for her wedding present and another friend said to me yesterday that that's a rubbish present. I personally think toasted sandwiches are rather nice, is it a rubbish present?!
2007-09-09 03:24:40 · 31 answers · asked by LONDONER © 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It wasn't on a wedding list and I opted for this over a mickey moust toaster that played the mickey mouse march tune when the toast is ready!
2007-09-09 03:31:03 · update #1
we are not good friends and rarely see each other so I think it's suitable
2007-09-09 03:40:50 · update #2
Rubbish??? That's a great idea! Thanks! I know what I'm buying for the next wedding I go to!
Last wedding I went to was my sisters. I bought her a DVD player.
the wedding before I really didn't like the couple so I got them some bath towels. (and 20 bucks in the envelope.)
2007-09-09 04:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by itty 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Here's the thing.... if they had a registry and you just decided to disreagard that and take a chance on getting them something they may never use, so be it.
Perhaps they have one, or perhaps they don't have the same taste as you.
This goes along with what I was trying to get at in a questions I recently asked.
If you know they don't have one... and maybe you know they would use it. Like they were at your house and said, "this is great. we should have registered for one of these". - Then that would make it a great gift.
Otherwise, it may collect dust, or go back to the store and be exchanged for something they really could use.
Like you said, you are getting them a gift that YOU like and not considering if it is something THEY would like.
And THAT my friends is why we should really consider gifts from the registry if we want to give a gift. You know the recipient will want it, keep it, and your money isn't wasted.
Ranting about if the bride and groom should be grateful for any gift is stupid. OK, so if I show up at your wedding with a few odds-n-ends that I don't use anymore and give you that - you will be grateful? How about if I bring you a box of Jell-o?
And of course we are all supposed to be martyrs and say "ohhhh... we didn't even think of gifts because it's all about having our friends and family... blah blah... " You thought about gifts, you just want to look good by saying you didn't. We are all human. And we all anticipate getting gifts at our wedding, Christmas, birthdays, and even hope for an Easter basket filled with candy, and go door to door asking for candy (gifts) at Halloween.
Save the high horse.
And gift givers - think of what the RECIPIENT wants, not what YOU want.
And the idea that ANY gift should be appreciated is rubbish! Lemme give you a bag of trash for Christmas. Will you appreciate that?
2007-09-09 13:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not a trash gift. Can the couple return it if they don't need it? I don't know how much the gift costed. Perhaps she was saying that, as a close friend, you should have bought something more expensive or more lavish.
If the bride truly despises the gift, and she can't return it, she certainly can save it for the next wedding she attends. And re-gift it.
I would buy them an automatic trash can before I'd buy them a Mickey Mouse toaster.
Next time, buy earlier when there are more items left on the list.
As a former employee of Dillard's and Macy's, I have found that a number of the brides don't order enough everyday things. Only the old and rich are going to buy Waterford crystal for them. But lots of pillows, towels, kitchen appliances, bed clothing, household decor and flatware--that's what belongs on the list. You want high price items and lots and lots of normal people gifts.
Take care and buy early next time.
Debbie
Dallas, TX, USA
2007-09-09 10:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The bride ought to be grateful to receive any gift. I'm sure she'll love it. If she doesn't, she's not a very nice person. A wedding shouldn't be about gifts, it should be about two people coming together while surrounded by friends. I'm getting married this month, and I'd be happy to receive a sandwich toaster. It may be something she hadn't thought she would like, but turns out to be something she loves. In my mind, a gift registy is like a guideline. It's best used to figure out what colors a bride and groom might like in their home for things such as towels and linens. I think you've come up with a very suitable gift. I'm sure she'll love it.
2007-09-09 11:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by benjis.girl 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not at all. it is really an ideal present. I can imagine how your friend can remember you whenever she is rushing to work and has no time to cook and every morning she wakes up with her husband and make a nice toast for her.
i think you have got a great idea in buying presents.
2007-09-09 10:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by Max 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. Its a fine present.... if your friends are starting out married life, they will probably be greatful for these practical presents.
If you're worried about it being a bit impersonal, maybe you could get them something small and more fun to go with it? The toaster being the main present but something a bit more fun for them as well?
Ideas for a fun gift:
http://www.firebox.com/product/174?src_t=cat&src_id=gifts
http://www.firebox.com/product/1275?src_t=cat&src_id=gifts
http://www.firebox.com/product/688?src_t=cat&src_id=gifts
http://www.firebox.com/product/1607?src_t=cat&src_id=gifts
or maybe even just some nice candles or massage oils.
2007-09-09 10:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sandwich toasters are fine. Although I may have left out the mickey mouse tune (it gets annoying once you play it too often and it may not look too mature, although novelty goods are good to have sometimes)
2007-09-09 10:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unless the couple is known to abhor sandwiches, there's nothing wrong with it. If they can't use it, they can donate it to a charity thrift shop or pass it on to someone who DOES like toasted sandwiches. One man's rubbishy sandwish is another man's sunday afternoon treat.
2007-09-09 10:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its a great gift! You have given them something they dont have to go out and buy- and if they get a couple of them- that is ok too- you never know- they could use one camping or for vacations- someting of that nature- I have two toasters! :)
2007-09-09 10:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by CHELIFAN24 THE CUP IS HOME!!!!!! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's the thoughts that count. I personally think that whatever gifts you gave to someone is good enough. I used to get a rice cooker as my wedding gift. And I'm happy with it. My other friend used to get a coffee-maker as her wedding gift. And she's still using it till now. As long as what we got for others are useful to their everyday life, that's all that matters. :)
2007-09-09 10:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by narnia 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋