Ok, I met a guy 3 years ago on formal terms ( I mean we're not and never have gone out) I didn't think much of him to begin with but as I got to know him a bit better I realised he was the perfect man for me, I have never had any luck with men and the last time I had a boyfriend was nearly 11 years ago, which in my book is a long time, I really have fallen for him but not being with a man for so long I really have no idea what to do or say, I just get butterflies having a normal convasation with him, please help me tell him or anything, he's a man in a million and I don't want to loose him or live in regret,
thank you very much in advance, x
2007-09-09 05:01:09 · 22 answers · asked by ωєℓѕн 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let him get to know you before you do any moves on him. He might be shy to say something to you. Don't ask him out right away or else he might think you're a s-l-u-t just wanting some. Let him see that you're decent. Eventually, he'll realize it and make his move. If not, then it wouldn't hurt if you asked him first. Good luck.
2007-09-09 05:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by Light/Dark Thinker 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hello, how are you? Oh boy, I hate to say it, but have you always been attracted to unavailable man? And please don't be upset with me. The thing is this guy that you met a while back. I guessed you were not impressed with him and after a few months now you feel he is the perfect man for you. You mentioned that you have no luck with men. Let me tell you this. You probably go with men that you are really really interested on them even though that they are jerks or the bad boy image. And at the end things don't work out. Now why don't you try to slow down. And look for a nice guy a boring guy. Maybe it would created wonders. Just slow down don't get pregant. And goodluck
2007-09-09 05:11:05 · answer #2 · answered by darkvadershield35 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to tell him how you feel, there is no way around it.
If you hesitate and don't let him know you're true feelings about him, then some other girl is going to come along and charm his socks off. Then she will be taking your place.
Go on a few dates and get to know each other and have some fun (I don't mean sex). I think that's the best thing to start out with, just by getting to know each other more and more. Then if the feeling is mutual take it a step further and perhaps you two can become an item and so on and so forth.
.,***good luck......
2007-09-09 05:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by Murphy's Law 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the best things to do is not beat around the bush, just let him know, tactfully, that you like him, and you are wondering what his feelings are for you. Be prepared in case he says he is just a friend and all, and take it as that, don't put any pressure in the situation by saying words like LOVE or anything....just feel him out casually. It's a lot better than wondering, and hopefully it will work out for you. Remember though, just because he says he's your friend now, doesn't mean it can't change later. Play it easy. Good luck.
2007-09-09 05:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by rob lou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly i don't think it's ever right to tell someone what to do or say, that should come naturally, but I appreciate that can take a while to get too.
My advice is to go out with him and some neutral friends some where like dinner and clue in one of your friends whom you trust so they can create opportunities for you guys to chat more one on one. It sounds simple but eye contact and smiling alot when you talk to someone can really let them know how you feel about them.
Good luck!
2007-09-09 05:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by D.W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you tell him what you just told us.
you really want to get to know him, to try dating but you have been hurt and you are afraid.
ask him if he would be interested in just one date.
if he is a nice guy, he will take you by the hand and help you, even if he is not interested in anything long term, he will at least date you and try to help. or, if he is not interested, he will let you down easy.
sure, if he is a creep he will laugh, tell you to get lost or say he loves you and just go for the sex, but you will never know by asking us. and my way, only a real creep will hurt you. and you should be able to see it coming.
edit - after seeing your handle, my advice assumed this was a real guy. not some online thing .
if you are in love with some you dont know, my advice wont work. this has to be a real guy that you really know and you havent already freaked him out by saying you love him or want to have his baby.
2007-09-09 05:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jr. is angry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First: Thank god you have good grammar. Second: well make sure you want this guy 100%. Third: Get to know him more, alot more, then maybe in sometime like maybe a month to a week from now ask him out. Do it however you do it. People have different methods of asking people out.
Hope this helps..
2007-09-09 05:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to getting butterflies just having a normal conversation with someone I like. Just keep having conversations and joke around sometimes, sometimes do something nice like if you see him looking down, ask him why or if there's anything you can do, try to do it. That's what I'd do if I weren't afraid to try for someone I like very much.
2007-09-09 05:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by *october girl* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and be yourself, don't be pushy and learn more about him before expressing your heart felt feelings. Let him come out with his feels first, for if you do it first.. it might scare him off, so lay low for a while with how you feel. Just date him, and let him discover how wonderful you are, when you are with him. You have his attention now as he has yours, so take this relationship nice and slow, and watch it blossom into a lovely sweet rose of love.
2007-09-09 05:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by carmel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start slow and build a true friendship then persue him like mad, try including him in things when friends get together to hang out, invite him to watch a football game, or to a day out exploring your city.... good luck
2007-09-16 22:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋