I am currently a junior in college and so is my girlfriend of 5 years. We are both planning on graduate school but we were wondering if getting engaged before our senior year is what we should do and should we get married after college but before graduate school? Let me know what you think.
2007-09-09 09:33:22 · 13 answers · asked by ClosingTime 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think that if you love each other and can make it work even though you will both still be busy with school , then why not? At least give the poor girl a ring to show that you plan to take this further one day
2007-09-09 09:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by Brandi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why do you want to get engaged after college and before graduate school? Both of you need to concentrate on school first. Finish graduate school, get a job, get engaged, and then get married. I know some people say that it's OK to be in engaged for a long period of time. I don't agree with that. I think you should get married after about 1 year of being engaged. If the two of you love each other then the two of you can wait.
2007-09-09 09:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by Caitlyn 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How do you two define being engaged? Hopefully, it's beyond the ring and the promise that you'll be married soon. Only you two can know how strong your communication is between each other, how much your finances positively or negatively affect your relationship, not to mention your spiritual life and family life (childhood experiences, how your parents raised you). Finishing/pursuing more education should not determine when you should get engaged. If you're open to discussing your plans for your future with each other, map it all out--5, 10, 15, 30, 50 years from now. Since your plans and your values (what's important to you) will be different from other couples', make sure your hearts are right and you know you'll always be there for each other--even when family and friends may think your idea is crazy or not logical.
When my husband and I met almost 7 years ago, and we went steady, we knew within months that we were meant to be together forever. But, at that time, we were both in college, no stable jobs yet, and we still lived with our own families. So, as we grew in our relationship, we worked towards getting the things in life we wanted straightened out so that we didn't have to depend so much on family financially, that we had a great education, that we had stable jobs, and we had a vision for our lives together. When we found mentors to guide us towards realizing our vision (using an incredible business vehicle), we knew that it was ready to become engaged and, later, get married, no matter what anybody else said. We were fortunate to have the blessings from both families for us to be married, but only we knew the right timing. We are blissfully married now for 2 years.
So, think it through, talk it through, plan it out, seek mentors with the lifestyles you want to duplicate, and make decisions based on the fact that you love each other and that you can't imagine being without the other person.
2007-09-09 10:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by arcebal.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many people do get engaged the Christmas Break/second term of their senior year so that would fall in line with tradition. If you plan on attending the same graduate school I'd say go ahead.
2007-09-09 11:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by Manny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say go for it it thats what you want.
My fiancee and me got engaged in 2005 after 4 years of dating we were in our 2 year of college, well life is funny and my brother died, I droped out, so did he, we both moved home and now we are atttending other schools. We have decided to wait until he is out of his which is 2.5 years and then get married. I think its funny because we will have been together for 9 years before we tie the knot. Life doesn't work out how you planned. Go ahead and get engaged or save up for an extra year either way you both love each other.
2007-09-10 07:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by rate86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would graduate first then start your life together married out of school. Planning a wedding is hard. I can't imagine doing school, working and planning all at once. It's an overload!
I know five years seems like a long time, but what's the hurry? Take your time and don't jump into it with school going on.
2007-09-09 09:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by Tostito 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should get married when you both can afford to do so. I'm assuming that you two are going to be gainfully employed sometime in the near future. That would be a good time for marriage. Besides, your parents are probably getting sick of supporting adults.
2007-09-10 06:26:33 · answer #7 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say you should deffinitlli get engaged after graduation.. coz when youre getting engaged youn want to be able to concentrate on that and enjoy that and that wouldnt be possible if you have to think and worry about other things like graduation and studying and passing.. i would defennitlli advice you to wait..
good luck
ps: 'Good things come to them who wait'
2007-09-09 09:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by lebanesebabe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only the two of you can decide what's right for you.
Good luck on Senior year!
2007-09-09 09:46:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
engagement is just another step up... it doesnt mean you have to get married right away... i say get engaged when you feel its right, then get married when thats right... no one has set an "engagement time limit"
2007-09-09 11:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋