What can I do to make it stop!?

Question

I was raised by bypolar people (stepmom) people more concerded with there signifigant others than me (father) and by someone who cared for me very deeply (Mom)
Heres how it happend
when I was 8 my parents got divorced because my dad cheated. Then he met a woman who was bypolar and was quite the pill popper. One day she loved me the next day she couldn't stand any of us her kids me my sister and my father family meeting were basically well scarey they never hit us but it diDn't feel like they were far from it.
My Mom was devestated she cried alot I later found out my father tried to choke her when she found receipts from a hotel in his pocket he ended up letting her go I still feel horrible for my reaction "Don't talk about my Dad like that"!
My Dad and his GIRLFRIEND tried to make us not like our Mom any fight we had they tried to make us think she loved me or my sister more.6 years into this hell and My mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer.to be continued what can I DO?

Answer 1

You were only 8 when your parents split up. People were giving you mixed messages about what was going on and since you were a child, you couldn't sort out what was truth and what was fiction. Maybe you still aren't sure. But now you are faced with the probable loss of a parent and a short amount of time to sort out truth from falicy. Sadly, sometimes one persons perception of truth is not truth from anothers. You are going to have to accept that when it comes to divorce, Both people are probably at least in part, at fault.
That being said, you need to forgive your mother for whatever her part was. Tell her that you were only a child and although you know you blamed her for a lot, you are now old enough to see that she has suffered a lot and that she was not to blame for a lot of what happened. Tell her you love her and give her the hugs she has missed. Hopefully, she will take it from there and give you some of the answers you are looking for. Ask her about her childhood and funny things that she remembers about your childhood or her own. What colors she likes and what she thought about when she first saw you. Those will be very precious memories that you will want if she does in fact pass on , and you will take her thoughts away from her current unhappy situation. Good Luck to you both.

Answer 2

I've been advised approximately 10000 instances that I'm no longer a Real Christian (TM) since my ideals do not fall in with the extremist occasion line. I proportion a few of your perspectives. I keep citizenship in a mundane country (the United States). There are many paths to God. I take aspect in each Christian and non-Christian rites. I am no longer fearful of non-Christian affects. I refuse to make use of my faith as an excuse for bigotry and hatred. Anyway, congratulations for no longer seeking to shove the Divine right into a one-measurement-suits-all field.