Suppose you are 'unequally yoked' - you and your spouse have different religious beliefs. Suppose also, that when you got married, your spouse held a religious label but was in all other ways nonreligious. Later in life your spouse' religion became very important to your him/her.
Which is more selfish?
1) demanding that your spouse, of different religious beliefs, accompany you to your services regularly
2) you refusing to participate in your spouse' religious activities, but still allowing your spouse to raise the kids according to his/her religion
2007-09-09 05:34:01 · 15 answers · asked by wondermus 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The first one.
In the first example, you are making your spose go out of his/her way to do something against her will. Also, you don't need him/her to go to services with you. You can go by yourself.
In the second example, nobody is doing anything that he/she doesn't want to do. You aren't joining your spouse at services, but there's no reason why you would be obligated to attend. In addition, raising the children based on your spouse's beliefs is selfless.
2007-09-09 06:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-09-09 18:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by Antony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-09-09 12:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by Micah B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-09-09 12:40:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 & 2.
2007-09-09 12:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel that either is the best. I have known couples that have done #2. But it may be better to teach your children both churches beliefs. So they can make their own decision when they are older. They would have to pray to God and ask him which is the better one or are they both all right. Take turns going to the two different churches.
2007-09-09 12:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by geessewereabove 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both are selfish and cruel and grounds for divorce. If the spouses can learn to butt out of each others religion (or lack of it), one way or another, they'll get along fine.
2007-09-09 12:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1. 'Demanding' would be more selfish. At least you're all involved with loving Christ and your chidren are being raised with some knowledge of religion, so that when they are adults, they will still be able to choose and if you want, you can still show them what you believe and why.
2007-09-09 12:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by dawnUSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both. I was raised Catholic I dated a Jewish guy when I was younger. We celebrated both faiths. We had both a Christmas tree and a Menorah in our home. We went to Church and to Temple. Religion can be a wonderful thing if it does not make you blind. What I mean is embrace other religions as well as your own. We are here to learn and in order to learn we have to accept and embrace things that are unknown to us.
2007-09-09 12:42:47 · answer #10 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋