my friend well she wanna have sex and is k but im 18 and she is 16 say tht is illegal she said tht she dnt care i also said tht condoms r not 100% secure but she said she dnt care she said tht her parents told tht if she gets pregnant she is gonna marry tht guy im k with tht but im not sure if tht is true im not sure if ehr parents told ehr tht
but she stimulated to tht so maybe she wasnt thinking straight
i know is long and i speak spanish so i dnt write english tht well but plz answer it ir eally need ur answer
2007-09-09 05:24:26 · 21 answers · asked by Nansote 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
look i wanna have sex with her and i have no rpoblem in gettin married with the risk is jail thts all and her parents r ther to decide tht and i dnt know them
2007-09-09 05:36:14 · update #1
Well, if you want to be with this girl, then be with her. Yes, it is illegal, and if something, like pregnancy were to happen, you could get into A LOT of trouble. You don't want to take that risk, do you? She's only sixteen, and if I were you, I would wait for her for another year or two. This seems like a spur-of-the moment kind of thing for her, and she didn't really give the possible consequences much thought. Think really hard: are you ready to be a daddy? Are you ready to face the court? If need be?
2007-09-09 05:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by stormy.! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok Maryann3, first off I find your style of writing interesting. The format is like a poem. Ok, ok, yes he likes you, but he definitely got irritated with you for saying the friends with benefits comment because that's probably not how he felt. Let's "cyber bet" a dollar he was offended and has had to take a step back to think about it. Let's "cyber bet" another dollar that you made those remarks to get a reaction. Well Miss Maryann...it back fired. It sounds like he doesn't communicate too well and he needed some prodding. Miss Maryann you can prod with the best of them, but you must first learn how. Prodding to figure out what a man is feeling requires a little training honey child. Remember this...sandwich the things you want to say. Bread, meat, bread. Bread is soft and sweet, so your first words or statements should soften Meat is the main ingredient, so your meat should be the point you are getting to Bread...you get it now, right? Example: Let's call him Mr. Maybe Maryann: Mr Maybe, I love spending time with you (Bread) Would you like this friendship to develope into something more? (Meat) I think we could be a good fit (Bread) I hope this helps some. Sometimes a sensitive guy needs to be handled a little differently. Men are all different just like us women. Its the women that appreciates all these differences that lives a fuller, richer life. Have fun!
2016-05-20 05:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts!
I suspect that is isn't illegal since you're only 2 years apart. Every U.S. state's law is different. If you google "statutory rape" and the name of your city/state, you should find the law for your jurisdiction regarding the legal issue. If it is illegal in your state, taking the risk could mean risking the possibility of ending up in prison for several years. It doesn't seem worth the risk. .
But, even if the law doesn't prevent you from having sex with a 16-yr-old, you have to consider the difference in your ages and life stages, and make your own decision vs relying on what she wants. Because you're older, maybe you have a greater responsibility to make choices that are in both of your best interests.
If you're not absolutely sure it is RIGHT FOR YOU, then don't do it. You can let her know that you care about her and that she does turn you on (if that is true), but that you're not ready to take that step right now. You don't have to justify that, but if you feel the need, certainly you have legitimate concerns.
Frankly, there are plenty of sensual or sex-related ways that you can be physically intimate without having sexual intercourse. Kiss, touch sensitive areas of one another's bodies. Tthat isn't always traditional sexual parts of the body - the neck, back, feet, hands, chest are areas that some people experience sensual sensation when touched in the context of sensual relations.
You can also get into dancing together, learn to give one another back, feet or scalp massage, etc. And, of course there is sexual touch. Of course, you don't want to do anything that might cause you to become so turned on that "in the moment," you might choose to go to far. So, at least, you must be clear about where you draw the line, and you should have an "escape plan," that you can use to get out of the situation if it's going too far and you know you're not able to maintain self control. You have to communicate with her up front and both of you must be on the same page about the boundaries and supporting one another to implement the "escape plan" if/when needed.
There is plenty to explore if you're motivated by a desire for physical intimacy vs peer pressure she is experiencing. If it's peer pressure, maybe together you two can sort out what you believe and how you feel about what she is hearing and ways that she can respond in the moment if she is feeling like an outsider. If one steps into the mindset of a leader, that person can convince people that standing on their head is the coolest thing since ice cream. Think outside of the box!
All the best.
2007-09-09 05:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's just state this is a fools game and if you are smart you will not play it. In some states she is old enough for legal consent, but in others she is not, either way why risk your future for someone who cares so little about theirs. It does not matter what her or her parents say about marriage and her getting pregnant, either way you could end up in jail and on a sex offender list for life. Is this the future you want? Probably not, so don't do the crime if you don't want to do the time.
2007-09-09 05:32:22 · answer #4 · answered by julvrug 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is getting laid worth risking 15 years in prison?
If you want sex, find a girl your own age, and leave the minors strictly alone.
Remember the 18 year-old football star who went to prison on a 15 year sentence just because he got oral sex from a 15 year-old girl. That could be you bubba.
Keep your pants up!
Doc
2007-09-09 05:45:00 · answer #5 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen if she doesn't care about getting pregnant or that you are 18 and can get into a lot of trouble, then why do you want to be around this person? Stay away from her. If you touch her you will be in SO much trouble. It looks like she wants to mess up someone's life up.
2007-09-09 05:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by rencar32002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is illegal and you could go to jail if you have sex with her. She may not care but i would think that you would. Sounds like bad news. Sounds like she is the type that would trap a guy into marriage. Is that what you want. I wouldn't do it if I were you.
2007-09-09 05:30:51 · answer #7 · answered by goodcook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
como no hablas ingles muy bien te lo voy a decir en español, si tu tienes 18 años y ella tiene 16 no te metas en eso porque e visto muchos casos que la nena dice que no hay problema y cuando los papas de ella se enteran meten al muchacho en la carcel y pienso que no vale la pena si the gusta esa tanto espera a que ella tenga 18 años tambien si no busca otra que no tenga riesgo! Buenas Suerte!
2007-09-09 05:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by lilgangan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!
This girl is obviously pressuring you and it's clear you don't want to do it. Besides the legal implications of having sex with a minor child (yes, I did say child), she could also trap you into getting her pregnant.
Steer clear of this girl. She's not really your friend.
2007-09-09 05:32:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A hard place to be in. But I would not let lust blind you, because she is under age and if you had sex with her; she or her parents could claim statutory rape against you. Becareful; never put passion over principle.
2007-09-09 05:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by zindimale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋