Hello,
They have planned 2 wedding and at the last minute he canceled both times. Last time the dress was bought and the shower was planned. The deal breaker was that he changed his mind about having kids. He does have a 15 year old although never married the mother. He has never been married. My problem is two things. My brother and sister in law are going to flip out if they even new she was seeing him again.. two. all of a sudden he has decided he wants kids. I don't have faith that he will not change his mind again. They are planning to go to run away in 2 weeks. All the family has said that if she ever even thought about getting together with him she would have to choose him or her family. That is not the case with me as I would not turn my back on her. I am the only one that knows this information. I can't sleep worried that she is ruining her life. Two facts. He make a med living so she will have to work and he is a ok guy. I have never totally connected with him.. Help!
2007-09-09 08:38:16 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Okay, take a deep breath, slow down a bit and just consider
the fact that your niece is an adult, and she has the ability and certainly the right to make her own decisions and choices in life.
Any couple who intend on getting married that are over the age of consent, can do so; no matter what the circumstances, or the age difference.
You have to consider the fact that they will have to work out their own problems as a couple, regardless of if her family cuts her out of their lives or not.
All parents are concerned about their children, the children are always going to be our "babies," even when they are adults. I have grown kids, and I know what they are feeling.
The only thing you and her parents have to be concerned about is how well this man treats her, and how respectful of her he is. Other than that, back away from the relationship, it is none of your/their business.
If you are going to continue to be your nieces' safe place to fall, in case things do not work out well, you can be proud of yourself for doing so.
I wish your niece and her soon to be husband the best, a bit more love in this world is a great thing.
2007-09-09 08:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by Sue F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with all do respect, she's 27 and old enough to make her own choices, i am 29 and my husband is 48, and its the best relationship either of us have ever had for 7 yrs now.
2007-09-09 08:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are both adults and there is nothing you or your family members can do about their choice to marry. You do not need help with this "problem" because this is not YOUR PROBLEM. They love each other, they are old enough to do what they want. If you love your niece, just love her and don't judge her.
2007-09-09 08:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ummm, if your religious pray. You could also contact the Dr. Phil show, he might be able to help out. She is in over her head and needs someone to get through the puppy dog love she has to this person, seek help, from professionals.
2007-09-09 08:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by Luke†Gospeltothepoor 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋