people have been telling me that i'm intimidating to guys but i can't figure out why. i'm a recent college grad and i plan to return to school. i'm petite and i've been told that i'm pretty. i have a dry sense of humor and i can be really silly, but i work hard and i'm responsible. i usually get along well with people. i care about how i look but i definitely don't spend tons of money or time on my appearance. what on earth is so scary about me?
2007-09-09 09:27:17 · 7 answers · asked by nicalese 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have the same problem. i'm 15, and i've never had a boyfriend or anything, and i flirt with guys a lot, even guys not considered 'popular', and i think i'm nice, but every time i like a guy he says i'm too intimidating, hard to talk to, or just too quiet. i don't understand it. I've heard I have to make the first move, but i don't think that's fair. I think guys these days just have it too good, because a lot of girls are pushy enough to just go up and ask them out on the spot, and now they've not got enough balls to just ask a pretty girl out, they'll wait for the sort of pretty girls who are loud and don't really care about personality; they are easy to talk to cause they're shallow.
2007-09-09 09:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by aerie anna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from what your give you don't sound too scary or intimidating. But if i had to take a guess.....
I'd guess your always busy. You never stop for a second. So when ever a guy sees you your on the move. Busy can be intimidating as the guy might feel you have no time for a relationship.
Also while your always on the move your never in one place for very long. Guys simply don't have the time to approach you.
I'd guess you don't look around at guys, or make eye contact with guys or smile a guys. They are all common signs of 'I'm open to you walking over and saying something'. If you don't do it, many guys will leave you alone.
If you have ignored, snubbed or put down guys in the past....word might have easily gotten around to not bother with you.
2007-09-09 09:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i kinda know how you feel. i am a shy guy. if i meet someone for the first time, even if it with friends and the person is the friend of my friends, i have a really difficult time talking to them. guys or girls. i would guess that i am average looking, definitely nothing special. i am willing to guess that you could ask your girl friends what kind of guys they like. ask them. have them write it down or something without names, and see how their interests vary. i bet the answers will vary a lot. (as a guy, i don't know, but this is what i think.) guys are the same way. some like blondes, some like brunettes, some like big boobs, some don't really and are happy with anything. some like big butts, some don't. etc etc etc. every guy likes something different. the thing you are going to have to do is change your attitude. if you think you will never marry, you can ultimately influence your future and drive people who do like you away. accept who you are and how you look and become proud of it. if you tell yourself that you look good daily, you will eventually come to feel that you look good. there is someone for everyone out there, don't give up so soon. men and women have too many differences to list, but in the end, we are all humans. if you think of them as people, it might be easier. people make mistakes, nobody is perfect. everybody has their faults. take small steps. say hi to random people who you see, and work up from there. over time, you can change your mindset about guys being intimidating. stay positive, and remember, only you can change how you feel. if you want to change, you have to try and when it gets hard, keep going.
2016-03-18 02:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the people who said you're intimidating to guys.
2007-09-09 09:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by Cake17 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're a serious person. Stuck-up, maybe. Your "dry" sense of humor is not appealing either. I'm a girl and to me you don't seem intimidating. I'm not intimidated by other girls, but you sound a little stiff that's all.
2007-09-09 09:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
this has been said to a lot of people...that they are too intimidating for guys. it is mainly a way of saying that you are confident...you are smart and that you are sure of yourselves. all of my friends that have boyfriends are the type of people who are quiet and are swayed easily by other people's opinions...you seem sure of yourself and who you want to become. my advice is to occasionally let the guy feel like they are the boss...the "man"....hopefully that will work.
and trust me...i completely know how frustrating it can be
2007-09-09 09:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by gracebarber 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well if you aren't obnoxious then you need to find a better class of guy.
2007-09-09 09:31:55 · answer #7 · answered by Jamie * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps posting a picture will help..... as if I can help but i can try since 99.9% of ladies think i'm ugly....
2007-09-09 09:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋