although i like them, i find them.. a bit strange??
how should I say No.
2007-09-09 06:04:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Does he/she give little presents to other students?
Are the presents given as "reward" for a job well-done or as an incentive to do better?
I guess my opinion would be based on the sex of the teacher, your age and exactly what kind of presents they are.... so I'm not sure where to go with it...
If you find it strange and it makes you uncomfortable, simply tell your teacher - the next time he/she gives you a present - "Thank you, I really appreciate your kindness and concern for me, but I think the satisfaction in my performance is enough reward and I don't feel it's fair to take your gifts, but thanks again."
Good luck
2007-09-09 06:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by kamcrash 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, more info needed here. Does he/she give little presents to everyone in the class? Are your presents clearly labeled job well done, great improvement, or something school related?
If everyone gets little gifts, it's probably OK, as long as they are not, well, ADULT gifts, if you get the idea there. [You did not say how old you are].
If you are the only one who gets gifts, time to ask yourself why. Do you have some situation that puts you at a disadvantage in school? Are these sympathy gifts, or hey, I'm with you, you have my support presents?
If not, and you are the only one getting the gifts, time to do something, if you want. You could take care of it yourself, if you want, depends on how old you are. "gee, thanks Mrs. Whomever, but I know teachers don't make a huge salary, wish you would keep your money in your pocket." Or, Gee, thanks, but the other guys have noticed that you single me out for presents, and I am getting teased by them." Or point blank, "Why do you single me out for presents? I appreciate them, but I feel bad accepting them."
Or, time for a talk with your parents, tell them all you know about the situation, witnesses, other kids who got gifts, or didn't, and let them handle it. and if it means she/he teacher gets embarrassed, so what. Teachers are supposed to know better than to single a student out for special favors, and in this day and age, when it seems there is a pervert lurking on every corner on every street, in every building, teachers should be paying attention to every move they make, to make sure they do not cross the line. Parents and administrators take a dim view of such things, and a charge of perversion, true or not, is the end of a teaching career.
So, if everyone in the class gets presents, and they are suitable presents for your ages, no problem. If you are the only one, figure out why in your head [just give it a few minutes of thought of the maybe whys], and talk to your parents, and leave no details out when you do.
2007-09-09 06:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Come on ppl...No more detail needed. This is just wrong!!! Tell the teacher that you can't accept the gift and walk away. If you are accepted the gifts in the first place then he apparently thought it was ok to continue this. I smell harrassment...
2007-09-09 10:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by avery & aj's mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of details left out. This just seems kind of creepy. What are the presents? I'd be safe and stay away from this guy. Do your parents know about this? Tell them, they need to know !
2007-09-09 06:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her or him that it's your parents' wish that they don't give you anymore presents. By the way, do tell your parents about this teacher giving your presents. He might be up to no good. Maybe trying to win your confidence so you will trust him/her enough for him/her to sexually molest/rape you.
2007-09-09 21:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Male or female? what's your age? Any words to go along with these presents? Any other students similarly blessed?
2007-09-09 06:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for all the detail:):):)
like
how old are you?
is the teacher male?
what sort of presents?
It does seem odd.
I would be wary of.
2007-09-09 06:25:22 · answer #7 · answered by zes2_zdk 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Say, "Thank you but I can't accept this." Then hand it back and leave.
2007-09-09 06:23:01 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
say no thank you and just walk away
2007-09-09 10:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋