At 50 years old,Do you Think I schould Raise A StepGrand Baby?

Question

shes 35years old,an she is my stepdaughter,she had 4kids,the other ones were taken away by thier Fathers.they are all from driffent men,she does not know the father of this one.this girl just moved in with us.she is not cabable of taken care of a baby,she cant take care of herself.we will take care of her.she needshelp bad.we will get it for her.i would not put a stranger on the street,much less my stepdaughter,so do not judge me.I have faith in GOD,THIS IS TO THE PERSON THAT PUT ME DOWN,

Answer 1

I think its great that your helping her if you can. It's not going to be easy but if you have the will, God has a way. Encourage your step daughter get counceling and try to find out why she is in the distructive pattern of falling for the wrong men., Encourage her and help her find God. Also encourage her to take parenting classes so she can understand and help her baby grow. Offer to babysit while she takes the classes. when she is ready, help her get a job. Onece she is stable encourage her to get a place of her own. THere are programs out there that can help her like the Head Start Program (its a free program for low income families). Even Start is for pregnant moms and infants and toddlers. These programs offer preschool full day and half day care for infants and toddlers. The teachers and staff are very well trained and educated in child development. ON site there is a social worker that helps the parent with resourses. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 2

Well it depends, what are the other choices for this baby? Adoption, foster parents, abusive parents, drug users????

If the other options all point to the child being neglected or abused in some way then I think you should do it. It would be hard but worth it. If the parents are teens and considering adopting out or something similar then I would possible still keep the baby myself, it is your family. A baby is better off with its own family if that is a viable, safe and secure option.
I couldn't turn away a needy child.

Answer 3

You are only as old as you feel. My dad was 52 when I was born, and he attributes his longevity to having a young family. When he was 70, my first daughter was born, though I raised her myself, I lived in my parents' home til she was 5 and they could not have been happier.

I think that your stepdaughter sounds a lot like my young sister, but I believe that the baby is best to stay with family. I always feel that if there is a family member out there that is willing and able to take on a relitive, whether due to neglect or some unforseen accident that killed their parents, then I say, go for it.

Go for it, it would really benefit you and the child, you are never to old to love a child. You are never to old to care, I think that you really can do this, if you really want to.

I hope that this helps you, take care and may God bless you and your family.

Answer 4

No matter what the child did the grandchild should not suffer. You can do it.
Make sure you get legal papers drwn up so that the mom can't just come rip the child out of your arms one day and upset the poor baby's life.

To the people who say she shouldn't do it, I take exception to you saying she's too old. I had my child at 36. So, what you are saying is that I'm not going to be a fit parent in 12 years??? WHATEVER! I'm a much better parent than my 26 yo SIL.

Answer 5

Ask yourself this...is the child's wellbeing best fit with you? If so then yes, who cares what your age is. I dont know the situation but if u find yourself reluctant & the parents of the child arent fit to raise the child then u need to step in & make sure the child's gonna be raised right, by either you or someone who will. You're a grandparent & i find it to be strange that you call the child a "step grand baby". Maybe the child needs someone who will love him or her more than u & your family. It's a shame that people just carelessly have sex & create a life & dont want to take the responsibility.

Answer 6

That's a hard row to hoe. I am 63 and still working on getting my 20 year old grandson to make something of himself. Still supporting him. (He is Special Needs so not really his fault).

Sometimes you have to step up and take over when the parents can't or won't face their own responsibilities.

They say our creator never gives us more than we can handle. Have faith, hang in there, do your best. We can only expect stars in our crowns of glory for the good that we do.

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

my grandmother raised me at 47 she gained custody. It was be far the greatest thing that ever happened to me. My biological mother was a dug addict and my biological father at his own family...picket fence life and he didn't have room for me, so his mother, my grandmother took me in and I am so thankful. She says I was meant for her. Yea she had a time doing some things with me, but she says now if she didn't have me and my family (2 kids and a husband) she wouldn't be here. We complete her. And she's a huge part of our lives.

So it's really up to you, do you think you are capable of it and does the child need you?

Answer 8

you don't say whether you have had kids yourself. If you had, you would know what looking after such a small child entails and I would say, go ahead and do it!!!
it would be good for your step-daughter to see her own kid growing up near to her and you could get her more involved as time goes by and she seems fit.
How does your partner feel about it?

Answer 9

i think you should raise your step grandson after all there's ladies out there giving birth at 50.Good luck I hope everything goes well for you.

Answer 10

NO, my foster mum and dad where 50 years old, and still raising those unwanted kids like me!

Why would someone gives me a thumbs down?? Honestly!