We have looked at some options like seperation for education etc. Her EOS is may 09. But it might be a seperation for only like 90 days. Colocation could take up to a year. There has to be a way. Being apart is starting to take a toll. And being in the Navy is really hard on her mentally. We need a answer!
2007-09-09 13:22:30 · 18 answers · asked by Eric Preece 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I'm an E-6 and she is a E-4. She has about a year and a half or so on her enlistment. We have both done deployments etc. She wants out to further education first off. But anyother way would be appreciated. We have both done our time and know what it means to join the military. But she has found out that its really not for her. We need real answers...not bulls#@t "why did you join in the first place" answers.
2007-09-09 13:57:35 · update #1
Too bad all of you guys with all your negative answers feel the way you do. You dont know our or my past and the things i have done for this country. The Navy is my career. Just...its not for her. So...if you have something negative to say, dont say it at all!
2007-09-09 14:01:26 · update #2
People are so easy to judge! Especially when you are annonymous on the internet. Maybe i phrased the inital question wrong and made it seem to desperate. Thats not the case. Ive made 3 deployments and been to the desert. So dont lecure me on duty to the country and all that. Cause i do that and know what its like, day in and day out. Funny thing is people who post to this, chances are that they havent been in the navy or the military. It's not wrong to want to further you education and to get out a little early to do that. They wouldnt have programs like that if it was. So...Once again...if you have a degrading or insulting comment, dont post it. This is suppost to be a support help site. Not a bash and make you feel like sh@t one. So keep that to yourself. If you cant be respectful, and feel the need to insult and judge. Maybe you need help instead of finding others to point the finger at.
2007-09-09 15:17:04 · update #3
its not even nessasarialy that she want s out, we just want to know the easiest and fastest way to get colocated if thats what you want to call it. without doing something that would either get her in trouble or doing i the wrong way. I do know the navy and would not encourage doing things the wrong way. I just want to know if there is something i havent thought of or a loophole that i dont know about.
2007-09-10 11:17:54 · update #4
She should have thought of that before signing up.
With that being said, perhaps you should have her go see a doctor to be evaluated on her mental condition.
I hope you and her are not trying to shirk her duty, a duty she fully and freely agreed to when signing up to join the Navy.
2007-09-09 13:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by * 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My husband has been in the Navy for two years. We married last August, and between me going to school full time in Maine, and him being stationed in San Diego and his deployments, I've seen him once since our wedding. It is not easy, and there are days when both of us regret the military thing, but when its all said and done, it's half over. Despite the hardships that come with being a military family, he loves what he does and is considering reinlisting. The military is the best thing thats ever happened to him, and he's the first to say it. No one knows you or your past, but i've got to agree with the majority. Life isnt easy and we have free will and make our own decisions... this means we need to live with the consequences. She's almost done, she's made it this far whats so horrible about just finishing?? If my husband and I can work through the distance (even though we HATE being apart) you can too. Suck it up and deal.
2007-09-09 14:50:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you really should have a better idea of how to get her out if you're E-6, you NCO's are supposed to know everything. But i'd put my money on education or pregnancy. Seriously though, she's not Army/Marine Corps, and the Navy isn't THAT bad, she can probably suck it up for 20 months. It's not like she's getting ******* shot at and road-bombed every day. The hardest decision i'll bet she has to make is what flavor powerade to have at chow. Do what you can to colocate, or one of the options above, and in the meantime remind her that 20 months really isn't that bad of a wait.
2007-09-10 09:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it. I suppose the reason so many negative response came your way is because you set it up negatively. What is so bad about the Navy that your girl can't handle meeting her VOLUNTARY obligation? Nobody forced her to sign up so she should just bear down and finish her time honorably.
The second problem is in your question you say you are an E-6. Why don't you know the answer? I was an E-6 and knew more about Navy programs than most officers and chiefs ever will. It was MY JOB to take care of my people. It's your's too. Get on it.
One thing more. I have never once heard somebody tell me they were glad they got out as early as possible. In fact almost every one of them says they wish they had staid in! Good luck to both of you.
2007-09-09 14:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by morgan j 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I have no sympathy for you or her she seems like she can not keep a commitment but a for sure way to get booted is fail a drug test she will be out real fast. Now IF you were a real man you support her and encourage her to stick it out I am quite sure that you are a Major cause for her WHINNING and not the Navy maybe she wants some cheese to go with that whine. Your both a couple of QUITTERS so I hope she gets out on Dishonorable or a Other Than honorable.
2007-09-09 13:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-04 07:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were any kind of 1st class petty officer, you would know how to use the resources available to you at your command in order to get the answers to your questions, instead of whining about it in yahoo. What are you some kind of push button 1st class? Talk to a chaplain or CMC. It would help if you were married also because fiancé don’t mean squat to the navy.
2007-09-09 17:36:19 · answer #7 · answered by Tincan Navy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to adapt and learn to cope with the Navy.
There are many many other service personel who are dealing more than she is and not whining.
My message to her "Get over it"
Walk through Walter Reed and see is she has something to complain about.
Hey Eric I have been on deployments 9 months plus and at sea for 100 days plus.
I was on a real steaming demon and I was at the end of my rope and made it so can your love one.
Support her and she will make it too.
2007-09-09 13:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Just quit. Its a less than honorable discharge, but unless she is in the War, its an option. A nervous breakdown will get a Section 8.
2007-09-09 13:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by mandrake62896 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Awwwwwww!! Didn't you realize you'd be seperated once she went in?Did she expect it to be a sorority house?
I really hope this is something like we all went through at one time or other and tries to work her way through it.
I may sound harsh, but remember, she made a committment to the navy of her own free will.
Terll her to use the chain of command. Also tell her this, don't be foolish and do something which would brand her a quitter the rest of her life. It lools terrible on a job app or a resume.
2007-09-09 13:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by Barry auh2o 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋