!!!...so you have say....cause when you marry him you also marry the children. not menaing be the evil stepmom....but i let mine know what to do and take the role of being a motherly figure when she is at her fathers...she doesn't mind i correct her or even ask for help....and the same when i was growing up my stepdad gave me rules and i had to ask pwermission from him as well and i love him and never thought any different
2007-09-10 15:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by normal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is 19 years old, she shouldn't have to be told to help around the house, she should know. How about a family talk to explain what is required to mantain a healthy family coexistence, from everyone there. If she takes offence, then ask who would clean up after her if she had her own place.
2007-09-09 21:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody should have to tell a 20 year old. She should know that it is her duty to clean up the kitchen after she uses it. Wow, you sure have a selfish brat on your hands. Don't you? She probably doesn't go to school and doesn't have much of a job. Lazy and no ambition.
2007-09-09 21:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by Robert J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think asking your step daughter to help with dishes after meals is a big deal. I mean it's not like you are asking her to make the meals. It should be fine. I think it's cool either way, who ever asks her. Maybe you could ease on into like saying, "katy" or whatever her name is, tell me about the boy you are dating and as she starts talking move over to the dishes and ask her to help.
2007-09-09 21:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by Chicka 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HER DAD SHOULD LET HER KNOW WHAT HE EXPECTS OF HER ., YOU MARRIED HIM WITH A FAMILY , GRIN AND BARE IT ,, DO NOT BECOME THE EVIL STEP MOM ,, , It is not your place to get after his 20 year old daughter for anything ,, at least if you want your marriage to work .
2007-09-09 21:09:21 · answer #7 · answered by MASTIFF MOM 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when i used to live or visit my dad my step mom would ask me to do stuff but i would just ignore her.
so i say the dad and only the dad should ask.
2007-09-09 21:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her Dad, definately!
2007-09-09 21:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dad first
2007-09-09 21:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by gfrog82 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋