did you ever think there could be a evil person aka your mother how can you try to forget or release some of the anger you have towards her my father had died and she was seeing someone while my dad was sick and when he was sick she made him do all the errands.i mean how can a person deal with such a evil mother shes not my real mother either but shes done so much i just wish i knew what to do .she literaly had her new husban with in less then a mointh after my dad died.
2007-09-09 11:38:29 · 16 answers · asked by sweet_smile872000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The way you related your history, I understood that she is your stepmother,(AM I right?).
I do believe she did not love your father and has no respect for his memory. IIdo not know how old are you?
Maybe would be better if you could take care of yourself, alone, who needs such a person anyway?
Sorry my English is not good. I am brazilian,portuguese speaking but like people all over the world
2007-09-09 11:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dora adora Dilma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The anger should ease up in time. I know it's hard to deal with, but just when is the right time for her to move on with her life? My guy was in the same situation several years ago only it was his Mom who died & his adopted Dad who remarried so soon after. He wouldn't deal with it for a super long time, but now we go there for holidays and such and he gets along with them both like it never happened. I'm sorry for your loss and hope you can learn to cope with the situation . Good luck.
2007-09-09 19:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by brutally honest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry. That is a terrible situation. Kind of a Cinderella type thing. Try being out of the house as often as possible. Avoid her when you can and don't take any s.hit from her.
If you are not afraid of her wrath, never ever call her 'mom'. Call her by her first name and if she insists on you calling her mom, do it sarcastically. And call her husband Mr.(his last name here) or by his first name if you are forced to.
Try to preserve your fathers memory as much as you can. Keep pictures of him around the house, or at least in your room. Celebrate his birthday, and do something on his day of death. Some people wear black armbands as remembrance of their lost ones...
Good luck.
2007-09-09 11:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by cambrexia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I'm sorry about your dad. That alone has to be a nightmare to deal with. As for your mom, I'd be furious and the new guy would not be aknowledged by me at all. I would go see a counselor or a therapist. Once again I'm so sorry you're having to go through this.
2007-09-09 11:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by clayp72 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 08:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooohhh girl im so sorry.. first of shes not your reall mother then wheres the real one??? look for the real one and go live with her ... or just wait until your 18 or go to college and get a good carrier and that is good enough that u dont have to live with that ugly lady and live your own happy life.. just hold on u'll pass trough this one!
always believe in god!
good luck,
your friend Jacky
2007-09-09 11:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by Jacky rox 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if its too hard to tell her your feelings through talking... write it down...and hand it to her and leave... you have a right to be angry...i mean, if she cared for your father and did what she could to make his last years, months as best as she could...and then got a new dude..seems acceptable... but what she did just isn't...i know that and so would just about any other person you told this to...let her know... but find a way to forgive her...you cant let go of something someone has done until you forgive them... you dont have to be close to her if you dont want to...but she needs to know how you feel so you dont keep it all inside and drive yourself mad.... good luck... and im so sorry about your father <3.
2007-09-09 11:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by peacexlovexrocknroll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not hold onto your anger distance your self from this women , she is toxic to you, let it go .
Buddha says Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned.
2007-09-09 11:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by MASTIFF MOM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know how old you are nor did I know what the relationship is if she is not your real mom. I do know this much the load you are carrying is too heavy for anyone. I am sorry
2007-09-09 11:47:39 · answer #9 · answered by mary texas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about that. I think it might be useful to go to an counselor to help you resolve this. You can call around and ask for recommendations that fit your budget.
2007-09-09 11:48:59 · answer #10 · answered by bookworm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋