I’m a 25 year old male, who suffers with Anxiety and Depression. I have had these problems for a very long time. You see I was bullied and beaten as a child. I see no way out of my Anxiety and Depression, other than death. Don’t worry though, I’m too much of a coward to kill myself. I guess waiting for death is the only way out for me. I only hope that it is soon, and that it’s quick and painless. I just don’t want to suffer anymore. Having this condition for the rest of my life, or the majority of it, that is if I ever get well. Is not how I planned to live my life. And putting up with it for any longer is something I just cannot do. Because I have tried to get well. I’ve been to the doctors, and have started group therapy. Which I think is a waste of time. Nothing seems to work for me.
2007-09-09 13:16:39 · 13 answers · asked by X 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Do you need a friend Trev?
Sometimes its better to share these things
There is a way out but it's a long slow process. Your life is worth living & you are an important person on this earth.
I'm a friend if you need one.
2007-09-09 13:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by Ask_Elvis 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I won't bore you with the names of all the medications possible, there are too many and you need them prescribed anyway. And I certainly won't tell you this is your own doing, or to get over your problems and not to be a coward because that is stupid. I won't try to give you spiritual counselling because in your condition it wouldn't do any good, whether or not I believe in it or not.
I will tell you that you probably have a chemical imbalance, and if you have only seen the GP then you are being inadequately treated. You need to see a psychiatrist, and to continue the group therapy. If you have seen a psychiatrist, then tell him about your thoughts regarding death being your only answer. You may well need a short course of intensive therapy in an inpatient facility. This would allow your psychiatrist to work with you and the group therapist more quickly and to try the medications easier to find the right combination for you. You may need to be on meds for life ot they may be able to decrease them and possibly stop them over time. Give yourself the time to find an answer. It won't be quick, but most people with mental health issues can be controlled.
2007-09-09 19:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by US_DR_JD 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi I have had bipolar disorder from my teens and had problems with it right up to my mid 20s - what I really want to encourage you with is that by the time I got past 25 I was sooooo much better. Apparently mental health issues can indeed get better at that age as the brain chemistry changes to put it basically! I just wanted to let you know I thought my life would never change and I would be ill forever but now I love life which changed in just a couple of years! (27 next week!)
2007-09-10 05:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by kaleidoscope_girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can make a full recovery indeed! I give you good news and hope.
You had a rough childhood and are filled with anger. When the anger is not dealt with properly, it turns inwards and becomes depression with anxiety.
So what do you do now? I believe in psychiatric care, the changing of one's thought processes, and forgiveness - yes forgiveness.
Medication is most helpful and a doctor who cares. Have you been on any medication?
Finding a passion towards another person, or one's work, or a spiritual being is another antidote. This changes the way the mind is working from negative thoughts to positive thoughts. Surround yourself with upbeat people and avoid as much as possible the negative, human vampires!
And then forgiveness. Forgiving is the ultimate freeing of one's burden. Realizing that these people either knew no better, were victims themselves, or ill, will give you permission to pity and feel sorry for them, which then leads to forgiveness for their sins against you.
You will change. Your depression will lift. Your anxiety disappear. I know from what I speak. For I have lived a similar life and have made a full recovery. And most importantly, have found happiness.
This will happen to you too. Trust me. Find a doctor for starters and then take my suggestions to heart. Think deeply about what I've said. It truly works.
2007-09-09 13:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by Marguerite 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hey dont give up just yet, Not meaning to sound trite or anything but there are other options. Such as holistic health chinese healers, or the other end of the scale is E.C.T. (electro-convulsive therapy). Sounds harsh but a friend of mine had it some years ago, after suffering deep depression and it turned her life around. Im no expert in depression or anxiety but please try other options and dont focus on death as a release. You are way too young to feel this way forever. B.Mac may sound harsh but he's just trying to kick you into moving on, if only it were that easy eh?
Your life is on hold while you are experiencing these emotions but please please hang in there. x
Please be cautious about Fluoxetine it can cause suicidal thoughts in the under 30's. Check out the research.
2007-09-09 17:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by milly 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ah darlin', you can't spend your life 'waiting for death', it comes too soon for most people, honest it does. I hate that you're suffering, I know,it's all black and pointless, but.... I've been trying to think of ways to persuade you that life is worth living and worth living to it's fullest and I've come up with a list of things that you have to do before you die: Sorry if it's dull, but am not going to do the 'there there, never mind' sympathy thing, just have a think about what you're missing:
Go to the top of Mont Blanc (or any mountain) + see the mountains in winter
Sunset over a west Cornish beach (or any west coast beach - has to be over the sea, though)
Thunderstorms, anywhere
fireworks at a fair
A pub in West Ireland at closing time (has to be west ireland, can't think of an American substitute, sorry)
Driving around a greek island in a hire car
Go for a walk in Autumn (fall?) + just kick the leaves
Buy a scalextrics + and a bear
Being the first person to put your footsteps in new snow
Take a photo of Blue Sky, with little scudding clouds
Waves on a beach
Flying a kite
Seeing who can go up higher on the kids swings, or just having a go by yourself.
I have heaps more, and I'm so sorry, because I think you helped me more than I've helped you. Ok then, got one more: helping people who feel the same way you do. You just did that, for me by making me think about why it's all still worth it for me. thanks.
2007-09-09 14:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have been exactly the same as that, and every now and then I still have the odd blip but only for a few hours every few months. Yes you definately can recover from it. I did it by totally changing my life to do things I know I'm good at, mix with new people, see yourself as someone different is the place to start. Once you start to feel positivity from others it will make you feel the same. I know others in your situation who are not ready to make changes in their lives just yet but trust me....if you find a little bit of strength from somewhere and do something positive...new job of friends etc...you'll be amazed at the effects. Its a step by step process and only you can start it. Dont bother with group therapy the last thing you need is other peoples depression to feed off.....positive people and positive situations are the key. Let yourself enjoy tother peoples happiness instead of resenting it and you'll find yourself feeling better. Good luck and I promise you it will happen!!!!
2007-09-09 13:29:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ignore people telling you to embrace life or get over it. I've never suffered with depression but I know anxiety and how debilitating it can be. What you need is a good doctor who can start a course in anti-depressant medication for you and supervise it constantly, you also need to remember (which is really important because people are not warned enough) that the side effects of medication ESPECIALLY SSRI's can make you feel 10 times worse in the beginning but are worth seeing through till the beneficial effects start to work, while they are I reccomend a reputable counsellor/psychiatrist to talk the feelings through with and a network of supportive people around you. that B****** who told you that you were causing it knows F*** all about mentall illness and probably thinks he got bad ratings for his answer cos "noone likes the truth" when infact he is an ignorant ****, so what he had a shitty childhood and got over it? he has good brain chemistry lucky him, the rest of us have to put up with this kind of ignorance as our brains malfunction and we feel helpless, but THERE IS HELP, please don't give up find a doctor who will help you. please xxxxxxx
2007-09-09 16:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by TroutSniff 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Look I really do understand your condition, my best friend Took and overdose and killed himself 2 hours after i had been pleading with him to think positively, that was 5 mths ago, i miss him with all my heart and the people he left behind hurt far worse now than he ever did. He had schizophrenia. You have to Keep going Fight on or else your just going to cause a worse hardship and pain for all who love you. Be Strong think positive and get well. Please!!!
*hugs n kisses* xxx
2007-09-09 22:26:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Trev!! what are you doing to yourself....christ! mate theirs a whole load of stuff out there. its all yours!! if you such a coward how come you got the raw guts to face up to it? cowards dont do that, they make excuses. i had a bad start to my life too. its up to you to put it behind you. no therapist can do that you have to take controle in the same way that you took controle when you asked the question on this site. there are bastards in this world. there are nice people too. dont waste the next 25 years cos you aint going ta die ....your just gonna be misserable. best way ta show the bastard that ill treated you is to servive it. dont let the tosser win. SERVIVE!!! get your head up and move forward. then taste the pride in how you came through.
2007-09-09 13:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋