allowing them to visit with JW relatives? In particular:
The JW's stand on blood transfusions. How do you make sure they'll never be able to impose their refusal of blood on your child, for instance, when staying with Grandma for the weekend, etc?
How about spiritual warfare? JWs believe it's important to do what's needed, ethical or not, to insure their message gets through. How do you deal with this practice AND encourage your children to know their relatives? For instance, sneaking the child to their meetings against your will.
These are issues I'm personally dealing with as my JW relatives still show interest in our family. I do not want to alientate them but I also want to protect my child. I'm curious how everyone else deals with it...
2007-09-09 06:29:44 · 9 answers · asked by PediC 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
see what I'm talking about? Check out the JW answers.. even when they start out reasonable, they end up in frothy hatred.
JWs, it'd be the same thing if your mother or dad wanted to take your kids to a Catholic church. You'd cry foul, for sure. Everyone has the right to raise their children in the way they see fit, just as you will impose your will on your kids. Of course, you guys are the only ones who will deny life saving medical treatment, this is a truly legitimate question. This is what people who have to deal with you guys ask about.
2007-09-09 18:04:45 · update #1
Jiam, what planet do you live on? I wish this were exaggerated. After looking at YOUR questions, especially your embarassing moment question, I'm sure I'd want to protect my children from YOU.
2007-09-09 18:40:44 · update #2
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AsHe.onJyZb5ZxFg_NQwLxbty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20070816201256AAaO4Wi
2007-09-09 18:42:00 · update #3
Everyone's relationship with their relatives is different, I see that from the replies I'm getting.
to the JWs who replied, sorry this is so insulting. You guys bring it on yourselves, though.
2007-09-10 04:14:15 · update #4
This is a very good question. I would suggest having a heart-to-heart with your relatives and making it known what your stance is. Hopefully they will respect your wishes, and if not, unfortunately you may have to limit your child's contact with them.
I know my mom will respect my wishes, but I had to have a sit-down with my dad after one episode where he told the owner of my daughter's school that my daughter was a JW and couldn't take part in any holiday celebrations. My daughter was going to a private Christian school, so the owner called and asked me about it, as she thought it was strange that I would send her to a Christian school if she was a JW.
My dad and I haven't had any problems since then, and I know that if there was ever an emergency, my mom would notify me immediately.
2007-09-09 17:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Esmerelda 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Pedi, stop posting questions. I'm TRYING to take the afternoon of to watch football. LOL
Well, I don't have children, but I have often thought of the issue you raise with the blood transfusion and how I would handle that if I did.
But, if I did have children, my parents have a practice of rejecting their grandchildren belonging to their "worldly" children, anyway, so I'm sure they wouldn't want anything more to do with my kids than they do with my sisters' kids.
It broke my heart a few months ago to hear my sister Lisa's teenaged son say that he had never even met his grandparents. I could tell it hurt him. Kids tend to be ego-centric and think that they are the blame for the way adult family behaves. I was at a loss for words.
All I could do was say I was sorry on behalf of my parents and try to assure him that it has nothing to do with him and only the "way they are".
But, the points you bring up kind of put the matter in a better light, as these are not things my sisters have to be concerned about, since the kids don't see their grandparents at all.
2007-09-09 06:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by Simon Peter 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
they're going to have self assurance what's written interior the WBTS classes long before they even think of of analyzing the few out of context quoted bible verses. The WBTS has instructed them opposing thoughts on the resurrection of the Sodomites and each time the WBTS variations its teachings, the "different sheep" then have self assurance the recent coaching till they revert returned to the previous coaching before changing returned returned to the recent, 8 situations and each JW replaced their concept each time the WBTS replaced its strategies. certainly 3 time in 1988 they replaced their teachings. there has been lots of variations on what you are able to and can't have transfused, you're able to touch the WBTS in an emergency to correctly known what you're allowed or no longer allowed.
2016-10-10 06:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Pedi C,
Excellent issue to bring up!
As to the 1st Q--blood:
Grands have No rights as to the decision making
for medical treatment.
Without written & notarized authorization.
(which I happen to have; w/ "No Exceptions.")
Sit down w/ ur family, and have a discussion.
Respectfully.
My dghtr & the baby's earthly father & I sat down & talked.
this is necessary:
{ My dghtr is not in the truth. My (would be son-in-law) is interested, bc (he said) Since my convictions of my faith are SO strong, he wanted to know what's behind it. (he sees how others in the family treat me, (@ times; & how I respond to them...it/ the way I get treated) bc of my beliefs-it's how I live.}
So they asked that I don't say to the child
"ur parents r wrong/ mistaken/ etc."
That is absolutely fine, w/ me & God.
I do not have the authority to disrespect the parents like that.
I asked them that if they do celebrate x-mas;
don't lie to the child, & tell her santa is real...
tell her it's make-believe.
They agreed to that, they were fine w/ it.
(they weren't sure if they would be doing x-mas or not.)
I said if she comes to me & asks...
I'll read to her from her Bible. They were o.k. w/ that.
I also asked if I could read to her anyways; they said, yes.
This is the way the conversation went.
It went well.
All parties were respectful & respected.
As it turned out...I've been raising the child since she was 3 wks old. She's over 2 years now.
last yr her earthly father took her to his mom's for thnkgiving day; she kicked 3 ppl out of the house when it came time to eat.....INCLUDING HER OWN 1ST GRANDCHILD!
I was shocked! I have Never Seen / Lived / Experienced or Heard of that, EVER!! in my life.
I haven't always been a Witness.
In fact in my family that paticular day is an event that lasts more than 2 mos., the cooking b4 hand.
The eating/ friends / family @ my grandmother's lasted 2 weeks. Ppl coming from all over the country.
The babies dad said he wouldn't take her around them again, for a holiday.
Then @ x-mas time, just as he said; he didn't; and they kicked 'him' out of the house on 'that' day. He later said he was thrilled, he didn't have the baby w/ him.
Sneaking! the child to meetings!!
No, No Lover of Justice, of Jehovah should EVER do that!
That would not please Jehovah, I think.....
So, I would tend to believe that No Witness
WOULD ever do that.
It would not be apropriate.
We did @ 1 time have an issue come up;
where it would have to be that I wouldn't be able to have a filal-1 relationship w/ her.
It just about BROKE my heart.
The Witnesses /Grandparents are NOT
the only 1's involved here.
You adult children, KNOW what ur parents are gonna do in that situation Before you Go there!!!!
So, YOU are the 1's causing the family disruption.
Not ur parents.
They didn't change / waiver.
You are the 1's that have turned away from the truth.
As for me....
I know I'm standing upon a true & firm foundation and that my God & Father will make Everything Right!
And...
It didn't turn out that way after all.
2007-09-09 11:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
What happened with the children of the people who lived in the time of the flood?
2007-09-09 15:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Lol. "protect your children" Look, you KNOW that they wont force the truth on your kids. Your just trying to start a fuss. And its not like its bad or anything...Being a Jw protects you from many problems with blood transfusions, aids, and unwanted babies....Its not like they want to rape your kids or make them offer sacrifices..
And after looking at your questions, it is very clear you are an apostate. And with that knowledge, i realize you either made up this or it is VERY exaggerated. If anything, I think the Jw part of your family would want to protect their children from YOU
Lol. Thats mature. And you have kids? Wow. And if you are wondering, yes, I am 16 years old.
AND from the way you reacted, Yeah, your story IS fake (Or greatly exaggerated)
2007-09-09 14:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by ITALLIAN STALLION 2 · 7⤊ 4⤋
I am not sure that you can protect your children, and allow contact.
If they get hurt, the would deny appropriate medical care in the name of false scripture.
If your children are healthy, they will feed them poisonous false doctrine when you are not around.
I hate football. Hockey fan myself
2007-09-09 07:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
My family made it easy for me...they do not have any contact with my children at all....case closed.....
If there were any contact, I would send a medical release note with my children stating that so and so has permission to get medical attention for my child, but no needed medical procedure should be denied in my absence....they need a note of permission to get any medical help..I would add this disclaimer.
2007-09-09 06:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 4⤋
jaim b and bambi:
you too spoke very well!
couldn't have said it better myself!
2007-09-09 16:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by sugarpie 4 · 5⤊ 4⤋