Everyone I know has their own social circle. I just have my boyfriend (who I love dearly) and he too has his own social circle. What is wrong with me? Why aren't I part of a group of good friends? I am 31 and quite normal I think??!!! I have had various groups of friends throughout my life but it just seems we've either grown apart, outgrown each other or occasionally fallen out. I gets lonely sometimes, anyone else in the same situation?
2007-09-08 22:36:33 · 12 answers · asked by Tluni 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am your age and in the EXACT same boat. I've only been dating somebody for just over a fortnight now, but I don't have a social circle. Just the odd friend here and there. I don't keep in touch with anybody I went to school with. And other good friends along the way got married and had children and of course, different lives. I also moved house once or twice and lost touch with people then too.
Don't feel bad. I figure it's better that your boyfriend is your best friend anyway! It's too much hard work to keep in touch sometimes...but maybe you weren't really supposed to have that person in you life forever. Just be yourself and I'll be your friend!
xx
2007-09-09 06:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sparky5115 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I am. I have never had a social circle of my own as such. I have various individual friends who all get on great with me but they don't generally get along with each other. I tend to get adopted into the social circles of men I date, and then get dropped again just as quick when we spilt up, which can make for a lonely time whilst I'm single. And I've been single a LONG time now!
2007-09-08 22:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat as you, my boyfriend is also my best friend. I have acquaintances such as my boyfriends friends, wives and girlfriends, but nobody close. there is nothing to worry about, you just have a very small circle of friends. Also everyone gets lonely at times even those with lots of friends.
2007-09-08 23:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some of us, getting married means being faithfull to our loved one and dedicating all our life to our new family and children. In the process we wish to create our own circle of friends with the same interests and consideration for our spouse and kids.
To keep "Yahoo" friends after we get married, I consider at least "untactful".
In my books, hubbie and wife should create their own social circle. Who wants to be remainded every day about your spouse´s hey days and lowers?
If you are serious enough with your partner without getting married, it is the same thing.
2007-09-09 02:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my spouse of about 16.5 YRS. passed away last sept. '06. We had each our own group of friends & mutual friends. Since he's passed, (we were going through A divorce anyway) I have moved, have A new man and don't really have any more of the same friends or any others, just one's of my boyfriends. I get along with them just fine. It seems to me that it may just be one of lifes' little cycles. :~)
2007-09-08 22:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hear that! after high school it gets harder to stay in touch. most of my friends are now married, live out of state or have children. we all grew apart. i have to make an effort to keep in touch with just a few friends that i want to keep forever. you need to re-evaluate here. are you too caught up in you and your man? are you working two jobs?
its only normal to have different friends come through your life. each friend has their place in your life and what is going on at that time. you- as an adult- (i am too) have to be able to identify which ones are there for the long haul. and you have to make an effort to keep them. friendship is like marriage- takes two.
and of course you are normal!
2007-09-08 22:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by Steph 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We moved a while back and i have left my friends behind although i dont see them or keep in regular contact i know they are there for me.. Sometimes you have to bite the bullet and organise a get together... Everyone loves a good knees up!
2007-09-08 22:43:31 · answer #7 · answered by LaLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u got no idea of being lonelyi was lonely 4 13 or 12 years but yeah im in the same boat and im still lonely and i miss her lots.
2007-09-08 22:47:51 · answer #8 · answered by prower2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that happens to everyone but your only aware of your own situation. people change thier interests, move away, get married, circumstances change with everyone, everywhere so don't fret...your no different than anyone else.
2007-09-08 22:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to have a ton of friends now i dont hang with no one i guess its part of life it sucks i know someday you will find a new friend to chat with that what i kept thinking we have to have hope
2007-09-08 22:49:29 · answer #10 · answered by rich g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋