If you'd been offered a scholarship to attend Cambridge University (in the UK) for a PhD programme that is likely to take 5 years - would you go? What about if you'd just met the man you consider to be the love of your life and would have to leave him behind in America?
This is the situation I am in. I already knew I was starting at Cambridge when I met this man and he knew it too but we didn't know how strongly we were going to feel about each other. We've only known each other since June, so it seems too early to try to make arrangements for him to move to England with me. I'm due to leave in a matter of weeks. Should I just end the relationship with him before I go?
I honestly consider him to be the love of my life.
2007-09-09 04:01:46 · 13 answers · asked by Little Pie In The Sky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Follow through with your plans.
Do not disconnect from him, there is no reason to.
Many people have long distance relationships.
Should it fade over time, then so be it.
Life is all about luck and fate.
good luck dearie~
2007-09-09 04:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by Rev. Deb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WoW. I'm almost lost at what to say!
You meet the love of your life and have a chance to attend Cambridge? You havent been together long enough to commit 100%, but you dont wanna leave him behind? Well i'll start by saying that A PhD program from Cambridge University is worth ALOT for your future. I would most definately find a way to not mess up your education. Take him with you, come visit him as often as possible, ,something but dont give up your future for a guy you've known for 3 months. Its not bad to love someone, but ALL things considered, dont every neglect yourself.. See if things dong work out, you'll still ahve a life ahead of you. mess up your education and things dont work out,... work at McDonalds :D
-W ill
2007-09-09 04:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by William 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard situation. I know, because I've been in a similar one. If you're moving to Cambridge, it will be very hard to maintain a long-distance relationship from so far away. If he's open to moving with you that would be ideal (especially if he's up for an adventure and is not too attached to where he lives now).
You've also only known him for about 3 months, so (in my experience) it's very hard to say that someone is the love of your life. You still haven't seen the whole entire scope of this person. I know that emotionally it may feel that way, but you have to separate yourself from your emotions in order to make the best decision. Emotions are constantly in "motion," they change all the time.
I know it's hard. Best wishes in your decision~
2007-09-09 04:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take this scholarship, so you are going to have to sit down and talk to him about it. If you know that he is that fond of you, than asking him about moving to England with you needs to be done: if he really is the love of your life, then you need to let him know that in whatever way is most comfortable to you. If he doesn't want to - or can't move - with you, then bring up the thought of attempting (though they don't always work out) a long-distance relationship. Fight for your love, but don't give up your schooling.
2007-09-09 04:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by Mari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you are going to study at Cambridge. Just don't end the relationship. If the guy really loves you, he will wait for you.
2007-09-09 04:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by sikat_ang_pinoy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let the relationship go along, but do go to Cambridge! You can try a long distance relationship and if it works, he'll be here when you return. If not, it wasn't meant to be. Good luck!
2007-09-09 04:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by red 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinon...if it's really true love...then just stay in contact over the course of five yrs, like a phone call per day or emailing...I know that it's a long time...but it's gonna be worth it...I mean wat are the chances that you or he is gonna find another mate like each other?...I guess it's really your choice...but getting offered a scholarship for your PhD? That's like a major biggie....I think both are very important to you and your life...you know? well, I hope the best of luck to you...and the decision you're making now is going to effect the rest of your life...so try to make the choice you think is best!
2007-09-09 04:15:35 · answer #7 · answered by azn grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is (however you need to decide this for yourself)
1. Go to Cambridge
2. If you both truly "love" one another continue the relationship long distance
(who knows what may come of it)
I wish you the best of luck. Don't end the relationship though just because you're going to college -
2007-09-09 04:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is the love of your life, he'll be there for you after your schooling. A scholarship for a PhD - at this point and time in your life - THIS SHOULD BE THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE - YOUR FUTURE. He'll be in your life over the course of the next months or years and after - IF it's really meant to be.
2007-09-09 04:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by Topez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's this saying ''if you love someone, let go, if they're truly yours they'll come back''. that schorlarship is an opportunity, if you miss it, it might never come your way again. so i advice you move on with your education and explain thıngs to him. if you both think it's convenient you can still continue the relationship, if not you mıght as well end it. what's gonna be is gonna be.
2007-09-09 04:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by Pisces20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your education and future are more important than any man. Why should you give up your dreams for him?
If it's meant to be, he'll still be there in 5 years. Or he'll move to England to be closer to you.
2007-09-09 04:05:47 · answer #11 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋