My older brother is smoking pot.Should I tell my parents?

Question

He Is getting high with his friends sometimes he smokes right in our backyard.I DONT WANT TO BE A RAT when I ask him why he does it tells me mind my own buisnees. The other day i found his stash in his room I threw it in the trash. He beat the crap out of me.

I live in new york in our neighborhood being a rat is the worth thing you can be.

the pot I thru away was worth about 200 bucks.

Answer 1

Yes for crissakes. It's a way of showing your love for him. He may not understand it now because of the pot, but he would thank you later for doing that for him.

Your parents have the right to know.

Answer 2

I'll take the easy way out and give you the answer I gave someone else, too. Although in that case, the older brother was 18. Age can make a difference in how it should be approached. Throwing his stash out was the wrong thing to do; you should pull it out so it can be found by your parents. You can guide them toward it, but try to be discreet and play innocent. It's more of a mind game. So if you merely pull his stash out where it can be seen, or a piece of paraphernalia--make it a believable oversight--he'll worry that HE'S getting careless. The amusement value of this is likely more than enough to make up for the beating. Now this was my last advice:

Weed isn't good, but it isn't the worst thing he could be doing. I think you should speak with him and tell him that you could smell it all over the place, so who does he think he's kidding? People who smoke weed think they're getting away with it, that they aren't being smelled, so I think the best thing you can do is inject a healthy dose of paranoia. People who smoke get paranoid anyway, so that won't be hard. Stay alert. Anytime you see bloodshot eyes or smell something on him, make a big deal out of it. "Phew! You're really skunked, aren't you? Did you drive like that?" I believe that you can actually do more just by harassing him than by telling your parents. Siren sounds are good, as are flashing lights.

Don't worry about falsely accusing him. If he isn't stoned, he'll get paranoid if you suggest that the smell never leaves him. Ask him what he's going to tell a cop if he gets stopped smelling like that. That's actually more effective if he's had a shower and put on fresh clothes. "OMG...they can still smell it?!" Well, no. But he doesn't have to know that.

Answer 3

It really isn't your business. It's very normal for teenagers to go through stages, experimenting with things. Whether you agree with his choices or not, you went through his things and stole and threw out what was not yours. That was not the right thing to do because you are not his parent.

It may be worth telling your parents if you notice some bad side effects such as doing poorly in school, missing school, personality changes, or depression. But since you're younger, you should mind your own business because there's a good chance that you might want to try it when you're older.

Also, you will probably make mistakes in the future, and you will want to have your big bro on your side. Your relationship with him is a very important one in your life; show him you're on his side... even if that ends up meaning you have to tell.

Answer 4

Wow you suck if you tell, HES YOUR BROTHER, smoking pot is just another thing you have to go through, telling your parents is not going to solve anything and will make things worse I can almost guarantee it, I'm about 99 percent sure, you're gonna be the same way, and make the same mistakes, because all young people make mistakes and smoke and drink, its something you have to figure out for yourself, its his life let him live it and don't but in talk to him give him some advice about what you think and thats it, you don't have to throw his stash away, thats just childish.

Answer 5

truth is always the best even tho it might hurt right now it may help him in the long run you don't want to lose what trust you have with your parents. If you have tried it let them know that you where trying and found out you didn't like it and that you would never touch it again and that your brother influenced you but in my experience i would rather have told the truth then have lived with a lie and never have my parents trust me again. Trust is a hard thing to come by

Answer 6

if you think he is smoking pot all the time, and not just socially, then i guess you have to use your good judgment and let your parents know that it seems to be a problem.

sometimes we "escape" from our problems and lives by getting high (not just with pot).

some people just smoke pot socially, as well.

i know you care about your brother. maybe he has issues which need to be dealt with....? Instead of getting high, maybe your parents can try to address the problems, if there are some?

Answer 7

If he is doing something worse than pot. Tell on him, but pot is no that bad, i think alcohol is worse, you could actually join him and smoke too it may be a good bonding experience. Pot is not all that bad.

Answer 8

I would tell your parents when you think he might have a new stash in his room, otherwise he will deny it and say that you are lying. Also, wait until he is smoking the weed and then tell your parents.
It is important that your parents catch him in the act.

Answer 9

Tell him that even you want to smoke. If he offers you, He has gone too far. If he says no, ask why he smokes then. After that tell him that you care for him and does not want to be in this ****. If he still does not stop, let your parents know. If nothing happens even then, rehab is the answer. Its better than going too far in this deep ****.

Answer 10

Get out of his business. Reverse it, what if it was you. I would have beat you to for stealing my stash too. It's not any of your business. You didn't pay for it, he did.

There's worse things he could be doing than smoking pot. and why are you going thru his room.......