I got an invitation for a destination wedding. Even though the wedding is in 2 months, the postmark on the envelope was sent 8 days before the coulple wanted the RSVP card sent back to them. I got it in the mail 1 day after they wanted it back.
I had no choice but to decline because that was not enough time for me to make travel plans. So, I called the bride to RSVP because I actually got the invitation AFTER the requested date.
Today the bride called to complain that I hadn't sent the return card back! WHAT?!
Please, tell me what is the proper amount of time to expect a return RSVP for a destination wedding. Did I do the wrong thing?
2007-09-09 10:48:09 · 4 answers · asked by beckini 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You are fine. The bride and groom made the mistake of mailing their invitations too late. You did explain to the bride that the invitation didn't reach you until it was too late to either respond or make travel arrangements. You were still obligated to call the bride and explain the above to her. It is not your fault though that the invitation didn't arrive on time. Send a nice gift certificate in a wedding card as a gift and put this behind you. All invited guests must be given time to respond. They cannot possibly do that if the invitation arrives after the last date to RSVP and that is exactly what you need to tell the bride and anyone else from the wedding party that wants to get nasty with you about this situation. Keep and show the invitation envelope if you must as proof and show it to the bride-genius. Maybe for her next wedding, she'll wise up. You might be glad you are missing this event. Should be a hoot.
2007-09-09 11:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by teacupn 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Here the proper etiquette with wedding invitations is to send them out not less than 3 months before the event, with a one month RSVP date. That gives two months to finalize catering, allows people to organize travel and accommodation.
But this may vary from place to place.
However it is proper etiquette to reply to a written invitation in writing, even if you have previously phoned. The cards were probably her way of keeping track of who was and wasn't coming.
2007-09-09 17:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a frazeled bride. My guess is she forgot your phone call, and she is not getting many RSVP since her invites were obviously sent out late.
You did not do the wrong thing.
2007-09-09 18:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. It was the couples' lack of planning and organization which caused this issue.
2007-09-09 18:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋