My cousin was tring to potty train her son and it wasn't working.He would go #2 in his diaper and grab in there and fling it to other kids(gross), but one day she just had it and she made him eat some of it, and the poor child hated it (of course)and he never pooped his pants again.And his mother was so peoud she finally got him trained, but I told her it was disgusting and it was child abuse.She says its not and still defends it.
2007-09-09 06:29:32 · 20 answers · asked by rosebud02 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It is obviously child abuse. On top of everything, throwing poop is a sign of extreme anxiety. It is seen in monkeys and abused children. Of course the kid never soiled his pants again, he will probably end up with severe constipation... anyway, chances are your cousin is doing what she thinks is best, ans she is needing a LOT of help, not a bunch of people judging her. She is not having a good time, her toddler is probably going through hell, too. I would recommend books on parenting in general, my favorite so far is If kids just came with instructions sheets by Svea Gold.
PLEASE DO NOT contact social services UNLESS you truly think your nephew is in danger. As good as your intentions are, do not do it to show her she is wrong. It will be much more traumatic for everybody, especially for the child. Buy her a book, read it with her, make sure the child knows you are there for him.
2007-09-09 06:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by Lucas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a terrible mom because you realize that what you did was out of line. She's too little to understand that eating poop is bad. They put everything they can get their hands on in their mouths. Having a child is as much of a frustration as it is a blessing, so you need to learn some self control. I was mentally and physically abused as a child too. I remember feeling so empty one time when I was little, like something was missing from my day and I realized that it was because I didn't cry at all that day or get my daily beating from my mother. She was abused too, as was her mom, and I made a conscious decision to end the cycle with my mother. When you feel the urge, stop yourself immediately and ask yourself if you want your baby to go through the same abuse you went through. An occasional thump on the butt is ok when she is out of line, but at 1 year old, it's way to young because at this age, she doesn't fully understand good and bad. If you feel depressed (and some anger issues?), get to a doctor. It's not good for you or your child. You need to end your cycle of abuse as well.
2016-05-20 05:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yuck! What on earth made her think that was okay? Disgusting! 2 years old is a bit young to be fully potty trained anyway. Most toddlers aren't trained until 3 years old. Way was she forcing the issue so soon? His action of flinging the poop on other kids is disgusting, but he's two. How old is the mother? 4?
2007-09-09 07:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by nbt95337 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
omg yea that's child abuse... and it sickens me to think that a parent can be so ignorant as to what abuse is...
Advice to you: You've only outlined one incident here, there could be more prior to it, but if your cousin doesn't feel the least bit remorseful about this, there WILL be more in the future.
As your cousin so stupidly proved, lessons ARE learned through punishment. Teach her a lesson about being a good parent and call social services. Just like she's proud that her child was taught a lesson, you too can be proud that your cousin was taught a lesson by the people that keep stupid parents from doing stuff like this.
2007-09-09 06:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, that is definetly child abuse, believe me if The Department of Family and Children Services found out about her doing that they would take her child away from her with a quickness. And besides that fact, that is just disgusting!
2007-09-09 06:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by tori 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same thing going on with my 3 year old son, he only goes number 2 in his pull-up. I would never, ever make him eat it, thats wrong and it should be reported. That poor baby is going to remember that incident and it is going to scar him for life. Beside that, he is only 2, and a boy, they never go potty when you want them to. Someone should hold her down and stuff her face with poo, see how she likes it.
2007-09-09 08:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fair enough, it worked but I think its pretty darn cruel, to be honest. How would she like to eat some of her poo!!! Things like that can scar children for life! I mean, what if he has a genuine accident ( as most children do) will she make him eat it again?? I bet the poor little mite is scared to death. What an evil thing to do, you are right to disagree with her.
2007-09-09 06:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say YES!!! That won't help potty train him but do just the opposite. My son was very hard to train so I can relate but thats not the way.
2007-09-09 08:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by anjelahoy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is child abuse no, ifs ands or buts about it! The fact that she is proud it worked is disgusting! I do believe in a parents right to raise a child as they see fit, i.e. spanking, but that crosses the line! You should have reported her for the poo slinging before it got to that point. Please tell her to stop breeding now!
2007-09-09 07:19:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's a form of child abuse-emotionally. She may not think he'll remember it, but I'm sure he will, and deep down he'll probably hate her for that. Poor child.
2007-09-09 06:39:43 · answer #10 · answered by ~lattemom~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋