My boyfriend always checks out other girls in front of me. I understand that it's human nature to be attracted to others and even look once in a while but he does it ALL THE TIME. And he always stares at practically the same type of girls: blondes with mini skirts and their boobs hanging out. I told him to stop it and he's like you do it too and I said "No I don't" because I really don't look at other guys like that. It really makes me jealous, considering he looks at them up and down right in front of me. He doesn't even try to hide it, just does it so openly and it's getting really annoying. What should I do? I'm very much in love with him and I think he loves me too but he's immature.
2007-09-09 05:34:59 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get used to it. you said it. it's human nature and he's immature.
have you ever thought, what if he just love to see you get jealous? just the way some women loves to make their men jealous, specially when watching a movie?
example:
1."omg, keannu reeves is soooo hot." and will say it all the time. the beginning of the movie, while it's showing, till the end.
2. "i have a co-worker and he's cute."
you know, it's better that he's showing you that he looks at them, than hiding.
believe me, if he starts to hide things from you, then that's really BADDD.
believe me, i love making my girl jealous. and sometimes, jealousy means you care. maybe your boyfriend loves to see how much you will care for him.
tell him, "i'm jealous"
my girlfriend says that all the time, till she and i got used to it.
and i love her even more. you can try to get used to it too, till it affects you no more - and then he'll get tired of looking at them cuz he already knows you care.
KILL HIM WITH KINDNESS AND LOVE that nobody else can ever give.
2007-09-09 05:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by jeremy 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Talk to him about it again - tell him you definitely do NOT stare at other guys like that. Tell him it hurts your feelings when he just openly stares at some blonde girl with a miniskirt and her boobs hanging out. It's hurtful to you, and while you understand that it's a subconscious, natural human thing, he should not be staring at other girls like that right in front of you.
Basically, tell him everything you just told us.
If it's really too horrible, and even after you confront him again he continues to hurt your feelings this way, maybe you should break up with him.
2007-09-09 05:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance used to do this. I talked to him about it and told him that he shouldn't have to look at anyone else because he has me. He said that I did the same thing too and it got me very upset because I didn't think I did. He agreed to stop it because he loved me. Now anytime he accidentally looks at another girl, I tap him on the shoulder and give him "that look" and he just looks at me and pays complete attention to me until the girl is out of site. He has agreed to do the same with me if I look but he hasn't done it yet. Seems like I proved somebody wrong (lol). If he doesn't stop then you should think about leaving him or telling him you're leaving him to scare him. It works wonderfully for me. GOOD LUCK!
2007-09-09 05:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by Spicky & Grl ♥ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men look no harm if there's no physical I look at other men the more u make a scene with guys they will gradually go of you I'm personally laid back slightest sign I go detective it's upto you what you do but almost all men look unless there bent some married men go to strip bars it's harmless.
2016-05-20 05:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by erminia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Glancing at a pretty girl is normal. Outright staring is not ok.
With my x, I went right up to a girl he was staring at and told her that he was drooling over her - I was very friendly about it too :) She understood and laughed, and we had a conversation about her cute shoes she was wearing. My bf at the time stood there completely embarassed, because my talking to the girl and being friendly had somehow shattered his fantasy that was going on in his head. I dumped him on the way home. :)
2007-09-09 05:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by boots6 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Better Leave him if he is not respecting your words in this aspect of your requests. Love is different from Lust. If he is commenting about another Girl, he is not good person of your choice. Think once twice,100 times before taking your own decision after discussing with your persons of your Personel Interests.
2007-09-09 05:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by BA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U guys really need 2 talk. I think u should sit down with him when u have time an talk about wuts on ur mind. jus try ur best not 2 get in fight. follow ur insticts. if u think he's cheating, or if u wanna dump him, go right ahead. and while u have ur talk, ask him why he thinks u look at guys when u kno u dont.
2007-09-09 05:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go Melbox! correct ka jan! Your boyfriend might cheat you someday. Looking at other girls the way your boyfriend does is absolutely disrespectful. Dump him or take the risk!
2007-09-09 07:33:47 · answer #8 · answered by Faye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every body says screaming break up---You love him very much...He may be immature and that is a problem with men who have a half brain...This is your man with the half brain.. That you want... .. OK --- I would think you should want to take him home and give him a spanking....Then make him wash your back in the shower... Punish him.....
2007-09-09 05:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by Gerald 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, that is super disrespectful of you. it is okay to be attracted to someone else, but sending out the "oooh, girl you are HOT" while he is holding hands with you is a pretty big red flag if you ask me. i suggest talking with him about it, and if he doesn't get it, or just doesn't stop, then start looking at the other fish in the sea.
2007-09-09 05:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by mulligan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋