My husband and I have been ttc for 9months now, have had tests and both of us are healthy and should have no problems ttc, starting to get v frustrated and upset. Found out over the weekend a friend is pregnant, they have been ttc for 4 months, over those 4 months my friends husband has been smoking dope and hoping they don't get pregnant, she dosen't know about this and i will never tell her as it's none of my business. I know it shouldn't worry me what they do but i was really upset when i found out they were expecting as he doesn't want a baby yet and it smoking dope and my husband and i are doing everything right and still no good news. How do i cope in a situation like this when it is starting to feel like i'm the only one who can't get pregnant. Feeling like life is unfair and down and out especiallly because i know of the horrible secret, it's murphys law isn't it.....can't stop crying and wishing i was pregnant too........
2007-09-08 22:57:06 · 8 answers · asked by deedean2 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
*Hugs*
I know it is very difficult and I am glad that you are recognizing your feelings (anger, grief, frustration, etc). Every month, allow yourself to grieve and then you need to move on for your own sanity.
It is very easy to feel like the world is against you and that everybody has a baby but you. It is also difficult when you see a pregnant woman that is smoking, eating McDonald's, drinking or not taking care of her kids properly.
You need to take care of yourself by letting go of these feelings. Taking care of yourself is the best thing that you can do...schedule a massage, pedicure, manicure, acupuncture, etc. Do all of the things your friends without a baby can do and enjoy time with your partner. Rediscover each other - plan some dates.
You may also want to schedule an appointment with your obgyn to start looking at some possible reasons why you are not conceiving.
The other suggestion I have for you is to make sure you are taking a multi-vitamin, eating healthy - organic foods whenever you can and exercise.
Your body will not conceive until it is ready and by working on your happiness you will find that you may conceive sooner than you think.
2007-09-09 03:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by WxEtte 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've been trying for 5 years an no luck. I really thought I was PG this time because my temps were climbing up and up and fertility friend said I was 4 days past my leutal phase! Come to find out I actually ovulated later in the cycle and had a normal 12 day leutal phase and got AF What a cruel joke!! And yes, everyone that I was 'cycle' buddies with (I mean EVERYONE all 4 of them!!) got their BFPs this cycle except me So really if I would have gotten my BFP, it would have been a super BFP thread where every single lady in there got pregnant the same month. Now my cycle buddies are on the pregnancy boards and Im left here all alone :( lol Im gonna get druuuuuuuunk this weekend!
2016-05-20 02:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I no how you feel it really hurts, me and my fiance have been ttc for over a year now and was having unprotected sex from a teen, I have a friend she smoke weed and she pregnant, she isnt fit to be a mom, and she's prenant, my little cousin who just graduate from high school is also, my close friend is pregnant, and one just ahad a baby, everyone around me is pregnant, and I am not due to pcos, I just want to cry, my fiance wants a child so badly just as well as me, I am currently on metformin and was on clomid fr 3 months now, just hang in there, the Lord never puts more on us then we can't bare, keep your heads up and relax and put it in the Lords hand just pray unto him and your blessings would come sooner than you can imagine
2007-09-10 03:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of 2 w/ PCOS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there I can totally relate to you here we are also trying to concieve at the moment and it seems impossible so far my sister my auntie my step mum my ex sister in law and my ex husband have HAD babies now i find out 2 of my friends are 4 months preg WHEN IS IT GOING TO BE MY TURN! I too cry at times just cause I wana be pregnant.
Anyway getting to the point just this month I have started traking my cycle and using on ovulation prediction calculator to predict the right days to have sex to increase chances of conception only hoping it works.
If your not already traking you cylcles go to www.mymontlycycles.com and put in your details and it will give you the recommended days for baby making.
Good luck and hope it dosn't take too much longer
2007-09-08 23:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by bitsy_pixie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to try and chill out a bit. I know this sounds a bit harsh, but if you relax and are patient it will happen in time. If you stress out about it all the time, and get so upset seeing other people in this position, your body will not allow itself to be in the best position to start conceiving.
To a degree, count yourself lucky that you are not yet pregnant. I spent nearly five months getting pregnant. Whn I did get pregnant, I lost my baby at 11 weeks gestation, and it turned out that the baby had died inside me at 7 weeks, so I was carrying a dead baby for 4 weeks.
Relax, think positive, and enjoy your sex life for what it is, time with you and your partner. Perhaps you will stand a better chance of conceiving that way.
Good luck
2007-09-08 23:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by Eleanora 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
loosen up. don't stress too much for not being able to get pregnant yet. try not to think about it. if you stress too much about it, you're putting pressure on your body. too much stress can cause miscarriage right.
i had a friend who are in the same situation as yours, they've been trying for 2 years. her dr. told her to relax, eliminate stressors, get enough rest. after 2 months she was pregnant.
her dr also told her not to have sex daily as daily sex can cause the semen to lose its quality. it becomes too thin like water when it should be sticky. watery semen are, well, too weak and is not enough to get you pregnant. whereas if you skip sex for a day or 2, you are giving "it" time to rest and 'it' is able to generate a good quality semen that is stronger.
2007-09-09 00:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by riza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having aggressive sex! I mean you have to remind those little guys which way to swim. Another thing...There is a new test on the market for ovulating women. It tells you if you are ovulating so that you can have sex. Try it you will be happy with the results! Good luck, I will be praying for you...LOL
2007-09-08 23:08:22 · answer #7 · answered by Bigeyes 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know the feeling, we have been trying over two years at yet to conceive.
Hang in there is will happen
2007-09-08 23:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋