Ok, so say if you were having sex with a girl for the first time and you went solf half way through (because of nerves) and was really awkward and ebarrassed what would you be thinking? Would your ego go down a lot?
2007-09-09 04:53:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope i have a pretty big ego... It happens from time to time i don't think it has happened to me the first time with a girl but not i don't really get nervous though. I guess i really would let it bring me down i would just bring my A game if there is a next time. Like i said huge ego what can i say.
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2007-09-09 05:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by trueblueeyedguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sure its going to be ambarrassing, but its not all your fault either. Look its something thats part of life, forget it, let it go and find out why you were so nervous! You know im betting its because you really liked her and wanted to really please her. But im going to say that maybe you possibly rushed it rather than waiting the evening or whatever and sitting and talking. Have alittle wine and get rid of the rough edges! Turn on the music, relax and let the evening go. Than there is something that many people don't do enough of and thats foreplay! The kissing, and everything leading up to the moment of beauty, are made much easier for you and her, by making love rather than possibly just being so turned on and getting down to it. If that is all it is just the sex, just to get off well your not doing either one of you any favors.
Making love to another is just what it means. Its not a thing that just happens in a moment. Its all that leads to that special moment, or time, to make it a beautiful one, that you will love and remember forever. Do both of you a favor if you want, and take the time needed to make it wonderful. In the end even if she is not someone you want to be with the rest of your life. Show her the consideration of making her feel special. In the end you are not only doing her a favor but your self to!
2007-09-09 12:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by realman7777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your expectations, and your lover's reaction to your temporary dysfunction. If you expected fireworks and applause, I can imagine your ego was also somewhat limp. I hope she didn't point and laugh, or get really annoyed.
However, you're not alone.
Most first-time sex is awkward, clumsy, rushed, disappointing, semi-limp, uncomfortable, and over way too fast.
Take it easy, relax, don't rush things. Be there for the love, not the sex. Let it happen if it happens, don't make it a goal. And always take proper precaution, if you're going to make love.
2007-09-09 12:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by Palmerpath 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were nervous because it was your first time. Don't let it get you down. It has happened to many many others before you.
In fact I would say it has probably happened to everyone of us at sometime in our lives and I defy any male to truthly say otherwise.
I sympathise with your embarrassment but don't let it rock your confidence.
If the girl truly cares about you she won't be worried about it and was probably as nervous as you at the time.
Take care of yourself. It isn't the great disaster you seem to think it is. Maybe you need to get to know the girl a little better so you won't be as nervous next time. Talk to her about what happened and let her know you were nervous.
2007-09-09 12:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by segunitb1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not my ego i would not think, i am not that connected to it.
having a great partner i think would make the difference in that if the other person was there saying why what happened would be one thing but having them there and saying something like will your a dead f*** then i think that would have a different out come to it so it depends on how the other rake's to the problem
2007-09-09 12:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't ready for moving into a sexual relationship . You went with what the World thinks. Your spirit knows and stopped you from making the mistake worse .
2007-09-09 12:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by R E J 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a guy but i would advice you to just forget about that awkward time and wow her the next time
2007-09-09 11:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by Versacetica 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"because of nerves" what the heII kinda reason is that???
How you do ever go soft halfway??? "Because of nerves" that doesn't make any sense! Gosh, I wake up hard almost every morning, I WISH it would go soft.
2007-09-09 12:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal when your mind is not focused, it happens. Just switch it up (cunnilingus) so she doesn't notice, until you're ready and at attention again.
2007-09-09 12:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by Yen Foo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've asked like 5 questions on this topic today. Get over it. It doesn't have anythng to do with you.
2007-09-09 11:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋