she is too boyish and inmature enough for me but she is very kind and her family is just too good to me. i dont know maybe i should just quit, and i dont want to hurt her or her family, how can i go about it??
2007-09-09 06:58:07 · 31 answers · asked by jamesbond 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you are sick of her this soon, break up with her, she deserves someone who will love her
2007-09-09 07:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would just let her go. Its obvious that its her character in which she has the right as she is only 23. Your life difference can make you a little more mature than her. Than again there are 20 year old that are more mature than 25 year olds. She deserves to be with someone who can accept her age difference it which you obviously can't. And you never know, you may have helped her out of some of her immaturity and thats why her parents adore you so much. Not all people can handle dating young. just take it as a lesson learned.
2007-09-09 14:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by from_me_to_you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it out. Don't hold it in. Tell her what you think of her. Ask her what she thinks of you. Keep communication open. A good family of her makes it easier on you and the future. 4 months isn't long to discover everything about her.
Give each other a chance and see what happens. Love does change and grow over time.
2007-09-09 14:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you dating her or her family? If you do not have feelings for her the very best thing is to end the relationship. Don't lead her on thinking you want something you really don't. Just tell her that you don't want to hurt her feelings and that you would rather be just friends( yeah i know). But you have to do what makes you feel right. Sorry.
2007-09-09 14:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by cat lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, it's not a first for any of us.
If you are tired of her, you can simply let her down easy by saying that you see her more as a friend, than anything more.
Let her know you gave things a shot, and it's just not going to work out on a relationship level, however - you want to have her friendship forever.
2007-09-09 14:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by Chris Clayton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing in a relationship is communication and compromise. Just sit down with her and tell her how you feel and see if she will be willing to change, but also ask her if there is anything that she would like you to change. If she is not willing to change than maybe she is not the right one for you.
2007-09-09 14:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by Leana M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to let her know that the relationship is not going where you wanted or expected it to and break it off with her. Let her know that you appreciate how kind her and her family have been. Leave it at that and move on.
2007-09-09 14:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't ask someone to change.
if you have to change the person so you can be together its not worth it.
but you still need to give her a chance, don't just quit that easily.
tell her how you feel, but tell her what you like about her also, and maybe she feels the same way or similar.
but just don't give up that easily.
2007-09-09 14:02:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well--- if you really feel this way, think about it, you can't hold on to her forever, so i say don't leave her hanging on a thread, leading her into something that's not, and just cut her off, sure, she may not feel the best for a while, but she'll get over it, do what you think is right, you could always try talking to her good luck in whatever you decide to do
2007-09-09 14:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by simplebutsweet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way. There is no way to eliminate the hurt feelings. The best way is to be quick and clean about it. Just tell her you don't see this relationship going anywhere, but you have appreciated her and her family during this time.
2007-09-09 14:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best. Tell her you don't think it is working and you want to move along. Don't wait too long, the more time that passes, the more she is going to be into you.
2007-09-09 14:01:01 · answer #11 · answered by harleychic 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋