Well, I'm kinda shy and all, especially when it comes to guys I like. How do I strike up conversation without seeming random or stupid? Especially since he's always next to his friend, listening to music, and they're never really talking. Advice would be really helpful!!!!
2007-09-09 13:42:05 · 18 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try asking what kind of music he likes.
2007-09-09 13:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask a question about something he might know. If he's listening to music just ask what he's listening too and then show some interest. I doubt he's going to look at you and walk away. If he's talking to his friend about something just say something you know about the topic. The biggest thing is that you need to keep your mind under control, the second you giggle or say something dumb that you can't back up is the second you lost his attention. In the long run guys always go for the girl that is real and not faking who she is. The bad side is he may like you as just a friend for a while but just be there for him more and be the good friend for a while, in the end if he feels very comfortable around you he will like you. Hope you get the guy in the end. Oh by the way have patience.
2007-09-09 20:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask about something you have in common. A class, an assignment, the sports team, an event that occurred in school, weekend plans, a common friend.
Ask a question that requires more than a yes or no answer. Something like, "What did you think about the football game last weekend", or "how did you find the information about the assignment in History class?". He'll say something, you say something back, you talk for a minute, say "Talk to you later", and move on. You're not looking for his life history or political views yet - just making contact, and letting him know that you're friendly, you have some common interests, and that you may talk more soon.
2007-09-09 20:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age-old question! Maybe you can pretend in your mind that he's a girl, and easier to talk to. Don't forget, he may be just as shy talking to girls as you are talking to boys.
The 2 guys are never really talking? They are listening to music, not talking. Besides, guys do not talk as much as girls. In general, women use 22000 words a day, men only 5-7000!
Suppose you went up to him and started a conversation? What could happen? For one thing, he'd probably, maybe secretly, be flattered. For another, if he does not like you that much, what's he going to do? He's not going to chew you out!
Remember, No you already have, Yes you can get. You have nothing to lose!
2007-09-09 20:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Wynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a crush on a friend of mine in this situation. Whenever we had a chance to talk (usually on the bus--we had a really long ride) he would be listening to music. So I'd say something like "My iPod has nothing good on it. What are you listening to?". He'd tell me and I'd either say I'd never heard the song of I liked it. Then he'd give me an ear bud (sometimes I'd be like let me listen) and we'd both listen to it. From there, there are tons of conversation possibilities. I'm shy too, so I know how hard it can be. email me at eleventeenfan@yahoo.com if you want to talk more
2007-09-09 20:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by eleventeenfan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might want to pay attention to what kind of music they're listening to - you can ask him & his friend questions about what they're listening to, fav bands. all that stuff. it sounds casual. The main thing is they'll think you're friendly (just don't over do it and make them feel like youre butting in). start off slow and only asking a few questions or making a few comments then increase it daily if they seem ok with it. If you only pay attention to the guy you like-it may make him and his friend feel akward. try to just talk casually with both of them since they sit together.
2007-09-09 20:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by Kimi Cabanna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who are always listening to music are "dis-inviting" people to talk to them. They are too cool to want to talk to anyone! Think hard about why you "really like" this guy. If he's just cute but unavailable, you're just having a hormone reaction! If he's someone special, you'll have the answer already. If he's kind to people, you can ask him what his favorite charity is. If he's good at writing, ask him if he keeps a journal. If he's sweet to animals, ask him what shelter he favors. If he's just, pardon the contrasts, but just like "hot" and "cool" at the same time, and you have nothing to go on to start a conversation with him, it's just hormones. You'll do yourself a favor by letting that one go! Good luck, sweetie!
2007-09-09 20:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by rb29440 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strike up a conversation based on the song or group he is listening to
2007-09-09 20:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by B W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all i kind of like it when girls are random and ACT dumb, i think it cute....but neways, just go and talk to him when hes not listening to music, general conversation is key to the start of a relationship, NO LYING!!!! be truthful, relationships built on lies never last.
-Good Luck
-Anthony
2007-09-09 20:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by Italiano-Guitarist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
compliment him on his music,or ask him about the music hes listening to.boys can be arrogant sometimes so he'll like the attention.start a conversation with him everytime you see him.he might find you interesting, and you might learn something about yourself.try to havs confidence in yourself.(besides he ain't ready for you) your a star shining in the sky so you are as special as he is.
2007-09-09 20:53:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go up and say hi guys can't back down from a girl coming over to say hi trust me...he'll always strike up a conversation
2007-09-09 20:46:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋