Me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now and we think we are ready to get engaged. Not married but just engaged to show how much we love each other.
Do you think its right, please help!!
2007-09-09 02:50:08 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
u should give eachother promiss rings witch meaning that when your old and are ready that u will get marryed
2007-09-09 02:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
i personally find it too young, but every couple is different. engagement is perfectly fine as long as it is a VERY LONG engagement. i married at 25, totally in love and it would have been even better at 28 or 30. i know this sounds old, but people change w/maturity and our needs change. at 16 u really have no earthly idea of what life is about. i do not mean that in an ugly way. u r just so young! if by some accident u were to marry early and have a child, it could be the worst thing, because children totally change ur life! you are not even old enough to vote, and barely old enough to join the work force. plan for ur future carefully! do not cheat urselves of any opportunities that await young people today. if u r truly set on this then, get a ring and set the date for when you are MUCH older...say at the very least 21. that is 5 yrs. which is a little more reasonable.
2007-09-09 03:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by Kelli G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, please don't do that! I know you will probably do it anyway and need to learn from your own experienes. But, I think it is a really bad idea. I've been there and it changed th whole course of my life.
I became engaged to my boyfriend whe I was 16. It seemed like a really good idea because we had been together since 7th grade. He was my 1st boyfriend and I thought he was just the coolest thing i the world. After we became engaged, we started having se and BOOM! I got pregnant.
Since we were 'engaged' anyway our parents made us get married. We were both too young and our mothers had to sign the papers for us. Then as our families helped us along they insisted I quit school to be a full time mother and wife. I quit school wth a 4.0 gpa and the opportunity to graduate a year and a half ahead of schedule.
By the time I was 18 I was miserable. In the few years since our child had been born my husband and I had become very different people with nothing in common. So I filed for divorce, with everyone in the family against me, and set out on my own as a single mother. Just as the divorce was finalised I realized I was pregnant again.
I know your situation may be alot different but, this could happen to you. Give it alot of thought, please. You and your boyfriend should be able to enjoy being a couple with out taking such a drastic step. Neither of you are mature enoughto know if you really want to betogether forever.
2007-09-09 03:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait!!!
Wait until you live together and have bills, jobs, and responsibility. THEN see how long you want to live together. Adding those three things together changes everything!
You hear that "people change and grow apart" and that's what tears up marriages. You do most of the growing up in your 20s and you still have a long way to go. Once you get engaged it seems like marriage is the next step. You want to be free in your 20s!! Keep the boyfriend but if you're married you will not have the same freedom!!
2007-09-09 08:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by flynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should get engaged right now. My high school boyfriend and I dated from when I was 14 until I was 18. We loved each other but as you get older and leave high school you both change. You start going to college and get jobs and begin to grow apart. I'm not saying that that will happen, but if ya'll want to show how much you love each other get a promise ring. A promise ring is a promise that you will get in engaged one day. That's what I would do. I hope I helped.
2007-09-09 07:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How a while is a while? At the age of 13 / 14. Personally I think, at 16 you can be in a relationship but not to the extend of getting engaged. My dear, you can still show how much you love each other by just being in a relationship first. Do you know that being engaged can lead to lots of problems. such as trust, patience, and personal time spent are being tested. Can you deal with it at such a young age?
2007-09-09 04:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by narnia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the answer to that question depends on the couple. Sometimes you'll find someone who if far older than 16 who isn't mature enough to get engaged and sometimes you find people who got engaged and married at 16 and stay together forever.
The only problem is that you can't envisage what you will both be like when you're older and it may be a different that still makes you perfect for each other or it may be a different where the difference become too much.
its a descision that only you can make, as only you truly know your situation and your boyfriend.
Good luck in whatever you decide!
Louise x
2007-09-09 03:02:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
no...I think its stupid...not becuase your young, but becuase you still have at least 2 years before you can even get married and the purpose of getting engaged to to start planning a wedding. if your not ready to get married then you dont get engaged. young people are too obsessed with just being able to say their engaged and dont really care about the meaning and committment behind it. wait until you are both able to work and support yourselves and get a place to live before you get engaged. I was engaged when I was 19, but I got married 5 months later and am still happily married almost 3 years later. if when your 18 you still feel that way then go ahead, but right now is just dumb.
2007-09-09 03:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I'd gotten engaged at 16 to the boyfriend I thought I was going to marry I'd be a sad sad lady. Though I also know a couple who got married at that age and are now happy grandparents.
If it's right you can hold off. Don't put too much pressure on it.
2007-09-09 06:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at 16 you are to young to be engaged,you both should be enjoying your teenage years.You need to finish school,and go on to college to make some kind of career for yourselves,then if you still feel this way about your boyfriend,that will be a good time to become engaged.If this is meant to be both of you will still feel the same way.Trust me I was engaged young & married young,I thought I knew what I wanted but I was to young.I was married & divorced by the age of 21.Take your time don't rush into things.
2007-09-09 02:59:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you're setting yourself up for people to misunderstand.
what my bf did (granted, i was 17, he was 19) was give me a promise ring. this was my statement to the world that we love each other and plan on being married sometime in the future.
it's not an engagement ring. personally, i would not want to be engaged at 16, i do think it's a bit young, but more importantly, you'll have to defend yourself against everyone's criticism until you actually do get married.
look into promise rings :)
2007-09-09 05:28:54 · answer #11 · answered by kiki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋