If a person shouts at you, then do you...?

Question

(a) Ignore him completely because the person is rude and inconsiderate

(b) Shout back at the person

(c) Think carefully about the reason why s/he is shouting at you

Answer 1

It depends on my dynamics of the day what I do. I am rather unpredicable even to myself. I don't respond the same way to similar situations all the time. Sometimes especially in my youth I have impulsively shouted back, and now all that I can do about those times is remember deeply amused about how I responded.

Ideally, I should remain silent, and consider what the person is shouting about and what the contextual cues reveal about why the person may be shouting. In practice, however, the vengeful impulse to retaliate cannot be so easily silenced. I can completely ignore only perverted men flirting badly.

Answer 2

I think it depends on the situation and where you are at. I work in an Emergency Department and get yelled at all the time. I have to be professional and basically sit back and take it and create an apology speech. But if I were any other place and did not have to risk getting fired than I might just shout back at the person. It would be nice to say I would ignore them and be the bigger person but I just can't be yelled at and walk away.

Answer 3

I would c) think carefully about the reason why the person is shouting at me because then I could decide whether they are worth yelling back or are too pitiful and must be ignored.

Answer 4

C
Shouting back when you are unprepared will generally make you appear stupid. Generally a person has a reason for shouting at you, perhaps you are in the wrong; at least listen and evaluate. However, I do insist they stop yelling after a few moments, but continue to listen to what they have to say.

Answer 5

The operative word here is "at." One can shout with someone as well -- such as one does at a ball game or concert, which energy consists of a completely different quality and frequency and essence.

See the point I make here? The intent (what the purpose is to be served) of the shout is what imports as much as does the context (or container) important on where the shout is placed.

Now, the energy (or content) -- that is, the reason for the shouting, your mistake or the other guy's -- gives you the read on just how to respond or 'not' respond: both have tactics as how best to proceed... 'That' is the principle.

Under the umbrella of this principle, the action is prescribed and determines the summons to be delivered -- whether you confront head on or you opt to egress. [But all of these determinants must not be left to equivocation*(see below)]

Comes now still another principle that supersedes the one outlined above -- this is the principle, Neutrality:

Whatever is the cause, ensure that the resolve is to 'conclude' with neutrality, which effort usually demonstrates and requires a greater skill, for shouting of itself is easy in that it outright tends to dissolution, destruction: It is harder for us to design and construct than merely destroy.

Neutrality, on the other hand, always succeeds at construction both directly and indirectly as well as proper closure to the Cycle related to the cause of the shouting.

[* see above] This action should not be a passive thing nor can it be something that should be felt best to be placed in the hands of 'Something' supposedly Greater than us to take care of, which conclusion demonstrates irresponsiblility. For following such conclusion come denial, deception, and fog --the unspoken and primordial.

You have to peer into the nature of causes first -- not too heavily indulged, however -- and at once reckon the consequences of the resolve you are taking second [as you indicate in your Choice (c)].

Shouting is a glaring example of an action that a most important Law of Life addresses: the Law of Silence.

As regards your question specifically we will say this. The Law of Silence requires that we keep to those things of which if stated take our personal power and spaces from us or our intent; it affords a person to allow some tender thing that we hold dear be kept in quiet watch and nurturing till such time as it to be given out or made known, which if spoken before its maturity violates the purpose of Neutrality and thus causes certain harm or 'destruction' to our own self-esteems or those of others'.

Yet this same Law is a two-edged sword: to remain Silent when one needs to speak is, too, a violation of that same Law. When one does not speak when he or she should, this ensures that imbalances will ensue. When we are addressing another person, we are not just talking with or to another person but as well addressing the very fabric of all in and around us -- in a word, a Universe.

To upset that dynamic is to upset the very equilibrium of the Universes within and outside of us, which reverberates in not so obvious ways but is indeed real -- indeed as real as the house in which you live and the brick or stucco that constitutes your house.

So when you are met with this circumstance, you are in essence working on behalf of something truly vaster than yourself and as equally tender.

Answer 6

Don't shout back if its a cop. If it's your 5 year old kid who's shouting at you cuz you didnt buy him a toy, then you should probably tell him to shut his trap.

There is no universal answer for what to do when someone is shouting at you or being hostile.

Answer 7

I never shout back. I try to remain the calmest person in the situation, so I will remain in control.
First, I look at them with wide eyes and a determined look on my face and say, "You need to calm down."
This tells them two things....First, that they are being rude, and second that I am not going to be tolerate it.
Then, if they dont calm down, .....to show that I am not going to discuss anything with them until they are going to be reasonable.....I walk away.
When they want to talk, I will talk with them. I may be in the wrong or may be in the right............who cares....
No one ever needs to shout at me. I am very easy to talk to, so this should never happen.

Answer 8

I think I tend to do B, but as I mature I do C...
If they are on the phone, I say, "call me back when you can be more polite" and I hang up. This has been known to piss off the lawyer in my office, but I see no reason to be screamed at. Grew up being screamed at! I try really hard not to scream at my kids. But it sure is hard sometimes!! Never is effective though.

Answer 9

I pick choice C.

The person could be warning me of a falling piano from the sky. Or, calling me over to share her million-dollar prize.

I wouldn't be too haste to yell back, or ignore her.

Answer 10

A would be best but a lot of times I over think and end up pulling a C.