For years my family told me I needed to shut up and mind my own business-in no less words.
So I did and now they learn at me for not speaking up! For example, they take a wrong turn; I stay quiet. They yell at me and all I can say is, "well, I figured this was the way you wanted to go. I can't stop you." Or they take out a tampon instead of something else and I don't say a word because they hated me mentioning such things in public but they're horrified later when they learn what happened. So they get irritated.
Basically, I want to go back to what I was doing before. Any suggestions at breaking this habit?
2007-09-09 07:02:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Replace "learn" with "yell."
2007-09-09 07:05:44 · update #1
They turned you into something they don't like. They kept telling you to shut up, not realizing that they w might have been going too far. Point this out to them, politely, and it might get them to pull back a little on the yelling.
Other than that, just speak up when you feel you should. If they yell, just let them yell, don't say a word, and don't take anything to heart. When they are done, just walk off and do something else/go back to doing something else. After a while, when they see they are not getting a rise out of you, they will give up.
2007-09-09 07:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Breaking a habit is always a "day at a time" process. You learn a bad habit, you break one, and learn a better one, the same way.
Start speaking up one day at a time. Start off in the little things and build up till one day you'll have no problems saying the truth that's in your heart. But you don't have to comment on everything everybody around you is doing whether they're right or wrong.
You just simply have to be more true to yourself. You don't have to get in people's faces to speak up and answer truthfully when asked.
Otherwise, the examples you cited are simply ways that others around us make little mistakes every day. They aren't YOU FAULT and it seems those around you, including you, seem to think you are accountable for everything that goes on around you. That's not true. You can only take responsiblity for yourself and say what's in your mind and in your heart when you are asked to.
That you CAN do and you'll be a whole lot happier inside at the end of the day for it too.
Good Luck!
2007-09-15 22:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by autumlovr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've got communication problems in your relationships. I'm sorry you're so frustrated. Perhaps some family counseling would be in order.
2007-09-10 20:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing big just try some communication skill books on net
2007-09-15 09:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy. Open mouth, say nothing and close it, works everytime.
2007-09-13 08:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
like everytime u feel like sayin anythin open ur mouth and like keep sayin it in ur head, then spit it out...
like keep in ur mind like so wut? wut is the worst tht could happeN?
like just keep doin this all the time think loudly
try to speak ur thoughts out,, lika practice "oh this is ugly, no i dont like cakes" i hate this channel" like when ur alone and stuff later u'll see stuff will come out.......
2007-09-14 13:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by Rudolfie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋