I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years. We get into some heated sessions but we have never had sex. I am a believer in waiting till marriage to have sex. The temptation is so urging though, i just want to already. Though then it would never be the same when I am married and can say to my wife that I am a virgin. She is kind of pressuring me a bit and I feel like i want to give in but I havent. I dont know what to do.Please help.
2007-09-09 01:47:04 · 21 answers · asked by linebacker43 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, I totally wish I could find a guy like you. So hard to come by! Guys just wanna jump into every pair of pants they see. You sound like a genuine great guy. Don't give in. You've waited this long and once you do it you'll regret it and you won't be able to change it. Stay true to what you believe in! Are you LDS or just an amazing guy!!! You got any friends like you!? haha. Good luck. But you should tell her how you feel. If she really loves you she won't try and pressure you into it. If she really loves you she'll know you're worth waiting for. You also need to condsider, do you see yourself marrying her one day? If so, tell her that you wanna wait and it will mean so much more to you! If not, then why waste your time and play with the temptation. I really admire you.
2007-09-16 17:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truly believe in waiting till marriage then i guess you should wait. Otherwise if you really want to do it then i say if you feel ready then do it. I believe it's okay to not be a virgin when youre married and a lot of women wouldn't be mad that you're not a virgin..going out there and sleeping around is different.
Live your life on whats going to make you happy
2007-09-16 17:54:55 · answer #2 · answered by Tears are *Diamonds* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, but the urge to have sex can be very strong, and overshadow logic, reason and smarts. Maybe she doesn't have the same commitment to virginity for marriage that you do (you don't even say you've actually proposed or anything or call her a fiance), or maybe her bodily urges are just quite strong right now, and if she gave in (and you did to), she might regret it just like you will. You guys need to seriously talk about this before you "cave" and regret it.
2007-09-09 01:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by Bev B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say if she wants it then give it to her,but only if you really do not care weather you will be a virgin when you get married, Do not knock yourself out about this,think of it this way, by the time you do get married I would feel that you have a 5% cChance to find a virgin,so what the hay.
2007-09-16 21:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by Hopeful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever give into something just to please another person.
Also, when speaking of getting married some day you sound as though it will be to someone other than your current girlfriend. Otherwise it wouldn't matter to the one you married if you weren't a virgin, since she wouldn't be one either. If that's how you truly feel, that your girlfriend isn't the one you'll marry or might not be, then that is one good reason not to give up your virginity to her, if your virginity matters to you.
2007-09-09 01:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think she's the one? The one who one day you'll marry and say "Honey I'm a Virgin" ??? Cause if she is pressuring you now, that obviously means marrying a virgin isn't on top of her agenda.
2007-09-16 23:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by Megzy N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats hard to believe. 3 years of "heated sessions" and you never gave in?
obviously your virginity is very important to you but if youre not at least pleasing her some way, you risk losing her.... the d*** is a very awesome thing to a woman, so even if you are pleasing her you risk losing her.
maybe your values are too different to stay together
2007-09-09 02:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by j dddddd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married at the earliest and solve the problem. You have already been friends for three years, how long more are you going to wait, like forever, till you get too old. Get married now and be happy and all will be fine.
2007-09-09 02:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, at the end of the day it is up to you.
it is strange for the girl to be pressuring the guy but not un common.
if you love her and think you will be with her for ever. I dont see any harm in doing it.
2007-09-17 00:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by Summah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you believe in waiting until marriage, then do that. if shes pressuring you then explain to her. she has to understand. if you really love her then i dont know. if i were you i would wait until marriage though. its great that you dont give in so i think you should keep doing that if you want to wait. good luck :)
2007-09-09 01:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by Brii 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋