Ok, please help me!!!!
Recently one of my best friends at work left for a new job. (Better pay etc) I’ve known her for about a year and we get on really well. (She’s not just a colleague, we always text and email each other outside of the office too.) The thing is, she was not just one of my best friends, I had a HUGE crush on her! (More than a crush actually, I fell completely in love with her. At first it was just looks, but the more I got to know her, the more perfect she was to me!) However, I never said anything during the whole time I saw her at work as she has a boyfriend (I always fall for those!)
Now that she’s left we still text and email each other, and she’s told me that she’s really unhappy in her new place and that she made a mistake leaving. We had a really good team at work and we all got on outside of the office too. So she’s organising a day next week to all meet up and go out for lunch.
Here’s the dilemma…. Ever since she left, she’s all I’ve been thinking about and it’s killing me!! Part of me wants to go (I have already agreed!) but the other half of me thinks it’d be best if I made an excuse and didn’t. I just think it’d be better to try and forget her. (I’m even texting her less now)
What should I do? Go or stay at home.
(I know she wants to organise a night out too, but I’m thinking of turning that down too!)
2007-09-09 06:53:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she has an email, then start writing her. If you have her phone #, then call her and express an interest in her. Ask her about her job and why she doesn't like it. Show in interest in any aspect of her life that she'll allow access to you.
2007-09-17 05:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by Don C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow and easy and do not make wrong choices now that you will later regret.What is the worst thing that can happen if you GO? You may wind up loosing her forever. You need to be HONEST with her about your feelings toward her also. She could be deeply in love with you and just be waiting for the right time to let you know it. Please try to get her to talk with you ALONE and IN PERSON,,,because a computer screen is NOT the best place to first realize that someone is in love with you. She should see your face and hear your words LIVE,,,not in cyberspace.Is she really worth all this trouble? You had best decide while it is still YOUR decision to make. I t is very nice to be MARRIED to your BEST FRIEND. I AM.
2007-09-16 22:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by wayne_burdeshaw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go! If she means that much to you then chase her!(but not in a creepy stalker way) Tell how you feel. I know it's hard and she has a boyfriend but is she happy or just whatever about that guy. If she's happy with him just be her friend. It's dumb to give up a good friendship just because she can't be more than a friend.
2007-09-09 14:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by red3tipped3rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems simple to me. Life is short. Regrets last forever. Do you want to live your life never knowing? Even if you don't tell her how you feel, is she someone you want to have as a friend and do stuff with? GO!
2007-09-17 14:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by Michael G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that this means far more than just a night out to you. Tell her that you want more than just a lunch with her. If she waffles then move on, she doesnt feel the same as you.
2007-09-17 13:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by Grampa B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always stick with your career. Women are very fickle, and she will drag you down with her if you let her. Be a friend to her, text her back and forth, but do not leave your job.
2007-09-17 00:34:31 · answer #6 · answered by John D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and make some mention of wanting a relationship. If not, then move on
2007-09-09 14:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should take things as they come .. let it be and see what happens cause you can't controll your heart and even if you don't go you still have feelings ...
2007-09-17 05:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by deea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go, but go and tell her how you truly feel, if she doesn't feel the same way...... let go and live your life......
BUT TALK TO HER
2007-09-17 13:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by sunsett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go live your life as it is
2007-09-09 13:57:28 · answer #10 · answered by James H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋