In our marching band, we have two people in the mellophone section, me and one other guy. I'm the section leader, but I'm a sophomore and the other guy's a junior. This junior is a bit pushy and tends to comment on other people in other sections. Lately, this is starting to get annoying and unconstructive.
Me being a section leader, I technically have authority over him, but since he's a junior, he has been in the band program longer and knows more than I do. I've tried telling him he needs to back off from commenting, but he says he's doing it for "the good of the whole band." Several other people have told me he's getting really annoying. What should I do so I can get my point across, but not be really rude?
2007-09-09 13:10:53 · 3 answers · asked by anonymousperson 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I know what you're going through!! I was the section leader in my high school band when I was in the 8th grade. ( very small school) I was over juniors and seniors too. If I were you, I would speak to your band director or maybe the drum major. The band director apparently thought that you would be better for the job than he is, so he/she should be more than willing to help you with this problem. I would bring up that it's not just you that's having a problem with this guy and that he's bringing down the morale of the band as a whole. The director needs to set this guy straight if he's not willing to listen to you. Go to the director and voice your concerns. You were picked as section leader for a reason, stand up for yourself!! Good luck!
2007-09-10 10:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by Justinsmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try explaining to him that if he wants to help the band then if he has any constructive criticism for a particular individual he should take his suggestions to them personally because making unflattering comments only serves to lower morale and cause division among members of the band. Then if he doesn't stop it you should consult someone with more authority like the band leader and ask them to come and talk with him because his attitude is hurting rather than helping the band as a whole.
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2016-09-05 08:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋