Confused and in SERIOUS need of advice!?

Question

Okay, so here's the deal: I just started junior high about two weeks ago, and I still have the same sort of crush as last year. Is that weird? Well anyway, I always considered him my friend, but he's not in any of my classes this year, and I don't know why but he won't talk to me! On the first day of school he said hi once when we passed in the hall, but he hasn't talked to me since. I can't tell whether he even notices I'm there, and so I thought I'd say something. I've gone over what I'd say a billion times in my head, but for some reason I can't get the words out. I try to relax, and just talk to him like I did last year, but I have this super shy person problem, and I don't know what to do. I'm still debating with myself about whether I even still like him, but searching for someone else just seems so stupid. I'm so desperate that I don't even care what happens after I talk to him, I just want to know that he's still at least my friend. What should I do??

Answer 1

the key is to stop thinking so much
thinking too much will mess you up
and i know this cuz im shy too.
im less shy than before though.. THANKFULLY!

Answer 2

By reading your question, I see that you have answered yourself as well within the question. Now a few things to take into consideration are these: You are in junior high now, well on your way to becoming an adult. Keep this in mind when these feelings of "shyness" come over you. You also have stated that you are at the point that you don't even care what happens after you talk to him, so what have you to lose? and finally, You have also stated that searching for someone else seems stupid. What would make you think that even if you did find someone else, that you wouldn't have the same problem talking to them? Here is what you should do: Simply walk up to him and say, "Hi (his name here), How are you liking junior high so far? What teachers do you have? Lets go get a coke sometime huh? These are all ice breakers for you, that after getting through them and as you talk for a while, you will find it easier to say what you are really wanting to say to him. Good luck.

Answer 3

Do the obvious;ask him.It is odd that a friend would just stop talking to another friend unless something has happened.While there is nothing weird about having a crush on the same guy for two straight terms, it is possible you may be allowing it to mess you up since he is not responding to you the way you would like him to. Although you are shy,you are just going to ask a friend why he stopped talking to you , not letting him know how you feel.Hence, start with :1)hi, did I do something to offend you;if not ,why have you stopped talking to me2)ask yourself if you are desperate because you don't like him anymore,or because you are frustrated because he has not responded positively,3) you should also consider what happens next after you get your answers---do you remain friends even if it is platonic and not romantic4)ask yourself if you want or need a new romantic guy in your life and there is nothing stupid about that;we all need someone5)decide if you want a friend who stops speaking to you for no reason----is that a friend?The minute you find answers to the questions above, things will become clearer to you and you will know exactly what to do.

Answer 4

The one thing that always helps me out when I had to ask someone out was just to not take it so seriously. Think that there are a billions of other people in the world. Sure, you want to be with this one person. But what I have found out is that it's not always met to be. Sometimes it takes someone longer to find the right person. Sometimes you get lucky and find that person right off the bat. So just talk to him the best you can, and keep your mind stress free. If it works, then F'n A. If it doesn't, then don't worry about it. You will find somebody soon enough. Trust me.

Answer 5

First off, I'm blown away by your spelling and grammar. That's going to get you very far in life. So why not start now? If you lock up when you try talking to him, write him a letter. Or if you want to be more casual, make it a note. (Bad joke. Anyway.)

Ask him if he wants to hang out sometime, or just get a conversation going in writing. Note passing is a popular activity in junior high, so it won't seem that weird to him. You'll have some time to figure out your feelings for him, and it'll get you guys a little closer again, a bit at a time. Best wishes, and good luck.

Answer 6

You just started junior high eh?... You say that searching for someone else just seems so stupid. Well it's not stupid you have many years ahead of you. I liked one girl for like 3 years, then in 9th grade I found out she was a total slut. You have many more years to find someone you really connect with, I have :), After that girl I liked for 3 years, I started liking this one girl I asked her to a dance, then she rejected me. Then I gave up for a few months but now I've found someone I can connect with on a personal level. Just don't worry about it yet, your too young, start messing around with dating and stuff in highschool. Now is your time to hang out with your freinds and build a solid freindship with them, because they really get tried in highschool. Summary: Don't worry yet, just be good freinds with the guy. He'll talk to you if he wants to, but he doesn't really care about girls yet. Beleive me I was once in junior high, and I cared about sports and playing the computer, not girls.

Answer 7

Hiney, just start talking to him! You're putting yourself through a bunch of unnecessary BS with all this thinking. Just do it! Nike-Goddess of victory. You go girl. You can do this!
Good luck
That's suppossed to 'honey', even though 'hiney's' pretty funny. Lol