My children have had to share a room when the visit their Dad on weekends. He has moved and now they have 1 bedroom for all 3 of them. I'm not comfortable with my 13 yo daughter having to share a room w/her 10 yo brother. Are there any regulations regarding parental visitation and shared bedrooms in MA? Or is it just a personal judgement call?
2007-09-09 01:36:35 · 14 answers · asked by MARILOU 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This depends on the state. I'd call a lawyer to know for sure. I think here in GA is is age 5 or 6 when siblings of the opposite sex are no longer allowed to share a room. He should put the boy on the couch or something. IDEALLY, they would have seperate rooms.
Am I understanding that daughter, son and dad all sleep in the same room??? That's NOT cool. I'd get on the phone with my lawyer.
2007-09-09 03:22:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't understand some peoples answerer's on here, kids will experiment, an they need their own rooms. I don't think you are after revenge or anything it is a simple question and i feel you have a reason to be concerned. If i had a young daughter and son sleeping in the same room i would be concerned to, it isn't right for them to share the same bedroom because kids are curious. Maybe you can tell your ex how you feel and see if he will let one sleep on the couch or even an air mattress in the floor. (living room floor). Best of luck
2007-09-09 02:06:00 · answer #2 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why? Do you not trust your daughter or your son? Or are you just looking for some dirt to use against your ex to increase your position of power in regards to custody? Has your husband EVER gave you any indication that he would let anything happen to his children? Has your son or daughter ever done anything that would indicate something may happen?
While I tend to agree that boys and girls should sleep in different rooms, you question implies that dad is in the same room, "...now they have 1 bedroom for all 3 of them. I'm not comfortable with my 13 yo daughter having to share a room w/her 10 yo brother.", don't you think dad would stop anything inappropriate from happening?
At any rate, if you TRULY are concerned, maybe you could ask him to let your daughter sleep in the living room or something.
2007-09-09 01:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by bender_xr217 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Regulations? Who cares about regulations? Do you really want your 10-year-old son seeing his 13-year-old sister in various stages of undress? I think not.
How about her seeing the results of his wet dreams on his sheets? Sounds good to me, NOT!
No kids of the opposite sex over 5 or 6 should be sharing the same bedroom, period.
I know what I'm talking about. Not only am I an incest survivor (my Dad, when I was a toddler), but my Stepfather was fooling around with his younger sister when they were kids -- it's their huge family secret, and everyone knows. Think they shared the same bedroom, too. Hmmmm.
So anyway it HAPPENS!!! I'd rethink your "regulation" theory. Um, are you their Mom, or what? WHO'S IN CHARGE HERE? Hello???
2007-09-09 01:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by robinwritergal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most states have laws about sibilings of the opposite sex sharing a bedroom. I would check into that. Quite frankly at 18 years old he should be in his own apartment if he isn't in college and he shouldn't want to be in the same room as his little sister and the fact that your mom doesn't want to separate the two of you at such an old age is just strange.
2016-05-20 03:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No rules ... but the court will have issues if the kids share a bed. Just make your feelings known to your ex ..... See if he can improvise a room divider or better sleeping set up ... kids at that age are better in thier own space.
When in doubt ask your divorce lawyer ....
Good Luck.
2007-09-09 02:03:03 · answer #6 · answered by John 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand your concerns. They are legitimate as I see these issues frequently occurring with siblings. Good for you for being aware of this as many parents are in denial as to the sexual curiosities between siblings especially at that age and what can potentially happen. So the sleeping arrangement is not perfect at their dad's but they can sleep separately like in the own sleeping bags apart. The ideal situation would be for them to have their separate quarters. Best of luck to you.
2007-09-09 01:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know that my friend HAS to have a room specifically for her son and can actually get into a lot of trouble if she doesnt(so does the kids dad)...she is a good person, mom... it's just something that has to be done b/c of the custody issue...which their dad should know better then to put a 13 yr old girl in w/ boys anyway..but..yes it can be required for them to have their own places to stay while there.
2007-09-09 09:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by peacexlovexrocknroll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The state wouldn't allow it; call CPS. They need separate bedrooms. That is unsuitable living arrangements and he would have to give up visitation until the problem is fixed.
2007-09-09 02:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
after the kids are some age between 10-14 it's illeagal for them to share rooms. I'm not exactly sure which age but I know it's between 10 and 14. look it up 2 be safe.
2007-09-09 01:42:05 · answer #10 · answered by Pooge 2000 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋