what should i do???

Question

my best friends bf just dumped her like 3 weeks ago
and now he wants to go out with me
ive always liked him
but now i love him
but my friend says she wants to die or something
wat should i do

Answer 1

I think you should wait.

Three weeks ago isn't that long ago. Your friend is obviously not over it. If you really are her friend, you should be there for her in her time of need. You going out with her ex bf isn't going to help immediately.

Having said that, that doesn't mean you can't go out with him. Wait a little while. Wait a week or two. If you love him as you claim (which I find hard to believe if you haven't been with him), and if he likes you back, it can be agreed that you won't go out for a week or two just to help your friend recover. If your friend doesn't recover within a month or two(it's been 3 weeks), she has a problem. She should get over it soon enough to the point where she can face the two of you being together. Of course, this is all circumstantial.

It's your decision to make, not ours.

Answer 2

Hey Kristen,

I'm pretty sure that what your friend says may not be true, but I think the best thing to do is talk to her about this guy. Tell her how you feel about him, and that he's asked you out. Tell her that you understand how much she still has feelings for him, but she's gotta let go, for her sake, before she starts to get too deep in the 'I-still-love-him-but-he-don't-love-me-back' process. It's kinda complicated and messed up at the moment, but you two girls have gotta talk this through, in order for you all to get somewhere. If she was your best friend, she'd understand and would want you to be happy, and if you were a true best friend to her, you'd want her to be happy too!

Secondly, do you think this guy is going out with you because he wants to get to know you, and probably take things a little further. Or is he just wanting to be with you simply to make yor best friend feel jealous? I'm not sure what this guy is like, but as you know him better than I do, it's your call. You get told this all the time, but do what you think is right. Choose the path that'll leave you still with your best friend.

Remember best friends will always be there for you, until the end, and boyfriends are whatever. Don't ever put a boy in front of your girls, best friends are your priority.

Btw, she's your best friend, and it hasn't been a long time since he dumped her, so I think it's best if you help sort her out first. She's obviously not over it all yet, so help her try and get over it first before you guys talk it out.

Answer 3

leave it alone hon, trust me this is NOT what you want in your life. Your friends should always come before any man. Your friend is hurting and if she was your best friend then you wouldn't do anything more to cause her any pain. You wouldn't be much of a friend either if you played on that emotion. And that really says a whole lot about character. You may think that you love him, but baby men come 2 cent a dozen. There will be another prince charming around the corner any day. Believe that

Answer 4

Best friends can last for years.
Boyfriends or guys you lust over can come and go.

Don't date your best friends' ex-boyfriend unless you have no heart. That would be a very cruel thing to do to another, especially when she is at her lowest point. The guy will just do to you what he did to your best friend, and you will lose your friend.

Let time go by, let your friend's heart heal. If you still care for her ex in a few months, or however long it takes for your friend's heart to heal, then take it at a step at a time.

Your friend needs you attention and compassion now.

Answer 5

It's hard to find a genuine friend whom we call bestfriend,if her bf dumped her and ask you to go out with you,would you like to give your symphaty to your bestfriend isn't it?It's because you know your bestfriend well than her bf,and what if he will going to do the same thing like what he did to your bestfriend?It isn't funny right?Even if you like him,you can still hold your feelings for him just for your bestfriend.

Answer 6

If you go out with him, you will lose your best friend.
All of a sudden you love him? What do you love about him. It looks like you are going to have to choose between them.

Answer 7

Listen, once u actually come close to dieing, its the last fkng thing u wanna do. Tell her she needs to grow up and pull herself together, she might be saying it to get attention or shes confused, honestly.... Hell no, dieing is a horrible experience trust me. As is getting close to it.

Answer 8

if your any kind of a friend you wont go out with him at all.thats a line you just don't cross.she's not even over him and your ready to date him?how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot and she was doing this to you?it would hurt that she would even consider it so you remember that.

Answer 9

o wow! i would just tell my friend that i really care about her and that her desiscion is the one that matters the most and that you love her no matter what and then i would say that i really like your ex-boyfriend and he really likes me but if you arent totally okay with it then i will totally just drop it and if you are then thats really cool and i really appreciate it and then tell her that she is a really good friend...good luck i had a previous situation but i was the one that got dumped and that is what she did and i was totally okay with it--and now im married!!...good luck!

Answer 10

If you really care about your friend, don't go out with him.
Real friend's don't date their friend's boyfriends even their exes.
There are alot of fish in the sea. Don't be bummed because you can't go out with one guy.