2007-09-09 11:32:40 · 22 answers · asked by MoPleasure4U 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It depends... You have no obligation to tolerate consistently rude and unpleasant behavior from someone who is supposedly a friend. But if you rejected someone because you knew he/she is a member of a Southern Baptist church, and you know that *all* Southern Baptists are categorically judgmental and holier-than-thou, *that* would be wrong.
2007-09-10 03:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to agree that there is a difference between thinking you are above someone and not enjoying someone's company. Now... if you 'judge' them for being a holier-than-thou person, then I think you're in the wrong!
2007-09-09 18:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by pedudek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really just has to do with your energy levels at the time...
Do you really have the energy to put into a friendship like this?
They need a friend worse than you do (because of the whole attitude problem) so you only need to decide whether you can help them...
It's fine, if you can find a more productive place for your energy - to go on ahead and toss them away...
Guilt is not a good enough reason to keep beating your head against a wall... they would be better served by your rejection of their bad behavior than they would your acceptance of it.
2007-09-09 18:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by rabble rouser 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A holier than thou person could never be my friend so I'll never have to worry about that. Why are you?
2007-09-09 18:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting problem, eh? No...there will always be people who believe that their way of relating to God is better than anyone else's...the right wing, or extremists in any religion.
Be careful though, that you are not misjudging this person. Try to explain how they make you feel, and perhaps, you can both come to a better understanding of each other's feelings and fix the situation and save a friendship. Not all of us are aware of how we 'come off' to others. Give this friend your honest opinion, tactfully and calmly. If they blow up, you can walk away with a clean conscience. If they understand and make attempts to restore the friendship, then you both win.
2007-09-09 18:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by teacupn 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my experience we who are not with religion have a conscience and those holier than thou have not... they benefit by our trying to be to honest and just.... In the end they just screw you around.... ditch em and don't look back.... it's the best thing for you...
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2007-09-09 19:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by Gypsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!
A friend is "a person whom one knows, likes, and trusts."
If you do not "like" someone, they are not your "friend" ... even if they want to be.
Pretending that you are friends with someone that you do not like is disingenuous and a terrible waste of your time and energy.
If you find "holier-than-thou" behavior to be distasteful and people who engage in such behavior to be unlikable, you should feel free to reject their friendship.
2007-09-09 18:45:04 · answer #7 · answered by Zarathustra 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a tricky grey area. If you reject him because his religious beliefs, I'd say yes. If however, you reject him because of his arrogance, not so much. If you're rejecting him because of belief, you are doing exactly the same thing. By rejecting him because of his arrogance, you're simply saying 'I don't like the way you're treating me by thinking you are better than I am'
2007-09-09 18:38:12 · answer #8 · answered by mist_dark 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends if that is the reason why you are rejecting them. If you reject them because they, say, started an illegal dogfighting and gambling ring, then that's a different case
2007-09-09 18:41:00 · answer #9 · answered by wdaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I like that question.
For me, I think that even though I am called to love my neighbor and respect people, that doesn't necessarily mean I have to go to the movies and hang out with them.
You can respect people without being their actual "friend".
2007-09-09 18:35:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋