What is something you've learned (either positive or negative) from your most traumatic life experience?

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Bella :-) :-)

I couldn't access your links. I got a message indicating the URL could not be displayed. Perhaps because your Q & A's are marked private. I don't know....Anyway, sorry I could not read them.

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That is so sweet Icy gazpacho :-). I think you're right.

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Bradley P :-)

Not cynical. Derived from your own personal experiences and just as valuable as any of the others.

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(((((((((((Bella)))))))))))): Thank-you so, so much for sharing what you have. To Bradley P, neophyte, spanky, LJK too.....well, everyone actually.

Bella, your links moved me to tears. I know it is not my place to be upset....

I'm very sorry for all that you (and others) have been through.

Huggz to all :-) :-)

Answer 1

I can not remember a time as a child that my mother did not abuse me. I'm not talking a little, but everyday both physically, mentally, & emotionally. It was like one of those books you read. She poisoned me, beat me, & belittled me. I really was at one point lucky to have even made it to three. By the time I was 6 I was already broken. She held us hostage, no friends & no place to hide. But I did survive and in that recieved an amazing gift. Most kids lose there Truth sense very early. When little Johnny asks mommy why she is sad, mommy usually will say nothing is wrong dear, in a misguided attempt to protect little Johnny. Johnny then is faced with a choice, to believe his instinct or believe his god like mom. Most choose mom. Over the course of the years all these little incidents happen till Johnny just stops listening to his Truth sense. Well, I knew my mom was not to be trusted, so I always believed my instincts. Today, I have this tremendous connection on the inside that most don't {not that they can't, they have just forgotten how to listen}. I got past all of it & today I know that the real part of me can never be damaged or broken. I also truly know that my mother never had a chance, what was done to her was almost as bad. There really are many more postive gifts I recieved from this, one is that I am not bitter & I am very trusting of others. It was not fun at all while I lived it, but today I can look back & see it's gifts.

Answer 2

The Negative--that Plato was right. People do suck if left to their own devices. That humans can be nasty, cold, violent and mean *way out of any sense of proportion*. That most folks are power-mad and obsessed with money. That most people judge a book by its cover and don't give you *the time of day* if you're ugly in the slightest or not perky and happy-go-smiley all freaking day.

And that some of the most cruel, sadistic ones of the bunch are people you trust: family, close friends, role models, people you *thought* you were in love with.

The Positive--not a whole lot under the circumstances, but: Where there is a will, there is *always* a way. That anger and hate and despair are as temporary as any other emotion, that this too shall pass. That you can clean up ugly and dress up in nice clothes and maybe *have a shot at* cute, but stupid is a *LOT* harder to be rid of, so thank goodness you *can think* after all.

And that sometimes, once in a blue moon maybe....people *can* be trusted, admired, maybe even cherished or beloved, for a little while. Maybe it won't last, but at least there is that fleeting sense that maybe this stuff *does really exist* for people like me too, and that it isn't *all* about being some power-mad tyrant *pretending* to have warm, kind, tender feelings. Maybe.

I know....I'm such a cynical person when it comes to human nature, a "real ray of sunshine here", right? ^_^

Point is....I'm still here though. I'm still alive and talking to you guys, right? So one true, positive thing could be that....you keep fighting, so long as you breathe, you keep fighting the darkness *as if* you really *are* going to win even if your thinking, rational mind "knows better". You keep fighting and holding out hope that these "imaginary" things like love, friendship, humanity, kindness, that these things *will be* real for you at some point in your life, so long as you can hang on.

But hey, what do I know? ^_^

Answer 3

Personally, I got Epilepsy About 3 years ago & had about 5-6 Grand Mal seizures at work, home & various other places but I was also getting Petti Mals as well, which I was smelling & tasting things that were not there & Basically going into Ga-Ga Land & lose sense of self, is the best way I can describe it. Pretty freaky, when I come to & see the faces & reactions of those around me.
It is at this point in life that I realized who my "real friends" were, True friends stuck by me & the Blow ins Freaked out & blew out, never to be seen again.... Which has sadden me...

Answer 4

What I have learned, from my most traumatic Life experience, would be that Day Four years ago, when they murdered my Grandson, and they could not find the real culprits, that did it. Maybe because his Murder happened in a Foreign Country, where there is no Justice, only the powerful, reign. So, do not tell me if I am Mexican American, because I hate those words, I am an Hispanic, and leave it at that. That experience made me think Negative to that experience in our Lives.

Answer 5

That miracle can happen in anyone`s life is what I have learnt fro my most traumatic experience. All of us , sometime or the other, face unsurmountable traumatic experiences in life. All try their best to face it. But some want to succeed in their effort , some want to overcome the grief . Many , simply, want physical strength to withstand the strain. Rarely , very rarely, people long for a miracle to come to their help. As they grow up in a scientic world, faith in God and nature becomes less and less and less. For them a miracle is something not acceptable. This powerful auto suggestion could work , as it did in my case.

My argument is "nothing is lost in believing . You have everything to gain" . So why not?

Answer 6

I learned that I have the strength to do what I have to do and that this strength is greater than I thought.

I also learned that having a breakdown afterwards was not the end of my life, although it felt like it at the time. It was just the beginning of starting to live. This also taught me to know when I need to ask for help instead of trying to deal with everything myself.

Answer 7

my most traumatic life experience is when I have to uproot myself and left my family, home, friend to a country where I know nobody. The positive things is that, I learn that.
I can make new home, meet new friends, make new families with people who are very close friends. Everything I thougt I have lost in fact can be recreated. This alone is a miracle fo rme to relize. Also, difficult times only draws my closer to God, who has never failed me.

Answer 8

1) Protect your children and don't trust them to anyone.

2) There are some truly loving people participating on Y!A (not a traumatic experience but I thought I would just throw that in!)

{{bella}}}

Answer 9

That all humans are fickle... sadly... and despite our love for one another... only God Himself is constant and forever... in His love for us as individuals...

Source:

Far too many close shaves with my maker... and NDEs... to recount inside this site.

I can only assume that He doesn't want me yet... or that I've not grown enough... or that my work on earth... is still unfinished... since His miraculous intervention that has saved me... often... speaks volumes to me in my soul... and stunned all those who witnessed it.

So I witness what I've learned... God is real... He's with all of us... all the time... you as well... believers and atheists alike... you can't change or stop his presence... only deny... and you will be proven wrong...

and with Him... we all live forever!


Lifelong natural psychic medium.... with too many personal traumatic experiences to recount... a survivor through God's will... and who for some reason known only to God... sees evidence of this daily... and even never asked to!

Only a fool would have my life experience... and not learn positvely from it! And I am far from foolish! And I am blessed.

God bless everyone.

Answer 10

To protect my kids from pedophiles and all the evilness of the world as best I can and to be the best parent I can be to my kids and not follow my parents example at all.

My past...

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Apw0qQIi0i91X0JAYpPtdIkjzKIX;_ylv=3?qid=20060705083426AAfV6eA

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=At.AovEN_4EQ3kmOz4CK11EjzKIX;_ylv=3?qid=20070715095211AAwtErX


elaine3j said it all :)

(((Gazpacho)))

edit...I checked them both and they were not working for some reason so I added them again and now they seem to work just fine.

edit..Thank you K sadly this is not even 1/4 of my past traumas but with love from family and good friends like Gazpacho I am moving forward :)